Kulowa mu ubale wapamtima umodzi mpaka lero ndi wamba. Kugonana kamodzi n'kofunika pakati pa abambo ndi amai. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi sizongoganizira chabe ndipo sichifuna kutanthauzira kwapadera - ndife tonse amoyo ndipo tonse timayendetsedwa ndi ludzu la chilakolako, koma anthu ochepa chabe akuyesetsa kuti azikhala ndi maudindo ndipo nthawi zambiri amapezeka pazochitika zogonana.
Chibwenzi chogonana nthawi zambiri chimakhala chifukwa abwenziwo amadziwa kuti chiyanjano chawo sichingagwirizanenso choncho amapita kumudziwa kuti apereke kudzipereka. Ndipo kugonana pa nthawi kumabwera pamene wina wa iwo akuyembekeza kuti motero adzatha kusunga wokondedwa wake kapena kuti azigwirizana kwambiri ndi izo.
Koma odziwa oterewa amathera m'mawa mwake ndipo pali zifukwa zambiri za izi:
Kugonana kolakwika
Nthawi zina palinso chinthu chomwe chimakopa anthu inu - komanso ndi makhalidwe abwino, ndipo amawoneka okongola, komanso ochenjera, koma mukangowonjezera maubwenzi apamtima, ndiye kuti kukonda kwanu ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu kumatha. Poyamba mungavomereze kugonana kachiwiri, koma kachiwiri mukakumana ndi zifukwa zomwezo.
Mumamvetsetsa kuti uyu sali mnzanu basi. Zimakhala zovuta kuuza mnzake chifukwa chake sakukukhutitsani. Monga lamulo, pamapeto pake mudzati: "Tikukuitanani!" Kapena chinachake chonga ichi ndi kupuma popanda kumupatsa nambala yanu ya foni. Kumbali imodzi, iyi ndi sitepe yoyenera - kodi pali lingaliro lopanda pake kuyendetsa munthu ku zovuta.
Si chinthu choipitsitsa kuthetsa chibwenzi, osayamba kale, komanso chofunika kwambiri - kuti chichikwaniritse musanatengeke.
Mavuto a anthu
Pambuyo pa gawo loyambirira la tsiku lanu, pokambirana ndibwino, ndi kuyamba kukondana wina ndi mzake poyang'ana poyamba, pitani ku mchere waukulu wotchedwa "kugonana". Koma mwadzidzidzi mnzanuyo ali ndi mavuto ena amthupi.
Funso pano likuwonekera mu psychological male, kapena mmalo mwa kunyada kwa amuna. Ndipotu, munthu yemwe sadziwonetsera yekha ndi wokondedwa wake kuti iye ndi mwamuna weniweni pabedi, ndithudi amapewa yemwe adakumana ndi mavuto oterewa.
Zotsatira zomwezo ndizotheka ngati ndondomeko yonse yafika mofulumira mofulumira kwambiri komanso yokhutira, mwamunayo yekha adakhalabe, "akuiwala" za mnzanuyo.
Wina mwa anthuwa sagwirizana ndi chibwenzi
Kugonana panthawi imodzi, pafupipafupi, kumakonda amuna omwe amaopa kutenga udindo, zomwe zimafunikanso ndi maubwenzi achikondi, kapena simukukonzekera kukhala ndi maukwati a nthawi yaitali.
Zingatheke kuti munthu woteroyo akuuzeni kuti alibe nthawi yokwanira tsopano yachinthu chovuta, kuti ali wotanganidwa ndi ntchito, ndi zina zotero.
Koma, ndithudi, ndi chifukwa chochepa, chifukwa aliyense amadziwa kuti njira zingapo zothetsera mavuto ndi zovuta za moyo n'zosavuta kusiyana ndi kukhala wosungulumwa.
Koma, m'poyenera kutsimikizira kuti kukana kuyamba mgwirizano wa nthawi yaitali m'moyo wina ndi chinthu chachibadwa komanso chachibadwa.
Kugonana pa ubwenzi
Nthawi zambiri kugonana ndi wina ndi mnzake kungakonzedwenso, kapena mwachangu. Ndipo zingatheke ngati mutakhala ndi chibwenzi chokhazikika ndi mnzanu wina.
Chifukwa chachikulu cha kuchitika kwa kugonana kotereku ndi chikoka cha mowa waukulu umene umayambitsa chilakolako chadzidzidzi, kufunikira kuthandizira bwenzi (thandizo lina) kapena mgwirizano wa mabwenzi awiri, chifukwa chokondweretsana ndi kusangalala wina ndi mzake popanda ntchito iliyonse.
Kugonana Kwauchidakwa
Si chinsinsi kuti kumwa mowa wabwino kumachepetsa ubongo ndi kufooketsa malingaliro. Pali kugonana kotereku mofananamo pakati pa amai ndi abambo. Komabe, zokhazokha zomwe zimachitika ku izi zingakhale zosiyana.
Monga lamulo, m'mawa mutatha kukumbukira zochitika za usiku watha kapena osawakumbukira basi. Ndipo musaiwale kuti mukasankha kugonana pa nthawi, ndiye kuti mwayang'anitsitsa kusankha mnzanuyo, kulemekeza ndi kudzikonda nokha ndi thupi lanu, ndipo musaiwale za chitetezo ku mimba zosafuna ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana.