Vuto la mgwirizano pakati pa abambo ndi ana, kukhala achinyamata enieni ndi makolo awo, amayamba pafupifupi m'badwo uliwonse ndipo akuyimira kusagwirizana kosatha. Komabe, panopo, kuposa kale lonse, khalidwe la achinyamata ambiri limangowononga makolo, komanso limapangitsa kuti anthu asakhale ndi mavuto. Izi zimachokera ku chikhalidwe cha m'badwo wamakono kuti chikhale chosayenera. Chifukwa chiyani achigawenga achimuna ndi achigololo amakulira m'banja labwino komanso lolemera? Tiyesa kuyankha funso ili.
Zifukwa za khalidwe losayera
Malingana ndi maganizo a zaka zapitazi, mpaka zaka khumi ndi ziwiri, mwana aliyense ndi munthu wakukula wokhala ndi ubwana komanso wopanda chidwi. Koma patatha chaka chimodzi mwana yemweyo nthawi zina amavutika kuzindikira. Mosasamala kanthu kuti msungwana ali mnyamata kapena mnyamata, makolo amayamba kumva mwachibwana ndi kunyozedwa ku adiresi yawo, tawonani momwe mwana wawo wasinthira maonekedwe, kuyambira pa ziphuphu zachinyamata ndipo amatha ndi zovala zosayenera. Umu ndi momwe kuyamba kwa nthawi ya kutha msinkhu kapena monga yotchedwa - nyengo ya kusintha - ikuwonetseredwa. Ngakhale ana omvera kwambiri panthawi ina akhoza kusasintha. Panthawi imeneyi, akatswiri a maganizo a anthu amatha kuzindikira kubadwa kwa khalidwe lachilendo kwa ana ndi achinyamata, ndiko kuti, njira yosavomerezeka yoti anthu azitha kuchita zinthu motsutsana ndi makhalidwe, makhalidwe abwino komanso chikhomodzinso.
Zomwe zimayambitsa khalidwe losayera muzovuta zonse "," monga zovuta, "ndizofanana:
- Kuwunika kwa kukula kwa thupi. Achinyamata olimba mtima ndi olimba mtima safunikira kuti ayese kupeza chikhulupiriro cha ena. Ofooka, otsika ndi otsika anyamata, mosiyana, nthawi zonse amayenera kutsimikizira kuti ndi ofunika kwa ena, ndipo amayesera kupambana nthawi zina chifukwa cha zochita zokayikitsa kwambiri.
- Kukula msanga kumaphatikizapo kuwonjezeka kwa mahomoni omwe amachititsa kuti ukwiyire, kukwiya, kusamvera, ndi zina zotero.
- Kusagwirizana pa msinkhu ndi msinkhu wa kukula kwa umunthu. Kawirikawiri, vuto la khalidwe loipa ndilo lingaliro la kukhala wamkulu komanso kulola kuti achinyamata asamvetsetse zolinga zake ndi zomwe akunena kuchokera kwa akuluakulu.
Ana amadana kwambiri ndi kutsutsa akuluakulu. Makhalidwe awo amakhala osasunthika nthawi zonse ndipo amatha kusintha kuchokera ku chizoloŵezi choipa mpaka kudziko lachikhalidwe.
Kuwonjezera pa zapamwambazi, mungapeze zizindikiro zotere zachinyengo monga achinyamata , nzeru zapamwamba, malingaliro olakwika pankhani za kuphunzira, kusamvana kwapabanja, kuthawa kunyumba, kusayeruzika kwazing'ono potsutsana ndi chilango ndi malamulo a boma, komanso milandu yovuta kwambiri chilango chophwanya malamulo.
F. Pataki anaikapo mndandanda wa zifukwa zazikulu za khalidwe loipa la achinyamata:
- mlandu;
- kusuta mankhwala;
- chidakwa;
- kudzipha.
Mwazinthu zina, lero mungathe kukumana ndi khalidwe lopanda khalidwe la ana:
- chodetsa;
- kleptomania;
- masewera a pakompyuta ndi makompyuta achinyamata ;
- Kudalira chakudya (bulimia, anorexia);
- Kusiyanitsa kugonana (pedophilia, zoophilia, necrophilia).
Kawirikawiri, kutha kwa kutha msinkhu, mavuto a zaka zapita, ndipo khalidwe la achinyamata likuyimira. Ngati izi sizichitika kapena mwanayo amachititsa kuti makolo azida nkhaŵa, pakadali pano nkofunika kuti azitha kuchipatala.
Kupewa khalidwe loipa la achinyamata
Podziwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe khalidwe la mwanayo limayambira kumbali, mukhoza kuwaletsa pasadakhale. Komabe, makolo ayenera kukumbukira kuti kupeŵa khalidwe losafunika kwenikweni kumadalira m'banja komanso kuyankhulana kwabwino ndi mwanayo. Ndikumenyana kwapabanja komwe kumabweretsa zotsatira zosalephereka. Ngati nthawi idawonongeke, kukonzekera khalidwe losayenerera n'kotheka m'njira zingapo:
- Kumudziwitsa mwanayo ndikuwonjezeranso kuwerenga kwake pokhudzana ndi mavuto omwe amakumana nawo. Deta ya sayansi, zochitika za anthu ena, ndi zina zotero zingathandize pano.
- Chithunzi cha maphunziro. Njira yosavuta komanso yowonjezera yopezera chinenero chimodzi ndi mwanayo ndikulankhulana naye m'chinenero cha mafanizo.
Ndikofunika kumuuza kuti mwakumana ndi mavuto ofanana ndi iye. Izi sizidzangokhalira kukhala ndi chidaliro, komanso zidzasintha bwino - Maphunziro m'zigawo zosiyana. Mutapatsa mwanayo masewera kapena gulu lopanga, mukhoza kutsogolera zofuna zake ndi mphamvu zake.
- Ngati njira zodzifunira zokhala ndi chinenero chimodzi ndi mwana wovuta sizingatheke, muyenera kutembenukira ku chithandizo cha katswiri wa zamaganizo. Kufunsira kwapadera kumathandiza mwanayo kumvetsetsa yekha ndikukhazikitsa mikangano yapabanja.