Mkazi aliyense amasangalala kuona pafupi ndi munthu wamphamvu, womvetsetsa, wachikondi, ndikutsatira zofooka zazimayi. Koma anthu omwe amamuzungulira nthawi zambiri amamudziwa mwamuna wotere ngati mkazi wokwatulidwa ndi mkazi wake.
Koma ndani amene ali ndi chikhomodzinso ndi chiani ichi chodabwitsa?
Amawaona motani? Wofatsa ndi wokonda, kukwaniritsa zovuta zilizonse za mkazi wake, osati kumukakamiza kuti akangane pa chirichonse. Mkazi amamuwona bwanji? Wokonda, wamkulu, wogwira ntchito, nthawi zonse. Ndipo kodi munthuyo amadziwa bwanji vuto lake? Mwinamwake, akumva udindo waukulu kwambiri kwa banja, pomwe akukhulupirira kuti mkazi wamamtima amamvetsetsa bwino nkhani zonse za banja ndi zapakhomo. Zimangokhala kumumvetsera. Izi ndizo zizindikiro za nkhuku zotentha.
Kodi mwamuna akuwoneka bwanji?
Kufuna kuti mkazi nthawi zina amakula kukhala wopanikiza mwamuna wake - "muyenera", "muyenera", "ndinu mwamuna". Ulamuliro wochokera kwa mkazi suwakonda amuna ambiri. Amayamba kutaya mimba yawo yamwamuna m'banja. Ngakhale, nkoyenera kuvomereza, ntchito zambiri zotero lero zimakonza. Ngati amuna oterewa samadziona kuti ndi ofunikira m'banja, ndiye kuti amadzipatula okhaokha ndikulephera kuchotsa vuto lililonse la banja. Koma nkoyenera kuti mkazi "akankhire" zambiri, akwaniritse ntchito zawo, kuti "agwe kumbuyo".
Kwa amayi ambiri izi ndizozoloŵera. Pankhaniyi, amai amafunika kugwira ntchito zonse m'banja nthawi yomweyo ndikukhala "locomotive". Ambiri a iwo ndi achinyengo, akudandaula za mwamuna wake, kufotokoza zojambula zapachikhalidwe zomwe zimapangidwa. Ndipotu, poyamba adasankha okha kukhala "oposa" mu ubale wawo.
Kodi zikutanthawuza chiyani?
Ngati mumayang'ana vutoli mozama, ndipo ngati mukuona kuti nkhaniyi ndi vuto, zimawonekeratu kuti amayi ambiri sadziwa kuthetsa vutoli. Amagwiritsa ntchito ntchito yawo "yamphamvu" ndi "chidaliro" pa ufulu wawo wa munthu, osati kuwerengera ndi maganizo ena m'banja. Koma pakati pa akazi pali makamaka amene amangolakalaka "kuwongolera zingwe" kuchokera kwa okondedwa awo ndipo amafuna kukhala ndi munthu wotchedwa henpeck pafupi naye, makamaka ngati pali zinthu zakuthupi.
Atsikana ambiri pa ukonde akufunsa funso - momwe angapangire mwamuna wochizira chifukwa cha mkazi wake? Ndipo, chofunikira kwambiri, amapatsidwa malangizo ambiri pa webusaiti ya "gurus". Amayi odziwa zambiri pa nkhaniyi amalimbikitsa atsikana oterewa poganiza kuti popanga munthu wotchuka amatha kukhala ndi "munthu wabwino" amene adzakwaniritsa zosangalatsa zawo mosangalala.
Koma musaiwale kuti "weniweni" kapena "wokongola" ndi munthu amene amatenga udindo wonse pa umoyo wabwino ndi kupambana kwa banja . Komanso, iye sangawatsogoleredwe kwathunthu ndi zokakamiza za mkazi pazinthu zofunika. Koma amafunika kuthandizidwa kwambiri ndi mkazi wake wokondedwa.