Munthu psyche sangathe kukhalapo kwa nthawi yayitali pamutu wa maganizo, choncho pambuyo pa kugwa kwachiwawa, nthawi yozizira ikhoza kuchitika. Nthawi iyi ingathe kuopseza mnzanu yemwe akuyamba kuganiza kuti mwamuna wataya chidwi mwa iye. Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kudziwa zizindikiro za khalidwe la munthu yemwe wagwa chifukwa cha chikondi. Mukawawerenga, mutha kukhala chete, pozindikira kuti mu ubale wanu muli nthawi yokhazikika komanso yamtendere. Koma ngati malingaliro oipa kwambiri atsimikiziridwa, musataye mtima, chifukwa moyo sukhalanso ndi kuchoka kwa munthu uyu kuchokera ku chimaliziro chanu. Ziribe kanthu kuti chifukwa chiyani munthu wagwa chifukwa cha chikondi, zizindikiro za kuzizira kwa mtima zidzakhala zofanana.
Ngati mwamuna samagwidwa ndi chikondi, amachita bwanji?
Makhalidwe a mwamuna yemwe wasiya kukonda mkazi wake, adzakhala osiyana kwambiri ndi akale, ngakhale atayesa. Popeza amayi ali ndi chidwi chodziwika bwino m'mdziko lachidziwitso, amatha kuzindikira nthawi yomweyo kusintha kwa khalidwe lawo.
Zosinthazi zikuphatikizapo:
- Kukhumudwa ndi kukonzeka . Chikondi chimakuthandizani kuti musamamvetsere zinthu zing'onozing'ono zomwe zimayamba kukwiyitsa kwambiri pamene kumveka bwino kumatha. Munthu akhoza kuyamba kuyang'ana zolephera kapena zolakwitsa za mnzanu kudzera mu galasi lokulitsa. Amayamba kukwiyitsa zinthu zomwe sankaziona kuti ndi zofunika kale kapena sankaziona kuti n'zovuta.
- Zoipa ndi zokangana. Chifukwa cha kuwonjezereka kwakukulu pakati pa maonekedwe kapena zochita za mkazi m'banja, chiwerengero cha mikangano ndi kusakhutira kumawonjezeka. Pankhaniyi, mwamunayo amalephera kusunga malingaliro a mnzawo: akhoza kuthera kusakhutira mwa njira yovuta, osakhala wokhumudwitsa ndikulira.
- Anthu amazindikira vutoli m'banja . Mwamuna samatsutsa pa zolakwikazo ndipo amatha kumasula momveka bwino malingaliro okhudza mkazi wake pamaso pa abwenzi. Kawirikawiri abwenzi ndi anthu omwe akudziwana nawo akuzindikira kusintha kwa mkhalidwewo ndipo angathe kufunsa mafunso pa zomwe zikuchitika m'banja.
- Kusasamala ndi kuzizira . Ngati mwamuna asankha kukhalabe m'banja, ngakhale akumva chisoni, amayamba kukhala wosasamala. Iye sakufunanso nkhani za m'banja, amapereka nthawi yambiri kwa abwenzi ndi zosangalatsa.
- Yatseka . Amuna ambiri amagawana ndi anzawoyo moyo wawo zomwe ali nazo pantchito. Angathe kulankhula zomwe zinachitika kuntchito, kapena kupempha uphungu. Koma mwamunayo amasiya kukhala ndi chidwi ndi maganizo a mkazi, ngati amasiya kumukonda. Iye sanafune kugawana zomwe zinali kuchitika kaya.
Ngati munthu amasintha, amachita bwanji?
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimayambitsa chisudzulo ndichotsutsa. Kuti mumvetse kuti munthu amasintha, mukhoza ndi zizindikiro zotere:
kusintha kwa khalidwe. Mwamuna akhoza kukhala wachikondi kwambiri kapena wamwano kuti asokoneze chidwi cha mkazi wake ku vuto;- akhoza kuimba mlandu mkazi wake chifukwa cha chiwembu, chifukwa amapanga khalidwe lake kwa ena;
- munthu amadandaula za kutopa , kumudziwitsa kuti sakufuna kuti azikhala limodzi kapena kugonana;
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Mmene mungakhalire ngati mwamuna atasiya kukonda?
Ngati munthu wataya chidwi ndi inu, pali njira ziwiri:
- Chokani mu moyo wake ndikuyang'ana munthu amene mungamange naye chimwemwe. Zingakhale zophweka ngati pangakhale yankho losavuta pa funso la momwe mungasiyire kukonda munthu yemwe sakumakukondani. Komabe, ngakhale mavuto omwe adzakumana nawo pankhaniyi, ndi kuvutika maganizo, njira imeneyi nthawi zina ndi yovomerezeka.
- Yesetsani kumvetsa zomwe ziri zolakwika, ndi kubwezeretsa maubwenzi otayika. Pali mabanja ambiri omwe adatha kupulumuka nthawi zovuta, ndikubwerera osangalala.