Ngati akadakali mwana wakhanda, vuto lalikulu kwa makolo ndilo kusunga thanzi lake, ndiye kuti ali mwana amakumana ndi mavuto a kulera ndi kubwezeretsedwa. M'nkhani ino, tikambirana njira zothana ndi zochitika zodziwika monga momwe khalidwe la achinyamata likuchitira.
Kunyada ndi nkhanza, nkhanza ndi yonyansa njira yolankhulana ndi anthu ena.
Kuchita zachiwerewere sikungasonyeze nthawi zonse, koma kumangotanthauza zinthu zina:
- pa mamembala;
- Mwadzidzidzi anakumana ndi alendo, makamaka ana ogwira ntchito pantchito, ana ndi akazi;
- aphunzitsi kapena anzanu akusukulu.
Zomwe zimayambitsa ubwino wachinyamata
- Chiwawa ndi malingaliro achiwiri, kuwoneka pa kusintha kwa khalidwe la akuluakulu, malamulo kapena moyo, kotero mwanayo akuwonetsa kutsutsa kwake;
- kuvutika kwa zaka - nthawiyi ikugwirizana ndi lingaliro la "kukhudzidwa kosafunikira" - kutengeka maganizo kwa mwana pamtundu wina uliwonse, thupi la mwanayo limagwiritsa ntchito izi monga chitetezo choletsa kusokoneza;
- kufufuza malire a chilolezo - chachikulu cha "neoplasm" waunyamata ndi "lingaliro la munthu wamkulu," ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito mwano ndi mwano kuti afotokoze gawo lawo, kuteteza ufulu ku lingaliro lawo;
- chitsanzo cha makolo;
- kusakayikira za kulondola kwa zochita zawo;
- kusagwirizana ndi anzanu a kusukulu kapena mavuto a maphunziro - kunyenga kumagwiritsidwa ntchito pofuna kuyang'ana mavuto awo;
- chikoka cha anthu oipa - malinga ndi mfundo yakuti "Ndine ngati wina aliyense", kuti asakhale wotayika;
- Kugonjera mu maphunziro - ana omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kukhala achipongwe komanso osamvetsera kumsinkhu wa msinkhu ndi kusukulu, pokhala achichepere - amangowonjezera khalidwe lawo;
- Kuperewera kwa ulamuliro pakati pa makolo - izi zimachitika pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana (kutaya ntchito, khalidwe lofewa, kutaya chikhalidwe, maonekedwe, zolephera za moyo, etc.).
Malangizo kwa makolo: chochita chiyani?
Zifukwa zowonongeka n'zochuluka, koma mukhoza kusintha khalidwe ili pogwiritsa ntchito malangizo awa:
- sintha khalidwe lanu (tsatirani mawu ndi njira yolankhulana m'banja);
- Chotsani njira yolankhulirana yovomerezeka, yambani kumvetsera ndi kuvomereza maganizo a mwanayo, mwachitsanzo, pangani mgwirizano;
- Khalani chete mukamenyana ndi achinyamata, musakwiyire, musasonyeze chisokonezo chanu, koma musanyalanyaze;
- kuitanitsa khalidwe lake lokha basi, popanda kusintha kwa umunthu;
- Phunzitsani mwanayo kuti asokoneze malingaliro olakwika ndikufalitsa zochitika mulimonse mtundu wina;
- kuzindikira kuti ali ndi ufulu wokhala wodziimira yekha (kumudziwitsa yekha);
- Tengani zowononga kuti iye amalumbira mwakamodzi, mpaka icho chikhala chizolowezi, mwachitsanzo: kulanga chilango kapena zakuthupi zakuthupi;
- fotokozani kwa iye pamene mungathe kugwiritsa ntchito matemberero;
- pa msinkhu uliwonse musalole kudzilemekeza nokha, kusonyeza kuti muyenera kulemekezedwa kapena simudzamulemekeza;
- kumvetsetsa ndi mavuto ake, kumuthandiza kuthetsa kuthetsa, nthawi zambiri kusonyeza kuti umamukonda;
- Musati mufunse zosatheka, ngati azindikira kuti sangakwanitse kukwaniritsa zofuna zanu, adzatetezedwa ndi mwano ndi mwano;
- mu banja apo payenera kukhalapo malamulo ena a khalidwe kwa onse, osati kwa iye yekha, ngati kupatula kumapangidwira wina, tifunika kukambirana mwamsanga;
- ngakhale pambuyo pa mkangano, muwonetseni mwana wanu kuti mumamukonda, komabe inu mudzaimba mlandu pazochita zoterozo.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri pophunzitsa achinyamata ndi kukhala okhudzidwa ndi moyo wake nthawi zonse kuti asaphonye kusintha kwakukulu ndikulola kugwirizana kwanu ndi mwanayo kusapse. Ndiye iye sadzakhala wamwano kwa inu kapena wina aliyense.