Pa kusakhulupirika amanena zambiri komanso kawirikawiri, izi ndi zina mwazimene amai ndi abambo ali nazo chidwi. Si chinsinsi chakuti chigololo ndi chachilendo kuposa mkazi. Zili mwa njira zonse zolungamitsidwa chifukwa chakuti anthu ali mwachilengedwe mitala, kuti chiwembu chawo sichigwirizana ndi malingaliro. Koma ngati mkazi amapita kumbali, ndiye kuti ubalewo unapangitsa kuti ukhale wosweka, ndipo ndizosatheka kuwasunga.
Ziwerengero za akazi ndi amuna amasintha
Pali deta yomwe imati pafupifupi pafupifupi banja lililonse lachitatu, mmodzi mwa okwatirana ali ndi zibwenzi zosiyana. Pa nthawi yomweyi, amayi omwe ali ndi zizindikirozi samangoyendayenda kumbuyo kwa amuna, ndipo chaka chilichonse chiŵerengero chawo chimawonjezeka, pamene chiwerengero cha amuna omwe amachitira nawo zinthuzo sichitha.
Kusakhulupirika kwa amayi, monga momwe anthu amasonyezera, kumasiyana ndi amuna kuti 50 peresenti amachititsa kuti azigonana mokwanira ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, ndipo amuna 5% okha amapita kwa mbuye wa mnzake wokhazikika. Tiyeni tione zifukwa za kusiyana kwakukulu mu zizindikiro.
Psychology ya chigololo chachikazi
Pali lingaliro lakuti palibe kusakhulupirika kwa amayi, chifukwa ndi zovuta kwambiri kuti kugonana kwabwino kugwirizane ndi ubale wapamtima popanda kukhudzidwa, akuganizira kwambiri za ubale wawo wosatha ndi moyo wawo. Kuyambira ali mwana adayika ntchito yosunga banja, lomwe silingakwanitse kuwulula banja lawo. Tsopano mfundo iyi ikukhala yosatha. Oyang'anira panyumba tsopano ndi anthu omwe amadzikonda okha omwe amamvetsera zokhumba zawo ndipo amawatsatira.
Koma kugulitsidwa kwa amuna ndi akazi kumakhalabe kosiyana kwambiri ndi zifukwa zawo komanso maganizo awo kwa iwo. Kwa mkazi, kusakwatirana kwenikweni ndi kusakhulupirika, pamene amuna amachitira zosangalatsa zawo molakwika, koma ndi ochepa amene angakhululukire kupandukira mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo.
Kwa munthu, chifukwa cha chigamulochi chingakhale chikhumbo chabe, ndipo sizidzatanthauza kuti sakonda mkazi wake. Zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhulupirika kwa amayi ndizosiyana kwambiri ndipo zimabweretsa mavuto ambiri mu ubale wawo. Tiyeni tiwone,
- zomwe zikhoza kukakamiza kugonana kwabwino kuti apeze ubale watsopano:
- kusowa chidwi pa gawo la mkazi;
- Kusakhutira ndi mnzanuyo (tikukamba za moyo wapamtima wa anthu awiriwa, komanso za momwe zinthu zilili, kukhalapo kwa zofunikanso, etc.);
- kudzikayikira, lingaliro la kusakondweretsa amuna;
- kudzikuza ndi chikhumbo chothawa chizoloŵezi;
- Kubwezera kwa wokondedwa wanu, etc.
Zizindikiro za kusakhulupirika kwa akazi
Amuna samalipira kwambiri zinthu zazing'ono, monga akazi. Choncho, amayi nthawi zina saona kuti ndi kofunika kuti abisale chibwenzi chawo. Kodi mungadziwe bwanji chigololo chachikazi?
Chinthu choyamba chimene chingakuzindikire ndi kusintha kwa maonekedwe. Ngati mtsikanayo sanayambe kudziyang'anitsitsa yekha, ndipo tsopano sakusunga ndalama kuti apeze manicure, pedicure, m'mawa uliwonse amachititsa zojambulazo, mwadzidzidzi amasokoneza ndipo samayesa kukopa mwamuna wake, kotero iye sanamuchitire iye.
Yachiŵiri ndizozoloŵezi zatsopano. Ngati mnzanu mwadzidzidzi anayamba ndikumangopita kukachita masewera olimbitsa thupi, mwadzidzidzi anayamba kukhudzidwa ndi nyimbo zamagetsi kapena nthawi yoyamba kusewera masewera ake pa intaneti, ngakhale kuti palibe yemwe akusewera pakhomo, zikutanthauza kuti wina ali pafupi naye yemwe amachititsa chidwi chake.
Njira ina, momwe mungadziwire mkazi wachigololo - zinthu zatsopano. Maluwa omwe alibe chifukwa chapadera, zinthu zatsopano, ngakhale kuwonjezeka kwa malipiro sanali mawu, zodzoladzola zatsopano, zonunkhira ndi zovala - chizindikiro chotsimikizika.
Ndipo kodi ndi bwino kulankhula ndi maitanidwe okayikira, mauthenga ndifupipafupi komanso otha msinkhu kukumana ndi anzanu?
Mulimonsemo, kusintha kwa ubale kumakhala koonekeratu, ndipo mwina, kosasinthika. Kwa abwenzi, mayeserowa akhoza kukhala nthawi yosinkhasinkha ndi kugwirira ntchito pa ubale wanu kapena chifukwa choti mutengepo mwamsanga ndikumasulidwa.