Palibe chomwe chimakhalapo pansi pa mwezi, ndipo timamva momwemo. Patapita nthaŵi, chilakolako chimakhala chizoloŵezi, ndi chikondi mu kutopa. Ndipo tsiku lina, atadzuka m'mawa, mkazi wamasokonezo amadziwa kuti sakonda mwamuna wake. Momwe mungakhalire mutsogolere - kuyang'ana njira yokondanso mwamuna wanu kachiwiri kapena kusudzulana?
"Sindikudziwa ngati ndimakonda mwamuna wanga .."
Bwanji ngati mwadzidzidzi ndinadzimva ndikuganiza kuti "Sindimakonda mwamuna wanga"? Yesetsani kumvetsetsa ngati izi ndizokhazika mtima pansi kwa inu ndipo pali mwayi wobwezeretsa chirichonse kapena mwamuna wanu anakhala wonyansa - apa, ziribe kanthu momwe mukuyesera, simudzatha kumukonda. Ndipotu n'zosatheka kukakamiza mkazi kukonda mwamuna wake. Koma kuti mupitirize kudzimva, chilakolako choyambirira chiyenera kuyesa.
Ndiyeno, nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti chikondi chadutsa, pamene chinangokhala ndi khalidwe losiyana. Ndipotu, n'kosatheka kutenthedwa ndi chilakolako ndi kuthamanga kupita kumalo okondweretsa kokha chifukwa chokhala pafupi ndi icho - palibe mtima ukhoza kusunga katundu wotero. Ndicho chifukwa chake malingaliro onse amatha, koma munthu uyu akadakondedwa kwa inu, sichoncho?
Kodi mungakonde bwanji mwamuna?
Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, mutha kukonda mwamuna wanu pokhapokha ngati mulibe kukana kwa munthu ameneyo, ndipo, ndithudi, ngati mukufuna nokha.
- Kumbukirani momwe izo zinayambira. Msonkhano wanu woyamba ndi malo anu omwe mumawakonda kwambiri. Mwina kuti muwukitse kugona tulo muyenera kubwerera ku "malo aulemerero" - kumpsompsonani pa mabenchi, monga momwe mumachitira misonkhano yanu yoyamba, khalani mu cafe kumene tsiku loyamba linkachitika, mupite komwe mukakhala nthawi yachisanu .
- Kwa nthawi yaitali yomwe mudakhala pamodzi, mwakhala mukuzoloŵera kwa mwamuna wanu, ndipo makhalidwe ena ake akhoza kudyetsedwa. Koma kodi mumatsimikiza kuti mumadziwa mwamuna wanu? Ndithudi, inu simunamvere zina za khalidwe lake, ndipo ena sankayikirapo za izo. Yesani kuyang'ana pa njira yatsopano, yang'anani mbali zatsopano ndi mbali za munthu amene akukhala ndi inu pansi pa denga limodzi. Mwinamwake chinachake chatsopano chimene mumatsegula mmenemo chidzasintha maganizo anu ndi mphamvu yatsopano.
- Kawirikawiri kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, zolakwitsa zina za mwamuna siziwoneka ndi ife kapena zimayesedwa kukhala zabwino za iye, koma m'kupita kwa nthawi akuyamba kukhumudwitsa kwambiri. Kodi mungatchule chikondi chotani ngati muli mu ketulo yophika? Yesetsani kuyankhula pa nkhaniyi ndi mwamuna wanu, mundiuze momwe kuli kofunikira kuti zolakwa zanu ziwonongeke. Kumbukirani, zidzakhala zovuta kukana zizoloŵezi zakale, choncho musawonetsetse zomwe zimayambitsa matendawa ndipo musapangitse zolakwika. Lankhulani naye mwamtendere, pitani kuti mumulandire, mwinamwake kuti zizolowezi zanu zina zimakhumudwitsa.
- Nthawi zina ngakhale anthu oyandikana nawo amatha kutopa wina ndi mzake, ndipo samakwiya, osati kukhalapo kwa munthu wina. Pankhaniyi, mungathe kuthandizana pang'ono. Ayi, si za phwando lomwe nthawi zambiri likuwonetsedwa m'mafilimu achi America "wokondedwa, tiyeni tizikhala mosiyana kwa kanthawi".
Mawu amenewa nthawi zambiri amalankhula, kuyesera kubisala nthawi yaying'ono pamaso pa anzanu, ndipo ikadali yoyambirira kwa inu. Zokwanira kuti mutuluke wina ndi mnzake, mwachitsanzo, kupita ku tchuthi, koma osati pamodzi, koma mosiyana. Kawirikawiri kusiyana kotere kumagwira ntchito zodabwitsa - atabwerera, awiriwo amakondana wina ndi mzake ndi mphamvu yatsopano.
Koma ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti kuyesa kukweza malingaliro oipa kungakhale kothandiza kokha ngati malingaliro omwewo akadalipo. Koma ngati mulibe chotsitsimutsa, ndiye kuti musayesere, koma mphamvu ndi nthawi zidzawonongeka.