Kodi tingayembekezere kuchokera ku chiyanjano ngati anthu awiri amphamvu ali pafupi, ndi ndani atsogoleri enieni ndipo sakugwiritsidwa ntchito kuvomereza aliyense? Kodi mkazi ndi Leo ndi Leo kapena chiyanjano chikugwirizana ndi chiyambi?
Mkango wamphamvu ndi wolimbitsa thupi angathe kugonjetsa munthu aliyense ndikumupanga kukhala "mtumiki" wake kwa moyo wake wonse. Izi zimagwira ntchito kwa anthu onse ogonana kwambiri, koma osati Leo, yemwe mwiniwake akhoza "kugwada" aliyense. Choncho, ubale wa awiriwa udzakhazikitsidwa pa mpikisano, ngakhale muzinthu zing'onozing'ono. Mwamuna wa Mkango akugonjetsa mkazi ndi chikondi chake, popeza khalidwe limeneli ndilopadera.
Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti mkango wawiri ukuwoneka wokongola kwambiri, popeza chikondi chonse chimasamalidwa ndipo chimagwiritsidwa ntchito kusewera maudindo akuluakulu pa masewero alionse. Kuwonjezera pa kukangana nthawi zonse muzochitika zotere, chikondi chimakhalapo. Mafumu amphamvu a zinyama, pokhala okha, ndi wina ndi mzake, angasanduke makati wamba. Ukwati pakati pa mkazi Leo ndi mwamuna wina pambuyo pa zaka zakhala zaka zonse, ngati nthawi yoyamba ya msonkhano, ngati atatha kusunga ubalewo ndipo sanathawe. Pachifukwa ichi, abwenzi ayenera kuphunzira kupatsana wina ndi mzake, koma wina angaganize kuti mkazi wamphongo wachimwemwe ali ndi chikhomo kapena mu khola. Inde, akhoza kugwada ndi kuchita zomwe wokondedwa wake akufunsa, koma sangapeze chimwemwe ndi zinazake.
Njira yokhayo yopezera mgwirizano mu ubale ndi kukhalapo kwa ulemu ndi kumvetsetsa. Ndifunikanso kupereka ufulu wofunikira kwambiri. Zimalimbikitsidwa kuti abwenzi amatsogolere mzimu wa mpikisano m'njira yoyenera, ndipo phunzirani kukonda ndi momwe amadzilirira.
Amuna amtundu wanji ngati mikango?
Pafupi ndi iwo amuna oterewa ndi okonzeka kuwona oimira okhawo oyenerera a kugonana kofooka. Ayenera kukhala okhwima mwauzimu, kukhala ndi chilakolako chakunja ndi kuyang'ana. Iye samakhudzidwa konse ndi akazi omwe alemedwa ndi zosamalira zapakhomo ndi zopanda pake. Mkazi woyenera wa mwamuna wamphongo ndi amene amamulemekeza, koma anthu onse oyandikana naye, chifukwa ndi mfumu ya zinyama ndipo pakhomo pali mfumukazi pafupi naye. Ndikofunika kuti mnzako asamangopitilira mwamuna wa Leo, mwinamwake chiyanjano chidzatha msanga.
Tiyeni tifotokoze, kodi mwamuna wina amakonda akazi otani? Tiyeni tiyesere kuyankha chiganizo chimodzi - zokongola, zosamalidwa bwino, zosaoneka bwino, zopanda ubongo.
Ndi mkazi uti yemwe akusowa mwamuna Leo?
Amuna amenewa amafunika kukondedwa, kuthandizidwa muzochita zonse ndikuwasamalira, pokhapokha atha kukhala okondwa, komanso okhoza zambiri. Mikango ikufuna kupeza mkazi amene angamvere mphamvu zake.
Ndi mwamuna uti amene amayenera mkazi Leo?
Amuna amphongo amafunika amuna omwe amamuwonetsa chikondi chawo nthawi zonse ndi kunena kuti ndi wokongola kwambiri komanso wapadera. Azimayi amakhulupirira zinthu ndipo nthawi zambiri amabwera ku "rakes". Akazi oterewa amafuna kuwona pafupi ndi munthu wotetezedwa yemwe adzatha kulipira zonse zomwe amawononga komanso ndalama zake.
Wokondedwayo ayenera kukhala ndi ulemu, monga mfumu yeniyeniyo
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mwamuna yemwe ali pafupi ndi mkazi Leo, akhale wogwirizana ndi iye ndi:
- anali interlocutor wabwino ndipo ankathandizira mutu uliwonse pokambirana;
- khalani okoma bwino ndi kavalidwe kakang'ono;
- muyenera kukhulupirira, mwanjira iliyonse kuti musakhale wansanje ndi kusayendetsa;
- kuti akhalebe wokhulupirika;
- ayenera kumusangalatsa, kuti Mkango usavutike.