Kodi angasudzule bwanji popanda kuvomereza kwa mwamuna?

Zikuchitika kuti mu moyo wothandizira pali zododometsa kwambiri. Ndipo, ngakhale kuti amayi ali otanganidwa kwambiri kusunga banja, nthawizina iwo amaganiza kuti kugonana kumeneku sikungapangitse chirichonse. Ngati mwayesayesa kale kukhazikitsa mgwirizano wamphamvu pakati pa banja, koma sizinabweretse zotsatira, kapena muli ndi mwamuna wina, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuthetsa banja. Koma bwanji ngati hafu yanu ina sakhulupirira kuti ukwati wanu watha? Kodi angasudzule bwanji popanda kuvomereza kwa mwamuna?

Tiyeni tione chifukwa chake mwamuna sakufuna kuthetsa banja. Pali zina zambiri zomwe mungachite: Nazi zina mwazo:

1. Chifukwa ali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi munthu ndipo amakhutira ndi kukhalapo mnyumba ya mtumiki waufulu mwa mawonekedwe anu.
2. Iye ndi munthu wofooka, kukhutira kwake kumadalira kukhalapo kwa chakudya chamadzulo, kuyeretsa kwa nyumba, nthawi zonse, mwa mawu amodzi amafunikira chitonthozo chimene mumapereka.
3. Amafunika kugonana nthawi zonse.
4. Kuyambira ali mwana, mwamuna wanga adaphunzitsidwa kuganizira za chiwerewere cha chisudzulo, amayamikira udindo wa banja.

Tinazindikira zifukwa za kukanidwa kwa amuna kuti asiye mkazi. Ndipo tsopano, mutakhala ndi zifukwa izi, mukhoza kuganizira za dongosolo lanu lotchedwa "Kodi mungasudzule bwanji popanda chilolezo cha mwamuna?"

Zophweka zingapo zothetsera banja

Choyamba, yesetsani kuchita zonse mosiyana, ndiko kuti, mukwaniritse zotsatira zina. Mkwatibwi akufuna ukhondo ndi chitonthozo, amukonzere nkhumba weniweni m'chipinda momwe amathera nthawi yake kapena ku ofesi. Lekani kuphika, mutha kumuchitira mwachangu, musayese kukondana naye, ngakhale kuti wotsirizayo, osayenera kunena, mwatsimikiza kuti munthuyo sakugwirizana ndi inu ngati mnzanu. Mulimonsemo, kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungasudzule ngati mwamuna akutsutsana, muyenera kudzimvetsa nokha chifukwa chake iye ali wokondedwa kwambiri kwa banja lino ndikuwonetsa kuti simungathe kumupatsa zomwe akufuna. Komabe, pamapeto pake, ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akusudzulana, ndizochita zachiwerewere, ndibwino kuti musagwiritse ntchito njirazi, chifukwa mungathe ndikugwirizana naye. Mwachitsanzo, musatchule moyo wanu, kuphatikizapo kusudzulana. Mumtima mwake, angakhalenso ndi maloto angakulekanile kuti akulekanitseni, nanga bwanji kuyanjana ngati mutha kucheza ndi anzanu?

Kodi zingathetse bwanji ngati mwamuna ali m'ndende?

Kusudzulana popanda chilolezo cha mwamuna, kungakhale vuto ngati mwakwati ali pamalo omwe sali kutali. Mwamwayi, nkhaniyi inkayang'aniridwa ndi mabungwe ovomerezeka ndi amayi, ndipo pakali pano pali mwayi wopezera ufulu wofuna. Pankhani imeneyi, ambiri "mwayi" kwa amayi awo omwe ali ndi zaka zoposa zitatu. Pankhaniyi, mutha kusudzulana ndipo popanda chilolezo cha mwamuna wake. Chinthu chokha chimene chikufunika ndi kufalitsa ntchito ndi wolemba. Nthawi zina, "zokhumba" za mwamuna zimaganiziridwa ndipo, ngati sakufuna kusudzulana, mungathe kuzikwaniritsa pakhoti payekha.

Ndipo ngati simukufuna kubweretsa nkhaniyi kukhoti? Kodi ndingathe kusudzulana popanda kuvomereza kwa mwamuna wanga ngati ali m'ndende kwa zaka zitatu, ndipo sakufuna kumvera mapemphero anu osudzulana? Ntchitoyi siidzakhala yosavuta, chifukwa iye ali kutali ndi inu ndipo sangathe kuona mtundu wa "mbuye wankhanza". Pano iwe uyenera kuchita mosiyana. Inde, simungachite popanda kulankhulana momasuka, koma, mwinamwake, kudzakuthandizani kuthetsa nkhani zonsezi. Ngati sichoncho, muyenera kudziwa chifukwa chake mwamuna sangathe kusudzulana, zomwe amamuyembekezera ndikumupatsa lingaliro lomveka bwino kuti simungathe kulemba, kutumiza mapulogalamu, kuyembekezera kubwerera ... Pokhapokha mutakhala ndi mwayi wokwaniritsa ufulu womwe mukufuna.

Kodi ndingathe kusudzulana popanda kuvomereza kwa mwamuna wanga?

Komabe, kodi simungangopereka zikalata zosudzulana, komanso kusudzulana popanda mwamuna wake? Mwinamwake pali njira zinanso zimene mungakhalire ndi mfulu kwaulere komanso musataya nthawi yanu ndi mphamvu zanu potsutsa "theka lachiwiri" lanu.

Yankho: Nthaŵi zambiri, ayi, popanda chifuniro chake ndi kuvomereza sikugwira ntchito, koma mukhoza kutsimikiza kuti malingaliro a mnzanuyo amagwirizana ndi anu, ndiko kuti, muyenera kuti mwamuna wanu athetse. Momwe mungachitire zimenezi mukudziwa kale, zimangokufunirani mwayi!