Makolo a mwamuna

Pafupi aliyense woimira chiyanjano chabwino, atabvala mphete yothandizana naye pamimba pake, amakakamizika kulankhula ndi mwamuna watsopano, komanso ndi achibale ake onse. Ndithudi, anthu ofunika kwambiri pa moyo wa mwamuna ndi makolo ake. Ndipo kutentha kwa ubale pakati pa achibale atsopanowo, kulimbikitsa banja lomwelo.

Kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi apongozi ake ndi apongozi ake ndi nkhani yofunikira kwa mkazi watsopanoyo. Osati aliyense wochita zachiwerewere ndi wokonzeka kunena kuti iye ndi apongozi ake ndi abwenzi abwino. Izi ndizosowa kwambiri. Koma mkazi aliyense ayenera kuphunzira momwe angakhalire ochezeka ndi ochezeka ndi makolo a mwamuna wake. M'nkhani ino tidzakuuzani momwe mungagwirizane ndi apongozi anu ndi kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino ndi iye.

Zinsinsi za ubale wabwino pakati pa apongozi apongozi ndi apongozi anu:

1. Banja laling'ono liyenera kukhala losiyana ndi makolo a mwamuna. Ili ndilo lamulo lofunikira kwambiri limene mikangano yambiri ikukhudzana. Pokhala pansi pa denga limodzi ndikukhala ndi khitchini, apongozi ake (kapena apongozi awo) ndi mpongozi wake posachedwa amapeza zifukwa zambiri za mavuto ndi mikangano. Ndipo, nthawi zambiri ubale wa mwamuna wake ndi apongozi ake amamangidwa mwanjira yoti mwamunayo asakwere mumakangano awa ndipo samateteza mkazi wake. Ichi ndi chifukwa cha kusagwirizana pakati pa okwatirana, omwe, nawonso, samatsogolera ku zabwino zilizonse. Choncho, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti asakhale ndi makolo a mwamuna wake. Ngati simukufuna kumvera malangizo ndi malamu apongozi anu, yesetsani kuti musagwiritse ntchito banja lanu ndi ana. Kuyika pa mapewa a apongozi awo aakazi kapena china chilichonse, inu, mulimonsemo, mumamvetsera maganizo ake nthawi zonse. Ngakhale mutaganiza mosiyana, nkokayikitsa kuti mudzatha kutsimikizira apongozi anu. Mkhalidwe umenewu, mikangano imakhala ikuchitika ndi apongozi apamwamba kwambiri.
2. Limbikitsani makolo a mwamuna wanu pa maholide onse . Ngati ndi kovuta kukumbukira, yambani kujambula pa ndondomeko yanu ya tsiku ndi tsiku, yomwe idzafotokoze mwatsatanetsatane mukatchula achibale anu.
3. Musachepetse kulankhulana pakati pa apongozi awo ndi mwanayo. Ana, monga lamulo, amafunika kulankhulana ndi agogo awo, ndipo sakufuna kwenikweni kufufuza momwe amakangana ndi mikangano pakati pa akuluakulu. Nthawi zonse mukachezera makolo a mwamuna ndi ana, mumapereka ubale wabwino ndi iwo.
4. Yesetsani kuonetsetsa kuti makolo anu ndi makolo anu amapeza chinenero chimodzi. Makolo a mwamuna ndi mkazi akakhala ndi mgwirizano, pali zifukwa zambiri zokhudzana ndi phwando la banja, zomwe zimathandizira mgwirizano wa banja.

N'zomvetsa chisoni, koma pazifukwa 90%, mabanja awo omwe amakakamizika kukhala ndi makolo awo amatha kupewa mikangano. Miyezi ingapo pambuyo paukwatiwo akazi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti apongozi awo amadana ndi mpongozi wake ndipo amamupeza mlandu. Kotero kapena ayi, n'zovuta kufotokoza. Koma mulimonsemo, mpongozi wake ayenera kusintha maganizo awo kwa apongozi awo ndi kutero kuti apange zovuta zambiri.

Popeza kuti kukhala ndi apongozi ako kungakhale kovuta, poyamba muyenera kuganizira njira zomwe mungachoke mwamsanga. Izi siziyenera kukhala zochititsa manyazi kulankhula ndi mwamuna wake, ndiye vuto lidzathetsedwa mwamsanga. Zimakhalapo kuti ubale pakati pa achibale ukukwiya kwambiri moti mpongozi wake akudandaula kwa abwenzi ake kuti apongozi ake amuchotsa. Mwachibadwa, musalole izi, chifukwa chiyanjano, chomwe poyamba chinasokonezedwa, nthawi zambiri sichibwezeretsedwa. Choncho, ndi bwino kutsatira nzeru zachikhalidwe komanso kukonda achibale patali.