Kawirikawiri pali zinthu pamene funso libuka, choti muchite kuti muiwale wokondedwa wanu? Zifukwa zotsutsana zingakhale zosiyana, koma pamapeto pake nkofunikira kugwirizanitsa ndi lingaliro lakuti munthu uyu sali panjira. Malangizo a zamaganizo amakuuzani momwe mungaiwale wokondedwa wanu ndikuthandizani kuthetsa kupatukana mosavuta.
Kodi n'zotheka kuiwala munthu amene mumamukonda?
Nthawi yoyamba pambuyo pogawa, maloto ndi malingaliro ali odzipereka kwa iye yekha. Zonsezi zikukumbutsa maubwenzi otayika: mphatso, nyimbo, malo opumula ndi zina zambiri. Izi zimakhumudwitsa kwambiri, zimayambitsa misonzi ndi kukhumudwa, choncho ndikofunikira kusiya mavuto anu mwamsanga, kuyamba kukhala lero. Kuiwala wokondedwa n'kotheka, chifukwa ndikofunika kudziwa momwe mungayankhire chikondi choyambirira, kotero kuti njira yopatukana ndi yopweteka kwambiri.
Kodi ndingatani kuti ndiiwale wokondedwa wanga?
Ndithudi simukusowa kuchepetsa chisoni chanu mu vinyo. Mowa umathandiza kanthawi kokha kuchepetsa kuzunzika, koma sikungathetse vutoli. Musayesenso kuyang'ana chibwenzi kwa masautso, chifukwa mmalo mochoka kunja, mukupita nawo limodzi. Musagwiritse ntchito miyambo yamatsenga, chifukwa zotsatira zake ndizokayikitsa. Pakalipano, mu maganizo, pali mndandanda wa zochitika zenizeni zowunikira kumvetsetsa momwe mungaiwale wokondedwa.
Choyamba, m'pofunika kuvomereza kuti sipangakhale kupitiriza kwa ubale ndi munthu uyu, koma palibe chilakolako chovutika kuchokera kwa inu. Chachiwiri, ndikofunikira kuchotsa danga la moyo wanu watsopano. Mukhoza kulingalira zabwino zomwe mungathe kuziyembekezera mtsogolo, ngati mutaya maubwenzi osayenera kunja kwa mutu wanu. Mosakayikira patsogolo pa mndandanda watsopano wodziwa bwino, kuyenda, kukula kwa ntchito, maphunziro osangalatsa kapena moyo wa banja ndi mwamuna wina. Yambani moyo watsopano ungathandize kokha kukana kwa moyo wakale. Ndikofunika kuchotsa anthu onse olankhula nawo, zinthu zathu ndi mphatso, ngakhale ziri zovuta.
Chachitatu, ndizofunika kupeza zomwe mwadzifunsa nokha mafunso awa: "Kodi munthu uyu wabweretsa chiyani pa moyo wanga?", "Chifukwa chiyani anakomana nane?", "Anandipatsa chiyanjano chanji?" Ndipo ena ambiri. Ngati simungaganize, zikhoza kubwereza. Ndiye, nkoyenera kupeza mbali yolakwika ya wokondedwa wanu wakale. Ubale sungakhale wabwino, yesetsani kukumbukira zinthu pamene mudapweteka, zosasangalatsa kapena zosasangalatsa. Azimayi ambiri, osanyalanyaza lamuloli, amakumbukira zokhazokha, ndipo zotsatira zake zimapweteka ndi chikondi chopanda malire kwa zaka zambiri.
Kodi mungaiwale bwanji munthu ngati mumamukonda?
Nenani kwa iye, iye ndi gawo la kale lanu, palibe kenanso. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti palibe malo okhalitsa a ubale watsopano, pamene okalamba ali mu mtima. Ndikofunika kutsatira ndondomeko yomwe zonse zimangokhala bwino.
Mukhoza kuyesedwa ndi kudzipangitsa nokha ndi chinthu chatsopano komanso chosangalatsa. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kulowa mu ntchito kuchokera kumutu mpaka kumutu, muyenera kukhala pakati pa anthu, kuchita chinachake chachilendo nokha. Izi zingakhale zosangalatsa zatsopano, zosangalatsa, maulendo ndi zina zotero. Vuto lililonse ndi njira yokhayo yatsopano.
Mankhwala abwino kwambiri nthawi zonse. Ngati mutalola kuti zinthu zisasunthike kusambira, nthawi idzatenga mthunzi. Palibe tsoka limene lachitika, siteji ina yamoyo yakhala ikudutsa, ndipo pali njira zambiri zatsopano, zomwe zingatheke pokhapokha poyang'ana kutsogolo.