Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti maloto a chilakolako chofuna kugonana ndi chisonyezero cha chilakolako chamkati chakufuna chidwi kuchokera kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Olemba mabuku ambiri a maloto amalingalira mosiyana. Kuti muwamasulire m'pofunika kuyesa kukumbukira zambiri zomwe zingatheke.
Nchifukwa chiyani ndikulolera kukonda?
Ngati munayenera kupanga chikondi pamalo ammudzi - ndizowonongeka za kuvulala ndi mavuto. Kwa anthu omwe ali pa chibwenzi malotowa akulonjeza kuti adzagawana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Kuti mukhale ndi chikondi ndi mwamuna kapena mnyamata mutha kuyembekezera mavuto mu chiyanjano, chomwe chingabweretse kugawa. Maloto omwe chikondi chimagwirizana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzawo, chiwonetsero chakuti wolota nthawi zambiri amanyengerera zonse m'moyo wake. Kugonana mu mdima wadzaoneni ndi chiwonetsero cha chibwenzi m'moyo weniweni ndi kulandira zambiri zofunika. Kupanga chikondi ndi mlendo ndi chizindikiro cha kusakhutira mu moyo wapamtima weniweni. Maloto ofuna kugonana ndi munthu amene kale anali wokondedwa kapena mwamuna amasonyeza kukhalapo kwachisoni kapena ndizochitika za msonkhano wosayembekezereka. Poona mmene anthu ena amachitira chikondi, ndiye kuti wolota amadzichepetsa.
Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikulolera kukondana ndi wachibale?
Maloto amenewa ndi omwe amachititsa anthu kupeza mwayi wokopa komanso kutsegula chiyembekezo. Pali lingaliro lakuti kupanga chikondi ndi wachibale ndi chiwonetsero cha ukwati mwa kuwerengera. Kugonana ndi mbale kapena abambo ndi chizindikiro cha kukhala ndi mtima wokondana kapena achibalewa nthawi zambiri amatisokoneza m'moyo weniweni.
Kodi malotowo ali ndi maloto otani a chikondi?
Zokhudza kusintha kwabwino kwa moyo wake zidzakwaniritsidwa ndi maloto okhudza kupsompsona, zitseko komanso za kasupe. Ansembe a chikondi ndi zinyama, mwachitsanzo, mkango umalonjeza buku latsopano, ndipo dolphin ndi banja lolimba. Ponena za ukwatiwo amauza chikwama cha mbidzi usiku.