Ngati mukudziwa kuti mwamuna wanu ali ndi ambuye ndipo amadabwa momwe angamulekanitse ndi iye, ndiye nkhaniyi ndi yanu.
Nchifukwa chiyani amuna akhala akunyengerera?
Mwinamwake mwamuna wanu sakanatha kukana chiyeso choyesa chinachake chatsopano. Koma, zikutheka kuti pokhala mutasungunuka mu banja, munaiwala za inu nokha ndipo mudayamba kukopa pang'ono. Kapena, mosiyana ndi zimenezo, iwo anasamukira, akulowera mu ntchito. Fufuzani khalidwe lanu, zomwe zasintha kuchokera pamene munapanga chikondi ndi mkwatulo. Ndipo yesetsani kubwereranso ku moyo wanu ndizofunikira kwa zonsezi. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwamuna wanu ndi ambuye, ndiye kuti mukuganiza kuti akukonzekera buku latsopano. Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kuchotsa ludzu la mwamuna wanu chikondi ndi chifundo. Chabwino, ndipo, ndithudi, dzizisamalire nokha. Ngati simunamvepo ngati mkazi kwa nthawi yayitali, bwanji munthu akuyenera kukuonani?
Kuwonjezera pa kusintha kwa kunja ndi mkati, yesani njira zotsatirazi:
Pemphero
Panthawi ya kukhumudwa, ngakhale osakhulupirira kale, anthu nthawi zambiri amapita kwa Mulungu. Mutha kuwerengera mapemphero anu kuti mutembenuzire mwamuna wanu kwa amayi awo , kubwerera kumbuyo kwa nyumba ya banja. Choyamba, yambani ndi "Atate Wathu", chifukwa iyi ndi imodzi mwa mapemphero apamwamba. Zimatithandiza kuvomereza tsogolo lathu. Komanso, pempherani kwa Peter ndi Fevonii (omwe amakonda abwenzi). Pemphero liyenera kukhala lotentha komanso lodzipereka, popanda chilakolako choipa ndi kubwezera.
Lapel
Mavuto a kusakhulupirika akhala akugwiritsidwa ntchito, chifukwa agogo athu agogo ankagwiritsa ntchito njira zochotsera mwamuna wake kwa mbuye wake. Yesani kuchita mwambo ndi kandulo. Chofiirira (chizindikiro cha kuzirala) n'choyenera kwambiri. Tengani makandulo awiri, uwaike iwo mosiyana wina ndi mzake. Pamwamba pa lawi la munthu wotentha tsambali ndi dzina la mwamuna wake, pamwamba pa wina lilole pepala lokhala ndi dzina la mbuyeyo liwotchedwe. Phulusa likhazikike m'mitengo ya manja anu ndi kufalikira mosiyana.
Kukambirana
Mu ubale wina ndikofunika kuti uyankhule. Kulimbana ndi zokayikira, mumadzipusitsa nokha. Mkazi amayamba kukhala wolemetsa, pamene amachokera ku chinsinsi chaching'ono (chosangalatsa) amasanduka vuto lalikulu. Inde, muyenera kukhala okonzekera kuti zochitika zake zingakhale zazikulu kwambiri kuti munthu, kuvomereza, apite kwa iye.
Ngati simunakonzekere kuti zitha kuchitika, kambiranani za ubale wanu. Khalani odziimira, musakhale otsika kwambiri. Mwamuna ayenera kumverera ulemu wanu, osati kukhumudwa kapena udindo wa wogwidwa. Zomalizazi ndizovuta kwa amuna.
Mphamvu zili pambali panu, chifukwa:
- mumayesedwa nthawi. Inde, nkotheka kuti munthu amakoka zachilendo za ambuye, komabe ubongo wathu umakonzedwa kotero kuti zonse zomwe sizidziwika zimakanidwa pa msinkhu wosadziwika. Ngati mwamunayo wadziphatika yekha, sangafune kukhala ndi chibwenzi chachikulu (ngati sakanati achite kale);
- mumayanjana ndi banja lake. Ngati izi sizinali choncho, ndipo amafunikira moyo wa banja, ndiye kuti sizingakhale zovuta ndi wokonda;
- mumadziwa kufooka kwake ndi kuledzera kwake. Ndipo ili ndi khadi lanu la lipenga.
Ngati njira zina sizikuthandizani, mumatha kusiya nthawi. Dziyeseni nokha, chifukwa ndinu woyenera kukhala osangalala ndi munthu wabwino kwambiri. Mwinamwake iye adzakumane nanu!