Amayi ambiri amapita mu ubale ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa, ndi funso la momwe angachokere mopweteka ndipo pomalizira pake, posachedwa amadza mwa okondedwa ambiri omwe azindikira kuperewera kwa ubalewu . Kusiyana kulikonse kumakhala kovuta, ndipo uphungu wa akatswiri a maganizo ndi akazi omwe atha kale kudutsa momwemo angathandizire kulekana ndi ulemu.
Mmene mungayanjane ndi mwamuna wokwatira amene mumamukonda?
Amayi ambiri amakonda udindo wa mbuye wa mwamuna wokhala ndi nthawi yaitali, komabe kumvetsetsa komaliza kumabwera kuti wokondedwa nthawi zonse amathera nthawi ya tchuthi pamodzi ndi banja lake, kuti sakusowa mwana kulankhulana kumbali, pali lingaliro logawanitsa.
Vuto lalikulu kwa amayi ndiloti amadziwika muubwenzi kwambiri ndipo amakakamizidwa "kuchotsa" wokondedwa awo pafupi "ndi magazi." Pachifukwa ichi, kusiyana kotere kwa wokonda okwatirana kumaphatikizapo gawo lokonzekera. Choyamba, mkazi ayenera kuzindikira kuti akusowa moyo wabwino. Kawirikawiri, munthu yekhayo amasangalala ndi mgwirizano pa gawo lonselo, ndipo mkaziyo ayenera kuyembekezera ndi kuyembekezera gawoli, kotero asanalowemo ayenera kukhala ndi zovuta, mtima wake ndi malingaliro ake.
Chimene chingachitidwe kuti achepetse chiyanjano kwa mwamuna:
- Osakhala pakhomo - kukakumana ndi abwenzi ambiri, kupita kumaseĊµera, mafilimu, museums;
- kuti mupeze nyama yokondwa - mwana wamphongo kapena mwana;
- Lembani moyo wanu ndi maganizo abwino - kuyenda, kudumpha ndi parachute, pitirizani kuyenda;
- Dzikondeni nokha ndipo phunzirani kusangalala ndi mphindi iliyonse ya moyo - dzuwa lokoma, tiyi onunkhira, mbalame zoyimba, ndi zina zotero.
Momwe mungagawire ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi zomwe munganene?
Chinthu chotsatira ndicho kuthetsa kugonana. Ngati kukonzekera koyambirira kukuchitika molondola, malingaliro atsopano ayenera kuyambitsa kupatukana ndi wokonda, ndipo, kuphatikizapo, amuna ena, atasiya kukhala ngati pakati pa chilengedwe chonse, amachititsa kupatukana kwa nsanje ndi mkwiyo.
Kuyankhulana ndi yemwe kale ankakonda sikuyenera kuyamba ndi zonena - musadzipangitse kukhala mdani. Choyamba, mutha kuyamika munthu pamphindi wokondweretsa, koma muyenera kufotokoza momveka bwino kuti zonse zatha. Ngati munthu akusowa chifukwa, chinthu chachikulu - chikhumbo chokhala ndi banja lonse ndi ana.
Atapatukana ndi wokondedwa, munthu sayenera kukwiya ndi kukonza "kugonana kwaokha" kapena "kukumbukira chikumbutso". Ndi bwino kuthetsa mgwirizano kwathunthu, kupatula moni mwaulemu pamsonkhano. Mayi ayenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse - iye ali yekha, ali woyenera ulemu komanso kugonana popanda mabodza.