Ukwati ndi sitepe, mosakayikira, ndizochita, ndipo mtsikana aliyense amaponya zaukwati wokongola ndi mkwatibwi. Ndipo pamene akuganiza kuti ali ndi kukongola kotere, atsikanawo akuzunzidwa ndi funso lakuti "ndingakwatire zaka zingati?" Ndikofunika kwambiri kuchoka panyumbapo mu diresi laukwati.
Palinso milandu pamene mnyamata ndi mtsikana amakumana kwa zaka zambiri ndikufuna kukwatira, chifukwa mabanja oterewa amakhala ndi funso lakuti "Mungakwatire zaka zingati (kukwatira)?" Ndizovuta kwambiri. Kotero, ndi zaka zingati zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito ku ofesi yolembera?
Ndi zaka zingati zomwe zingakwatiwe mwalamulo?
Tiyeni tiyambe, mwinamwake, ndi Russia - zaka zingati ndi lamulo mungakwatirane mu Russia? Family Code ikukhazikitsa zaka zakubadwa (chiwerengero cha zaka zomwe munthu angakwatire) kwa zaka 18. Koma ngati pali zifukwa zomveka, akhoza kukwatira (koma osakakamizidwa) zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ngati pali zochitika zapadera zomwe zimaperekedwa ndi malamulo a Russian Federation, ukwati ukhoza kuthetsedwa usanakwanitse zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi.
Ndipo zaka zingati mu Ukraine ndingakhoze kukwatira? Mpaka posachedwapa, analoledwa kukwatira kuyambira ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri, koma Family Code ya Ukraine mu April 2012 adasintha kukonzanso zaka zakubadwa kwa akazi. Tsopano ali, monga ku Russia, ali ndi zaka 18. Koma ufulu waukwati ukhoza kupezeka ndi mtsikana (kapena mnyamata) kwa zaka 16 ndi chigamulo cha khoti kuti akwatirane akwaniritse zofuna za okwatirana omwe akufuna kukwatira. Poyamba, zaka zing'onozing'ono zaukwati zinali zaka 14. Kuukitsidwa kwa zaka zaukwati kunafotokozedwa ndi olemba a biliyi pofuna kuyesa achinyamata kuti akhale ndi maganizo okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi chikhalidwe cha banja.
Kodi nthawi yakwatira ndi liti?
Mwina ambiri amafuna kuti atsikana azikwatirana pamutu pawo, podziwa kuti kuyembekezera tsiku lachisanu ndi chitatu, popeza palibe malo apadera komanso olemekezeka. Ndipo ndithudi, amayi achikulire adzayesa kuwatsitsimutsa, akunena kuti palibe malo oti azifulumira, muli ndi nthawi yokhala ndi moyo wa banja lalikulu ndi supuni yaikulu. Mibadwo yonse ili ndi chowonadi chawo, koma mwina sikofunikira osati zaka zingati zomwe mungakwatire ndilamulo, ndipo pamene mukuyenera kuchita. Ndipotu, msinkhu suli wofunikira kwambiri, zimachitika kuti mayi wazaka 30 amakhala ndi khalidwe laling'ono, osadziŵa kwathunthu udindo umene ayenera kudzipangira yekha mwa kukwatiwa. Ndipo pali vuto pamene msungwana wazaka 16 ndi mwana wokhala ndi ana, ndipo akukumana ndi chuma, ndipo amasangalala. Chilichonse chimadalira munthuyo, aliyense wa ife ali ndi msinkhu pamene nthawi yakwatira, yosiyana.
Koma bwanji kuti mudziwe zaka zanu zokha, ngati funso "zaka zingati akazi akwatira" sichikutsitsa chophimba chachinsinsi? Ndipo ndani wakuuzani kuti muyenera kufunsa maganizo a wina? Pali tsankho pakati pa amayi "Sindinakwatire ndisanakwanitse zaka makumi atatu ndi zitatu, kotero palibe amene anali woyenera", ndiye chifukwa chake asungwanawo amathamangira ku ofesi yolembera, ndikuyesera kuti agwire zaka zovuta.
Ngati lingaliro la ena silingathe kukhala mlangizi pa nkhani yaukwati, ndiye chiyembekezo chomaliza cha madokotala. Amanena kuti zaka zabwino kwambiri zakubadwa kwa mwana woyamba ali ndi zaka 23-25. Kotero, muyenera kuyesa kuti mupite kumeneko? Ngakhale ngati ana sakufuna, ngakhale munthuyo ndi amene alipo, sakufuna kuti azisamalira wokondedwa wakeyo? Mwachiwonekere mu funso, nthawi yakwatira, ndipo mankhwala alibe mphamvu.
Nanga ndi zaka zingati zomwe tingakambirane? Banja silili chiwerengero, ndizo zokhumba, zokhumba ndi kudzipereka kwa anthu awiri omwe adasankha kukhala moyo wautali palimodzi. Ziribe kanthu kaya anthu awa ndi okalamba - 16 kapena 89.