Mu zokambirana zachinsinsi za atsikana, mawu monga "Sindimasangalala ndi kugonana" amatha kuwomba. Ambiri amakhulupilira kuti ngati kugonana sikusangalatsa, ndi chifukwa chakuti chilengedwe chomwecho amayi sanapereke mphotho ndi njira zina zofunika. Ndipotu, kuti muzisangalala ndi moyo wapamtima, sikuti thupi ndi lofunika kwambiri, ndi zochitika zingati.
Kodi mungasangalale bwanji ndi kugonana?
Ngati tikuganiza kuti anthu amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana pofuna kukondweretsa, zimakhala zonyansa kuzindikira kuti chigawo chachikulu ichi ndi chifukwa chosowa. Komabe, kuti muthe kuthetsa vutoli kamodzi, nthawi zina zimakhala zokwanira kuti mumvetsetse zinthu zotsatirazi zomwe zimadalira molunjika, ndizosangalatsa zotani kuchokera ku kugonana komanso ngati muli nazo.
- Mgwirizano. Komabe, kwa mkazi, kugonana ndi mbali yaikulu ya maganizo, ndipo chiyanjano ndi mnzanu ndi chofunikira kwambiri. Anthu ena atagonana amayamba kugonana kwambiri, pamene ena, mosiyana, amasiya chilakolako chawo. Kuwonjezera apo, munthu mmodzi amakukakamizani zambiri, zina zotsika, ndipo ngati ali ndi munthu yemwe mulibe vuto, mwina chifukwa chake palibe chisangalalo pa kugonana ndi mzake wosayenera.
- Prelude. Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale osangalala? Zili zovuta. Ndikofunika kupeza chinachake chimene mungangotulutsa khungu kuchokera kuchikhumbo. Kwa mkazi aliyense, izi ndi zinthu zosiyana kwambiri - wina amatha kumpsompsona pang'onopang'ono, ndipo wina amafunika ntchito zowonjezereka.
- Kupuma. Ngati mkazi ali ndi "tsiku loopsa", kapena mavuto ambiri ogwira ntchito, kapena mkwiyo wake pa chifukwa china chilichonse, zidzakhudza ubwino wake. Muyenera kukhala omasuka ndikuganiziranso zokhazokha.
- Kukambirana. Ndi wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse muyenera kukambirana zokhazokha zomwe zikuyenda bwino komanso zopambana zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti mukhale osangalatsa. Inde, ndipo chisangalalo kwa mwamuna wogonana iwe ndi chizoloŵezi ichi chidzapereka mosavuta kwambiri.
- Zosiyanasiyana. Mukhoza kusokoneza chiyanjano chanu mwa kusintha zovuta, kusintha mkhalidwe, kusintha zovala, ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe zingayambitsenso mgwirizano ndikupangitsa mtima wanu kumenya zambiri. Pakapita nthawi, kugonana kwachibadwa, ngakhale wokondedwa kwambiri kumakhala kosangalatsa, ndipo ichi ndi njira yabwino yosangalalira.
Kawirikawiri amayi omwe alibe vuto lililonse mwa zinthu zisanuzi samadandaula za mavuto a moyo wawo wapamtima - chifukwa chakuti alibe.
Zolakwa zazimayi pabedi
Ziri zovuta kuzindikira kuti chifukwa chosowa chilakolako mwa mkazi ndi khalidwe lake pa bedi.
- Taganizirani zolakwa zazikulu zomwe sizimakonda amuna okha, koma osasangalatsa akazi okha.
- Kukambirana pabedi. Atsikana amene amafuna kuyankha kwambiri pabedi, musakhale ndi nthawi yosangalala ndi zokambirana zonse. Chimodzimodzinso ndi kulakalaka kwambiri chilakolako cha zolaula.
- Kutengeka kwambiri. Mzimayi amene amasamalira nthawi zonse, samangopha munthu, komanso alibe nthawi yosangalala. Sikoyenera kuperekera pa izo konse, koma kuti muyendetse ntchito iliyonse, nayenso.
- Makhalidwe oipa. Ngati mkazi akuganiza kuti sayenera kumuwonetsa, akulakwitsa. Nchifukwa chiyani zonsezi ndizofunika, n'chifukwa chiyani mnzanuyo akuyeserani, ngati mumakhalabe munthu wovuta kwambiri?
- Simungathandizidwe. Ngati mulibe nthawi yovekanitsa bikini, zidzasokoneza maganizo a mnzanuyo, komanso maganizo anu. Samalani zinthu zotere.
Musaiwale kuti kudzichepetsa kuyenera kulikonse, koma osati m'chipinda chogona. Chilichonse chimene anthu awiri amachita ndi chachilendo ndi cholondola, ngati onse awiri amasangalala.