Buku lakuti "Domostroy"

Pofuna kudzudzula wina chifukwa cha zouvinism mogwirizana ndi moyo wa banja, timakwiya: "Inde ndi Domostroy ena". Koma kodi maganizo awa m'buku lino ndi olondola, mwinamwake mmalo mwa anthu amasiku ano, malingaliro ake ena adzakhala othandiza?

Domostroy: Nkhani Yochepa

Dzina lonse la chilembo ichi cha mabuku a ku Russia ndi "Bukhu Lotchedwa Domostroy." Zimakhulupirira kuti ntchitoyi ndi zotsatira za ntchito yogwirizanitsa mibadwo yambiri. Ngakhale wotchuka kwambiri wa Sylvester wotchuka - wovomerezeka wa Ivan The Terrible. Patapita nthawi, "Buku lotchedwa Domostroy" linasinthidwa ndi hieromonk wa ku Moscow Chudov Monastery, ndipo kenako Hegumen Karion m'zaka za m'ma 1800. M'masulidwe awa, matembenuzidwe onse omwe analipo panthawiyo anali ophatikizidwa.

Domostroy anali ndi malamulo olemekezeka a tsar (kalonga), adauza za kayendetsedwe ka chuma, analankhula za kusunga malamulo achipembedzo, komanso uthenga wochokera kwa atate kwa mwana. Ndipo zonse zomwe zimaphunzitsa za Domostroi pa khalidwe la mkazi, mwamuna ndi ana m'banja zimatchuka. Malangizo amenewa amachititsa kuti amayi ambiri azikhala olimba mtima, amayi ambiri amawaona moona mtima komanso amamvera chisoni amayi awo omwe amakhalapo nthawi imeneyo. Koma kodi makolo athu ndi oyeneradi kuwamvera chisoni, kapena tinatenga nsongazo ndipo sitinamvetse bwino?

Domostroi amalamulira mabanja amakono

1. Bukhu likuti mkazi wokoma mtima, wamtendere, wogwira ntchito mwakhama ndiye korona kwa mwamuna wake, amamupangitsa kukhala wabwino kwambiri. Koma kodi si choncho? Pambuyo pa misana ya amuna ambiri opambana ndi akazi awo abwino. Inde, kuti akazi achikulire akhale mumthunzi wa mwamuna wabwino akhoza kuwoneka osaloledwa, koma kumuthandiza mwamuna wake sikutanthauza kusapambana mu gawo lake, chinthu chachikulu ndikumusankha iye bwino.
2. Mukusonkhanitsa kwa malangizo pali malingaliro oti muzilankhulana tsiku ndi tsiku za banja. Masiku ano, malangizowa ndi othandiza - mwinamwake osati tsiku lililonse, koma kamodzi pa sabata kukamba za ntchito zapakhomo ndi bajeti. Kotero inu mukhoza kuwona kwenikweni yemwe amapereka ntchito mu nyumba.
3. Domostroy amauza mkazi wake kuti azilankhulana okha ndi omwe mwamuna amavomereza, ndikupita kukacheza kukambirana momasuka ndi kuledzera. Malangizo onsewa ndi oyenera, kupatula kuti kulandira chilolezo kuchokera kwa mwamuna kungakopse mkazi wamakono. Ngakhale kupempha mwamuna wanga chilolezo chokumana ndi anzanga ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yowonetsera kunyada kwa amuna. Chilolezo kwa mwamuna chomwecho chidzapereka (ngati palibe zilakolako zachiwawa), ndipo atatha kufunsa funsoli kumverera kofunika kwake pa izo kudzawonjezereka mobwerezabwereza.
4. Komanso m'bukuli muli malangizo oti musamatsutse anthu omwe mumalankhula nawo, osati kufalitsa miseche komanso osanena mawu oipa. Komanso uphungu wabwino - miseche ndi zoipitsitsa zambiri zomwe sizinapange munthu aliyense, ndipo mbiri ya wokonda zonyenga zonyansa ndi anthu ochepa m'moyo amathandiza.
5. Domostroy akulangizani kuti musakhale pa phwando ndipo musamaledzere moledzera. Ndipo malangizo awa si opanda choonadi - misonkhano yochuluka kwambiri ndi eni ake ndi katundu, ndipo tonse timadziwa zomwe nthawi zambiri zimathera maphwando a magulu ndi maphwando okondwerera. Zowopsya, kupandukira, zochitika za mphekesera ndi miseche - zonsezi sizili kofunikira kwa wina aliyense, choncho muyenera kusiya tchuthi, mpaka mutembenuke ndikusangalala ndi "kusokoneza."
6. Palinso malangizo othandizira alendo, bukhuli limalangiza mwachilungamo kuti alandire aliyense, alankhule ndi aliyense ndi chinachake chokondweretsa. Ndipo kodi iyi si maziko a njira zonse zamakono zamakono? Khalani okoma, fufuzani mawu okoma ndi kumwetulira kwa mlendo aliyense, ndipo anthu ayamikireni.
7. Ngati mwamunayo akuwona kuti famuyo ndi nyansi, ndiye udindo wake kulangiza mkazi wake. Ngati amvetsetsa chilichonse, ndiye kuti muyamikire ndi kukonda, ndipo ngati mkazi satsatira mawu a mwamuna wake, ndiye kuti ayenera kulangidwa. Ndipo atalangidwa, akhululukidwa, koma pambuyo pa wina ndi mzake choyipa sichikhala ndi kukhala m'chikondi ndi mgwirizano. Mfundo iyi ya Domostroi imachititsa kusagwirizana kwakukulu, komabe pakupangitsa kanthawi kochepa ndikusintha malingaliro kwa zochitika zamakono, timalandira uphungu kuti tikwanitse kuzindikira zolakwitsa zathu ndikulola zolakwitsa zina. Ndipo kuthetsa mavuto aliwonse, kulemekezana komanso, chikondi, chiyenera kuthandiza.

Zimatuluka Domostroy ndipo mabanja amakono angapereke malangizo othandiza ambiri, ndipo chikhalidwe cha chiphunzitso sichinayambe. Ndipo kwa iwo omwe amakhulupirira mwinamwake, mbiri iyenera kukumbukiridwa - mu nthawi za nkhondo zowonjezereka ndi zida za m'malire, sizingakhale zosiyana, popanda kukhala ndi udindo womenyera usilikali sangathe kuonedwa kuti ndiye mutu wa banja, kotero mawu a mwamuna wake anali omveka. Koma m'mabanja momwe maganizo anali abwino, okwatirana adagwirizana pamodzi, choncho chikhumbo "Malangizo ndi chikondi".