Ng'ombe ndi mwamuna wake

Kulimbana ndi mwamuna wake ndi kovuta ndipo palibe chachilendo mmenemo, komabe aliyense ali ndi zizolowezi zawo ndi malingaliro ake pazinthu zina zomwe sizingagwirizane. Koma ngati mkangano ndi mwamuna wake ukhale wamuyaya, ndiye kuti belu loopsya, lomwe silinganyalanyaze. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa zifukwa zokangana ndi mwamuna wanu nthawi zonse ndikupeza momwe mungapewere.

Nchifukwa chiyani timalumbira nthawi zonse ndi mwamuna wanga?

Kuti muyankhe funso la momwe mungasiyire kukangana ndi mwamuna wanu kapena, nthawi zambiri, muyenera kumvetsa chifukwa chake mikanganoyi ikuchitika. Choncho, pambuyo potsutsana wina, mmalo molira kwa bwenzi langa "Ndinakangana ndi mwamuna wanga," ndikuganiza bwino ndikuganiza chifukwa chake izi zinachitika ndipo chifukwa chake china chake chimakangana. Nazi izi zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano ya m'banja.

1. Kudziona kuti ndinu wolemekezeka wa mwamuna wanu ndi zotsatira zake, kuyesa kuonjezera phindu la anthu ena, omwe amawoneka ofooka kwa iye komanso omwe sangathe kukana.
2. Miyambo ya Banja - mwinamwake m'banja lake, ubale unamangidwa mwanjira iyi ndipo mwamuna wako sakudziwa zomwe zingakhale zosiyana, iye sanauzidwepo za izo.
3. Kutulutsidwa kwa zokambirana zomwe analandira kuntchito, panjira yopita kunyumba munthu woyamba. Mwachitsanzo, bwana wake sangathe kunena chilichonse chimene chimaganizira za iye, koma ukhoza kufuula.
4. Kupsinjika maganizo, kutopa, ndi matenda kungayambitse kukhumudwa. Ngakhale munthu wodekha amayamba kukwiyitsa chifukwa chopusitsa, ngati akuvutika.
5. Kutsutsana kungathenso kupezeka chifukwa chakuti panjira yopita ku cholinga chomwe chilipo pali zovuta zina. Mwachitsanzo, munthu watopa kupita ku gahena, samasowa chakudya chamadzulo, koma amangofika pabedi, ndipo mumayamba kuchokera kwa iye.

Nthawi zambiri timakangana ndi mwamuna wake, kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani?

Ndizomveka kuganiza kuti ngati mukunena kuti "nthawi zonse timakangana ndi mwamuna wanga, sindikudziwa choti ndichite", ndiye kuti simungakonde kupambana ndi mikangano, momwe mungamvetsetse kuti musamenyane ndi mwamuna wanu - pambuyo pake, mikangano nthawi zambiri sichikuthandizira kupeza chimwemwe cha banja . Kuti muchite izi, simuyenera kungodziwa zifukwa zomwe zimayendera khalidwe la mwamuna wanu, komanso kuti mupeze zogwirizana.

1. Choncho, ngati mukumudziwa za matenda omwe ali ndi matenda osatha a mwamuna wanu kapena onani malaise ake, musayambe kuyabwa m'makutu ake, ndikupempha chinachake. Ndi bwino kusamalira thanzi lake, kupeza mankhwala kapena kukaonana ndi dokotala.
2. Kawiri kawiri mukamakangana, okwatirana amaiwala za nkhani ya zokambirana, kuchokera kumbali zingawoneke kuti akupeza kuti ndi yani yemwe ali wochenjera komanso wophunzira kwambiri. Phunzirani kudzigwira nokha pa nthawi ngati zimenezi, musiye kusagwirizana kopanda pake, komabe sangathe kuthetsa vutoli. Ndi bwino kutenga mphindi, yang'anani mkhalidwewo kumbali zonse ziwiri ndikusankha mawu kuti agwirizane zomwe zimagwirizana onse awiri.
3. Yesetsani kumvetsa chifukwa chake mwamuna wanu amaganiza kuti zingatheke kukweza mawu anu, phunzirani za chikhalidwe cha banja lake. Funsani za zomwe zikumuvutitsa iye tsopano - amuna nthawi zambiri sangapeze mphamvu kuti adziwe zifukwa zawo zokhumudwa, iwo amafunikira kutsogolera mafunso. Koma mukufunabe kulankhula.
4. Gwiritsani ntchito kudzidalira kwanu, phunzirani kudzilemekeza nokha, mumusonyeze kuti sadzapeza chilichonse mwa kufuula: "Chabwino, munandifuula, ndiye chiyani? Kodi mwakwaniritsa chiyani? ". Posachedwa mudzazindikira kuti si mawu onse a mwamuna wanu omwe akukunyengererani, tsopano akufikira cholinga chawo.
5. Thandizo lodzidalira nokha ndi mwamuna, adzikhulupirire yekha - munthu wodzitetezera sayenera kudziyesa yekha ndi ndalama za wina. Tamandani mwamuna wanu (popanda kungomunyengerera), mukhale bwenzi lake, yemwe nthawi zonse ndi onse adzathandiza. Muloleni adziwe - chilichonse chimachitika kwa iye pakhomo la nyumba, nyumba zake nthawi zonse zimakhala zikudikirira ndikukondedwa.
6. Kumunyengerera kuti ayambe kusewera masewera - amuchotse mkwiyo wake osati pofuula, koma podula peyala.
7. Pambuyo pa kukangana ndi mwamuna wake, musathamange kwa iye kuti ayanjanitsidwe, ngati kuti inu nokha muli ndi mlandu pa chirichonse, msiyeni iye apulumuke zonse zomwe zinachitika, azindikire kuti vuto lake mu mkangano uliponso. Ndipo pamene chilakolako chikuchepa, mukhoza kubwerera kukambirana kosasangalatsa.