Tsiku laukwati ndilo tsiku loyembekezeredwa kwambiri kwa atsikana ambiri. Kukonzekera konse, kuyembekezera, kusinthanitsa mphete ndi tsiku lokwatirana laukwati limangokhala ndi chidwi chokhudzidwa ndi akwatibwi am'tsogolo. Pamene zikalata ndi pasipoti zatsopano zilandidwa pambuyo pa ukwati, ndiye mkazi ayamba kuzindikira pang'onopang'ono kuti kusintha kwakukulu kwabwera pamoyo wake. Pamodzi ndi izi kawirikawiri kumabwera funso lakuti: "Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani pambuyo paukwati?". Ambiri akwatibwi amakondwera ndi momwe moyo umasinthira usanafike ndi pambuyo pa ukwatiwo.
Mwatsoka, nthawi zambiri, mwezi umodzi pambuyo pa ukwatiwo, zovuta zoyamba zimabwera. Pambuyo pa chisangalalo ndi usiku woyamba pambuyo paukwati, ndi nthawi yokhazikika. Akazi ambiri, omwe mwamuna wawo wamtsogolo adagwirizanitsidwa ndi chifaniziro cha kalonga wokongola ndi ungwiro, sakuwona mosavuta kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo wawo.
Monga lamulo, mwezi ukatha ukwatiwo, moyo wa okonda ukusintha - makhalidwe obisika kale a khalidwe, zizoloŵezi, ndi zokondweretsa zimayambira. Zonsezi sizingakhale zogwirizana ndi lingaliro lachikazi la moyo wa banja. Mwamuna akatha ukwati angasinthe kwambiri pamaso pa mkazi - amasiya kukondweretsa, koma amakhala pafupi, wokhoza kugawira zokondweretsa, komanso matenda. Panthawiyi pakubweretsa kusintha - mphindi yakudziwitsidwa kwa odzazana awiriwa, kukhala ndi udindo komanso kukhazikika. Kusintha kumeneku kungakulepheretseni kukondana wina ndi mzake. Pofuna kusunga chikondi pambuyo paukwatiwo ndikupangitsa kuti ukhale wolimba komanso wolemekezeka, nkofunika kugwira ntchito, ndikugwirira ntchito kwa onse awiri. Osowa mtendere ayenera kuphunzira kumvetsetsana, kusamala, kumvetsetsa ndi kumvetsera. Ndipotu, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuposa mawu. Kukhazikitsa moyo wamba kungakhale kovuta, koma pokhapokha mutatha kudutsa muzigawo zonse za ubale ukatha ukwati, mgwirizano wa banja umakhala wolimba.
Malamulo Achikhalidwe a Moyo wa Banja
Pali lamulo limodzi losavuta - patatha nthawi yosiyana, banja lirilonse, ngakhale chikondi mwachikondi, kuchokera ku mgwirizano wapamtima umakhala wochulukitsanso kwambiri. Okwatirana kumene sayenera kuchita mantha, ndikofunikira kuvomereza ndi kuyamikira gawo lililonse la chiyanjano, zirizonse zomwe ziri. Ntchito yaikulu ya amayi onse ndi kubweretsa kutentha ndi chitonthozo kwa banja ndikupereka chidwi kwa mwamuna wake. Mwachibadwa, sitiyenera kudziiwala tokha.
Folk nzeru akuti - simungathe kukhumudwa popanda chidwi. Ngati mkazi amapeza mchimwene wake watsopano zolakwika pambuyo paukwati, zikutanthauza kuti adalenga fano ndipo sanavomereze zenizeni monga momwe aliri. Wosankhidwa bwino kwambiri, zomwe zimakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri m'moyo mutatha ukwatiwo. Mmenemo, ngakhale mkazi wake kapena mwamuna wake ndi zophweka. Mkaziyo akusiya kuona ulemu wa mwamuna wake ndipo amayamba kumunyoza ndi mkwiyo ndi chitonzo. Mwamunayo, sangathe kumvetsa chifukwa chake ubale unasintha pambuyo paukwati? Makonzedwe oterewa nthawi zambiri amakhala ofooka kwambiri ndipo amatha
Pamene tipereka zambiri, timapeza zambiri. Malamulo otchukawa amagwiritsidwa ntchito pa moyo wa banja. Mwa kuleza mtima ndi kumvetsetsa, mkazi aliyense akhoza kuwerengera izo kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake. Koma mkwiyo, kupsa mtima kapena mkwiyo zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zofanana mu gawo lathu lachiwiri. Ngati mutenga mwamuna wanu monga momwe alili ndikumupatsa chikondi, ngakhale zolakwa zake zonse, mkazi amapanga malingaliro amodzi mwa moyo wa mwamuna wake.
Sungani chikondi pambuyo paukwati wa anthu awiri achikondi moona mtima ndi chophweka, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala woleza mtima ndi kudalira, chikondi, kuyamikira ndi kulemekezana wina ndi mzake.