Ndi anthu angati omwe amamenyana ndi chigawenga chomwecho, kufunafuna mkazi wamalonda, wokhulupirika ndi wodalirika, koma nthawi zonse amasankha zachigololo, zokhumudwitsa komanso zopanda nzeru! Ndipo akazi? Amadandaula kuti abambowo achita zolakwika tsopano - osayang'anitsitsa ndi aulesi, koma amafunika kumva kuchokera kwa iwo mawu achikondi, pokonzekera kuti athetsere zonsezi ndikudzipangira okha ntchito zitatu. Pali chifukwa chomveka chomwe amai amakonda ndi makutu awo, ndi amuna omwe ali ndi maso awo.
Maganizo a sayansi
Monga momwe akudziwira, akazi ali ndi zitukuko zambiri zomwe zimachoka kumtunda kwa ubongo, ndipo mwa amuna - kulondola. Kumanzere ndi udindo wa kulankhula, ndipo kulondola ndiko kuwona. Ndipo mwa amayi, malo omwe amachititsa kugonana ndi zofuna zogonana ali pafupi pafupi ndi dera la ubongo lomwe limayenera kumva. Zotsatira zake, zizindikiro za mitsempha zomwe zimabwera kuchokera kumaganizo kudzera m'mitsinje ya mitsempha, zigwiritsire ntchito zigawo zoyandikana, ndipo mkaziyo akusangalala chifukwa chakuti amva mawu a munthu, phwando likugwira osati mawu okha, koma uthenga womwewo. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ubongo wa mayi ukulemera 100 magalamu pang'ono (!) Mwamuna, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti neurons mmenemo ali pafupi wina ndi mnzake, kusinthanitsa kwadzidzidzi kumachitika mofulumira, zomwe zikutanthauza mwamsanga njira za kuganiza.
Ndi chifukwa chake mawu otchuka akuti "lingaliro lachikazi" adawonekera. Oimira abambo okondana akhoza kuchita zinthu zingapo kamodzi, amaponyedwa pambali. Iwo akhoza kuganiza chinthu chimodzi, kunena yachiwiri ndi kuchita chachitatu. Tsopano zikuwonekeratu chifukwa chake amai amakonda ndi makutu awo, komanso amuna omwe ali ndi maso chifukwa chilengedwe chinakonza thupi lawo kuti liwonetsetse amayi ambiri momwe angathere, chifukwa ali ndi udindo wobereka. Ngati mkazi anali wokondwa chifukwa chongoona mwamuna, padziko lapansi padzakhala tsoka komanso dziko lapansi lidzakula kwambiri. Mwamunayo, wokondwa pakuona mkazi wokongola, wokonzeka kukhala bambo, komabe mkaziyo adayenera kumvetsetsa kuti ndi bambo wotani - wabwino kapena woipa ndikupanga chisankho chothandizira kuti akhale bambo.
Maganizo a funsolo
Kuchokera pamalingaliro a psychology, mkazi amakonda makutu, chifukwa amafuna kuti amveke osowa komanso ambiri. Kuyamikira tsiku ndi tsiku ndi zokambirana za mtima ndi kwa mtima zimafunikira kwa iye ngati mpweya. Amayang'ana chete kwa wokondedwayo ngati kusasamala komanso osapeza yankho m'moyo wake, amamuyang'ana kwinakwake. Anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi chifukwa chake akazi amamvetsera ndi makutu awo, mukhoza kuyankha kuti amakondana ndi mawu, chikondi ndi nthano, zomwe wokondedwa wake amamupatsa ndi kukambirana moona mtima. Azimayi amakonda ndi makutu awo ndi mawu akuti: "Ndimakukondani" okonzeka kuyendetsa mapiri ndikudzigwedeza okha mavuto onse a m'banja, kukhala ndi nthawi yotsatira nyumba, ndi kuphunzitsa ana, ndi kugwira ntchito, ndi kusangalatsa mwamuna.
Oimira chigawo cholimba chaumunthu ali achikondi, ndipo ngakhale pachibwenzi chokhazikika, salepheretsa kukhala ndi mbali kumbali, kudziyesa okha kuti ndizolakwika. Iwo sangakhoze kunyalanyaza kuyitana kwa "wamng'ono" wokongola kwambiri yemwe ali mu zaka za kubala. Koma pano zambiri zimadalira maphunziro, malingaliro a munthu aliyense payekha paukwati ndi kukhulupirika kwa abwenzi, chifukwa anthu ndi osiyana ndi zinyama, amadziwa kuganiza ndi kuwerengera zotsatira za zochita zawo. Atatha kuthetsa mayesero, amamvetsa chifukwa chake amachitira izi, koma kuti athetsere chilakolako mwa iyemwini, kuyang'ana akazi ovala-nusu pamsewu, pamsewu wamagalimoto kapena filimu, sangathe.
Choncho amamanga ubale wina ndi mzake, osakhala osayankhula, kuphunzira makhalidwe a amuna ndi akazi ndikuphunzira kukambirana. Mwamuna samusiya mkazi ngati amvetsetsa kuti ndi wabwino kwambiri moti sangasiyidwe yekha, ndipo mnzakeyo amachotsa mankhwala ena m'makutu ake ndikukonda okondedwa ake popanda kukumbukira.