Chokhazikika, izi sizikutanthauza kuti munthu ali wosungulumwa, ayi, akhoza kukhala pachibwenzi, koma kutsutsana ndi banja. Chochita mu izi, chifukwa asungwana onse akulota kuvala chovala choyera choyera ndi kukhala mfumukazi yamadzulo.
Poyambirira, mwinamwake simunaganizepo za funso ili, chifukwa zonse ndi zabwino, zimakhala pamodzi ndipo sitampu ya pasipoti sizimafunika kwambiri. Koma nthawi yadza pamene funso lakuti "Ukwati ndi liti?" Kuchokera kwa abwenzi ndi achibale amamveketsa kawirikawiri kuposa "Kodi muli bwanji?", Ndipo zikuwoneka ngati akukayikira ngati akukonda ndikufuna kukhala ndi inu moyo wake wonse, bwanji osagwada? Musanene kuti amakonda "Bwerani kwa ine"? Zonse chifukwa wokondedwa wanu ndi wodalirika, komabe pali mwayi wosintha.
Njira zamakono ndi zolakwika
- Malo oyambirira mu chiwerengero ichi ndi njira "yakuda" - kukhala ndi pakati. Pazifukwa zina, amai ambiri amaona kuti njirayi ndi yosavuta, koma apa pali mwayi waukulu kumva mawu osangalatsa a mkazi aliyense: "Tengani ndalama ndikuchotsapo mimba" kapena, anganene kuti maonekedwe a mwanayo sadzakhudza chisankho chake chokhudza ukwati. Chotsatira chake, mwanayo ndi chuma chachinyengo, osati chisangalalo choyembekezeredwa.
- Ndiye njira ina yodziwika ndi yowopsya. Koma apa chirichonse chimadalira pa malingaliro anu. Chilichonse chikhoza kuyamba ndi zochepa "Musakwatirane ndi ine musagonepo" kapena "Sindifuna kukwatira ndikudzipezeranso ndekha," mumagwiritsa ntchito njira zonse, koma kumbukirani kuti chinthu chofunikira apa sikuti chigonjetse. Ndipo ndithudi, kusokoneza kulikonse kumeneku kumayenera kutsatiridwa ndi nyansi ndi misonzi. Njira iyi ndi yabwino kwa amayi omwe samasamala za kunyada kwake , chifukwa mwamuna ayenera kufunafuna mkazi, osati mosiyana.
- Nthawi zina mwamuna amaletsedwa yekha ndi ulesi , sawoneka ngati akuganiza zokonza maubwenzi, koma sakufuna kukonza phwando konse. Pachifukwa ichi, muthandizidwa ndi lumbiro lokulumbira kuti mutenge bungwe lonse ndikupempha thandizo.
- Ambiri amayesa kupereka chiphuphu kwa wokondedwa wawo ndi malonjezo omwe, mwachitsanzo, makolo ake amawagulira nyumba kapena akhoza kugula galimoto omwe akhala akulota kwa zaka zingapo. Njirayi idzakhudza amuna adyera kapena gigolos, ndipo ena onse angakhumudwe nazo.
- Yeserani kupita kutali. Nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi, mum'dziwitse momwe zingakhalire bwino kukwatira, koma izi ziyenera kuyankhulidwa nthawi zonse osati zovuta. Kotero, iwe umangokakamiza wokondedwa wako ku sitepe yofunikira.
- Mupatseni chitsanzo cha abwenzi okwatirana. Aloleni kuti aone kuti ali okondwa kwambiri muukwati ndipo mwinamwake sitampu ya pasipoti yawo sinakhudzidwe. Choncho, chitsanzo cha bwenzi chikhoza kumukakamiza kupita kumbuyo.
- Njira inanso yowonetsera ndiyo kusonyeza kuti simusowa konse, kotero kuti iye mwiniyo akufuna kutenga gawo ili. Muyenera kuganizira kuti ndinu mkazi waulere amene ali ndi ufulu wochita zomwe akufuna, kumupangitsa nsanje. Pitani
pitani ndi abwenzi, pitani ku tchuthi, ndithudi popanda iye, mulole iye akuvutika ndi kuganiza, mwinamwake inu mukukhudzidwa ndi wina. Ngati amamukonda, ndiye kuti adzaphatikizapo "mwamuna" ndipo akufuna kuti iwe ukhale yekhayo ndi moyo wake.
Kawirikawiri, ngati iye sali okonzeka kukwatira, ndiye palibe chifukwa chofulumira. Munthu aliyense ali ndi chikhumbo cholenga banja, ndi ambiri okha omwe amatsutsana ndi izi, koma posakhalitsa chilengedwe chidzatengera zake zokha ndi nthawi yosayembekezereka kwa inu zidzakhala pa bondo limodzi ndikupempha dzanja ndi mtima. Zili mu mkhalidwe umenewu kuti mudzamva chimwemwe chenichenicho, monga momwe mudzadziwira kuti adachita ndi mtima wangwiro, osati chifukwa adamva zoopseza tsiku ndi tsiku.