Mutu wokhudzana ndi zokambirana za amai, vuto lomwe linali, ndilofunika kwambiri malinga ngati tilipo. Kambiranani, Nsanje Mkazi ndi anthu ake okhulupirika - nkhawa, kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa kwamantha.
Nchifukwa chiyani tili achisoni ndipo n'zotheka kuthetsa zoopsa komanso nthawi zina ngakhale nsanje yopanda pake, kuti tidziteteze tokha ndi thanzi lathu - izi tikuyenera kumvetsa.
Chikondi, kudzikonda kapena kusatetezeka?
Musathamangitse kuchotsa kumverera kowawa ndi kopweteka. Musanayambe kuchita nsanje ndi wina, muyenera kumvetsa zomwe zimayambitsa nsanje. Kumverera komweko kwa nsanje ndi zotsatira za zotsatira za zovuta zina. Tidzamenyana ndi omaliza.
Mdani ayenera kudziwika yekha, ndipo padzakhala kosavuta kudziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito "kumenyana".
- Tili ndi nsanje tikamakonda. Ndipo kodi sizili ngati zopusa za wamisala? Kodi kugwirizana pakati pa "chikondi" ndi "nsanje" kuli kuti? Kutsutsana kotereku kumawoneka apa, mwinamwake, ngati chokhumudwitsa ndipo ena akuphimba zowona zowopsya. Chikondi ndi chilakolako chofuna kusamalira munthu wina, kukhala nawo mbali mu moyo wake. Chikondi sichichita nsanje. Mungathe kukomana ndi munthu amene amamukondadi, koma ndani ali wosiyana kwambiri ndi nsanje.
- Kudzikonda komanso nsanje. Ndizosangalatsa, koma kodi pali chinthu china chofanana pakati pa mfundo izi? Nsanje ndi kukhudzidwa kwa munthu mu mawonekedwe enieni kapena ophiphiritsira a chidwi kwa munthu wina. Pamene zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti wokondedwa-wokondedwa amasonyeza chidwi kwa wina, timakhala ndi nsanje kwambiri, zimatipweteka kwambiri. Zingakhale zooneka ngati ife, mukuganiza, malingaliro adaseweredwa, koma sitikuyesera kuti tidziŵe. Pachifukwa ichi, kwa ife, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti nsanje yathu ikhale yeniyeni, yokwanira, ngati kuopseza kuyesa "katundu wathu". Kotero kunena, wanga samakhudza, osati kupereka. Kudzikonda mu mafuta owonda. Inde, tonsefe ndife odzikonda ndi chilengedwe, tonsefe timadzifunira zabwino. Komabe, mwa zina, mlingo wodzikonda umangokhala "wochepa", umene umapangitsa moyo kukhala wovuta kwambiri.
- Kusatetezeka ndi nsanje - izo zakhala zokondweretsa kale. Palibe chomwe chingathandizidwe, ngati tili ndi nsanje, ndiye kuti tikuwopa. Ndipo tikuopa, monga lamulo, losatsimikizika, komanso nthawi zambiri. Wopanda nzeru, wokongola, wabwino, ndipo mwadzidzidzi pali wina woposa ine - pamaganizo otere kusakhala ndi chitetezo chathu chomwe tiyenera kumenyana nacho chikuwonetseredwa. Dziyetseni nokha ndi kuyang'ana kunja, yesetsani kudzipereka nokha. Ngati sizodzichepetsa (panopa, kuwerenga mabuku apadera, kuphunzitsa maganizo, etc.), ndipo ngati pali zolakwa zazikulu, yambani kudziyesa nokha. Monga akunena, palibe malire ku ungwiro. Pangani nokha - maonekedwe anu ndi dziko lanu lamkati. "Lembani" nokha ndi mitundu yatsopano, yowala, yikondweretseni kwambiri, yambani. Ndiye mudzadzidalira nokha, kukondweretsa munthu wokondedwa komanso funso loti mungasiye kuchitira nsanje munthu wokondedwa wanu posachedwa ndikuwoneka ngati wopusa komanso wopanda pake. Ndani tsopano angasiye mkazi wotereyu?
Zothetsera payekha pa milandu yowonongeka
Mmene mungasiyire nsanje ngati, ngati, pali chifukwa chokha - tidzakambirana zochitika zambiri.
- Kodi mungasiye bwanji nsanje zapitazo? Chidziwitso cha maubwenzi akale ndi ofunika kwambiri. Tiyenera kulemekeza anthu, tiziyamikira zomwe adatiphunzitsa, musachite manyazi ndi zolakwa zawo. Koma ndiyenera kuchita chiyani pamene zakale sizilola kuti munthu wina timamukonda? Ngati mnzanu akulankhulana ndi bwenzi lake lakale, pamene mfundo yake siimangiriza chirichonse, khalani maso. Choyamba, mwinamwake mmodzi wa iwo (kaya chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi chake) adakali ndi chiyembekezo cha tsogolo lawo. Chachiwiri, kuti mupeze zomwe zilipo, muyenera kusiya zochitika zakale, ndipo popeza izi sizikumusiya iye, mudzakhala ndi nsanje kufikira ukalamba. Inde, ngati kuti ndekha sindinali nsanje ...
Chinthu china ndi pamene wokondedwa wanu wakwatiwa kale (kapena sanakhalepo) ndipo ali ndi chilakolako choyambirira amagwirizana ndi kulera kwake, kapena kuti, mwana wawo. Momwemonso, mudzakhala ndi zovuta. Chilichonse chidzadalira kukhala woyenera kwa mkazi wakale, pa moyo wake wokhazikitsidwa bwino, pa ubale pakati pa omwe kale anali okwatirana komanso pa ubale wanu ndi mwana wokonda. Mndandanda wa maubwenzi ndi wovuta. Ndikofunikira kumanga bwino, kuyimvetsa ndi kumvetsetsa. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, ndikofunika kuvomereza zochitikazo ndikuyanjanitsa nawo. Ngati mumakonda ndi kukukondani - kodi ndi bwino kudandaula?
- Mmene mungasiyire nsanje mnzanu. Ngati msungwana ali ndi nsanje ndi bwenzi lake, ndiye nthawi yoti avomereze kuti mnzanu yemweyo wakhala atasiya kukhala "bwenzi." Pali mwayi waukulu kuti mulibe chikondi kwa iye, koma chikondi. Mwinamwake maganizo amenewa ndi othandizira, pomwepo tiyenera kutenga "ng'ombe ndi nyanga!" Pokhapokha ndi chikhalidwe chimodzi kuti ichi sichitsitsimutso cha kudzidalira nokha ndi kudzikonda, koma kukhala ndi chikondi chenicheni ndi chenichenicho. Ndi kudzikonda kwanu, tidzikani nokha ndipo musasokoneze bwenzi lanu.
- Mmene mungasiyire nsanje za munthu wakale. Yankhani funso limodzi - kodi mumakondabebe? Ngati mukufuna, ndiye lankhulani ndi wanu wakale. Ndani akudziwa, mwinamwake inu mwalakwitsa pamene mutasweka ndipo tsopano nonse mukuvutika. Mwinamwake, onse a inu adzapitirizabe. Ngati wachikulire wanu akusangalala ndi wina, ndipo mukuzunzidwa ndi nsanje - muyenera kumusiya munthuyo. Potsiriza, tengani moyo wanu, wokwanira kuti muyang'ane mmbuyo. Chimene chinali_chimene chinali, aliyense wa inu ali ndi ufulu wodala, ngakhale ndi munthu wina.
- Mmene mungasiyire nsanje pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika. Chiwembu ndi nthawi yabwino yansanje. Koma musadzisangalale nokha ndi chinyengo chakuti mungaiwale. Khululukirani - mwinamwake, koma musaiwale. Pa chifukwa chimenechi, nsanje nthawi zonse idzakhala mnzanu wokhulupirika. Kapena malinga ngati ubale ndi amene wasintha iwe,
silidzatha. Pamapeto pake - taganizirani, mwinamwake muyenera kumaliza chimodzimodzi? Kodi munthuyu ndi woyenera kumalira, mitsempha ndi thanzi losokonezeka?
Funso la chiwembu ndi nkhani yosiyana, imene tiyenera kumvetsetsa, ndipo ndikuyembekeza, tidzapambana. Ponena za nsanje, pano mwasankha nokha - kaya muteteze, kumenyana ndi "kuchitira" izi, matenda amtundu, kapena pakona pokhapokha ngati dokotala wodwalayo akudwala matendawa.
Choncho samalani mitsempha yanu.