Anthu onse amawona kupatukana mosiyana, ndipo zimadalira zinthu zosiyanasiyana, mwachitsanzo, momwe zimakhalira zolimba, chifukwa cha kusiyana kwapadera, ndi zina zotero. Malangizo a katswiri wa zamaganizo, momwe angapulumutsidwe ndi kupatukana, adzakuthandizira kulimbana mofulumira ndi zochitika zomwe zilipo ndikuyamba moyo kuyambira pachiyambi.
Kodi mungapulumuke bwanji mukapatukana ndi okondedwa anu?
Chiwerengero chachikulu cha anthu atatha kugawidwa kumamva kugwa kwina kwa moyo. Iwo amaganiza kuti iwo sadzatha kukondanso kachiwiri ndi kuti palibe china chokondweretsedwa nacho, koma izi si choncho. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti masitepe ochepa chabe angasinthe kwambiri kuti zinthu zikhale bwino.
Mmene mungapulumuke kupsinjika maganizo mutatha kupatukana:
- Choyamba muyenera kutaya mtima wonse. Lirani, kufuula, kawirikawiri, chitani zonse kuti mutaya zonse zomwe zasonkhanitsidwa.
- Ikani mfundo, ndiko kuti, kuzindikira kuti ili ndi mapeto ndipo palibe kenanso kubwerera. Chigamulo chokha choti tilankhule kwa zakale chidzatiloleza kuti tifike patsogolo mtsogolo.
- Pewani kukwiya, ndipo musakhululukire osati wokondedwa wanu wakale, koma nokha, chifukwa ziribe kanthu momwe angakhalire ozizira, onse awiri ali ndi mlandu wopatukana.
- Musati mudzipatse mwayi wokhala "wosakhazikika", kotero musakhale okha ndi maganizo anu. Kambiranani ndi abwenzi, kupeza zosangalatsa, kugwira ntchito mwakhama, kutsogolera ntchito yogwira ntchito. Chifukwa cha izi zingatheke kumvetsa kuti pali zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa komanso zofunika pamoyo.
- Akatswiri ambiri amaganizo, pokambirana za momwe angapulumuke ndi mwamuna, akulangizidwa kuti asinthe, ndipo izi zikugwiritsidwa ntchito mkati mwa kudzazidwa ndi mkati. Pachiyambi choyamba, ndi bwino kuti muwone bwinobwino mgwirizano ndikupeza zofunikira zofunika kuti musabwereze zolakwa zanu panonso. Ponena za kusintha kwa kunja, akatswiri amalimbikitsa ntchito pa fano. Mwina mukufunikira
kutaya mapaundi pang'ono, kupukuta tsitsi, kupanga, ndikusintha zovala. Chithunzi chatsopano chidzakhala ngati kukankhira moyo watsopano. - Pezani nokha gawo latsopano la ntchito, likhoza kukhala lochita kujambula , chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti ntchitoyo iyenera kubweretsa chisangalalo ndikukulolani kuti mupumule.
Anthu ambiri amasangalala ndi nthawi yotani kuti apulumuke, koma sikungatheke kupeza yankho la funso ili, chifukwa chirichonse chiri chokha. Ngati mutatsata malangizowo onse ndipo musayang'ane mmbuyo, gulu lakuda m'moyo wanu lidzatha mofulumira komanso losapweteka kwambiri.