Kulenga banja ndi loto la anthu ambiri: amuna ndi akazi. Inde, kwa mtsikana izi ndi zofunika kwambiri, chifukwa amayeneranso kulingalira za kubadwa kwa ana, ndipo msinkhu wa nkhaniyi ukhoza kukhala mfundo. Chifukwa chake, atsikana ambiri aang'ono amakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kupeza mwamuna kuti akhale pachibwenzi .
Momwe mungapezere munthu kuti akhale naye pachibwenzi?
Funsoli silinali lopanda pake: nthawi zambiri munthu yemwe amawoneka kuti ali wabwino ndi wachikondi, kuyembekezera chinachake, sapereka kupereka, ndipo msungwanayo sakudziwa kukhala momwemo. Ndipo zimachitika kuti pa njira ya moyo wake pali amuna omwe alibe chidwi ndi ubale weniweni, choncho sadziwa kumene angapezere munthu wabwino m'banja. Pambuyo pake, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mwamuna amangogonana mofulumira. Palinso akatswiri omwe, akakumana ndi munthu wina, yesani kumuyesa mtsikana mwanjira inayake, kuti adziwe ngati angamugone naye pabedi lero. Ndipo, pokhala mosagwira mwamphamvu komanso molimba mtima, amatha kukhala mbuye wa alendo. Kotero akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza atsikana tsiku loyamba:
- Musamamwe mowa mopitirira muyeso (ichi ndi chiyeso chachimuna chopezeka);
- sungani onse, ngakhale osayenerera mwangwiro, zopempha za anzanu atsopano (ndipo uwu ndi mayeso a okonda zosangalatsa za usiku kuti alamulire).
Izi zidzamuthandiza msungwanayo kuti alankhulane mofanana, osati kuti azitengedwa kapena "ng'ombe kuwonetsero".
Choyamba, monga kuthetsa vuto lirilonse la moyo, muyenera kusankha chomwe mtsikanayo akufuna. N'zachidziwikire kuti kupeza munthu pa moyo, koma chiyani? Akatswiri a zamaganizo akukulangizani kuti mutenge mapepala ndi kulemba zomwe mtsikanayo akufuna kuchokera kwa bwenzi lake. Inde, mukhoza kulemba chirichonse, komabe ndi bwino kusiyapo ndikusiya zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri. Pachifukwa ichi ndikofunika kukhala owona. Tiye tiwone ngati mtsikana sangathe kuyima, pamene mwamuna akulankhula naye pa foni yake, muyenera kuchotsa anthu amalonda nthawi yomweyo. Ndikofunika kuti iwo akhudzidwe, ndipo iye sangafune kukonda, ngati amuponyera ntchito - ndikukhala pa khosi la mtsikanayo.
Ngati mtsikana atsimikiza zomwe akufuna, adziyang'ane pa mndandanda ndikuganizira komwe angapeze munthu wa maloto ake. Mwachitsanzo, ngati amakopeka amuna amphamvu, omwe ali ndi maonekedwe abwino ndi mtundu wabwino, ndibwino kugula zolembera ku malo abwino olimbitsa thupi, ndipo atapeza masewera okongola a masewera ndi masewera a masewera, afunseni munthu wokongola kuti apereke malangizo othandizira ojambula.
Ngati mtsikana akudabwa komwe angapeze munthu wolemera, ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yothandizira iye - mafashoni apamwamba, malo odyera okwera mtengo, malo olemekezeka m'mabwalo. Iye azivala, nthawizonse ayenera kukhala okwera mtengo ndi osamveka, kotero kuti wachilendo wokongola yemwe amamuwona iye sakuganiza kuti choyamba iye akufuna kumamupangira iye nsapato zabwino. Zomwe mungakambirane, ndibwino kuti musankhe pasadakhale - ndipo sizili bwino za mitundu yokolola, koma zokhudzana ndi zochitika zakale zaku Middle Ages kapena za masewera a golf. Ndipo ndi zofunika kuti msungwanayo alidi
Sizingatheke kuti muyankhe mosabisa funso la momwe mungapezere munthu wabwino kwa banja. Koma zikuwonekeratu kuti kuliyang'ana sikuli koyenera. Msungwana sangakumane ndi teetotaler mu bar, ndi bambo wina mumabwalo a usiku. Malo oti mukumane nawo ayenera kusankhidwa mwanzeru. Ndiye funso la momwe mungapezere munthu wabwino lidzakhala pafupi ndi yankho lovomerezeka.
Koma kawirikawiri, zonse zimakonzedweratu - ndizofunikira kuti zithandizire, ndipo zonse zidzachitika palokha ndipo sipadzakhalanso mafunso ngati amenewa.