Tengani sitepe yoyamba, itanani mlendo, avomereze mgwirizano wotsika mtengo, asiye ntchito yowopsya ... Ntchito izi zikhoza kulembedwa kosatha. Koma pali mtundu wa anthu omwe sanawachitepo miyoyo yawo. Cholakwika chawo ndi kusadzikayikira kwawo pa luso lawo. Lero, mamiliyoni a anthu akukumana ndi vuto ili, lomwe lingakhale labwino kwambiri kale! Ndi omwe adzipatulira nkhani yathu momwe tingagonjetsere kusatetezeka ndikumva mphamvu mwa ife eni.
Kutetezeka mwaokha - zimayambitsa
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wawonetsa kuti pafupifupi 90 peresenti ya anthu padziko lonse lapansi ali ndi zovuta zambiri ndipo akhoza kukwaniritsa moyo woposa momwe alili tsopano. Koma pa nthawi yovuta kwambiri iwo adatsogoleredwa ndi chikhulupiliro mwa iwo okha ndipo adabwereranso.
Kodi kudzidandaula komwe kumasokoneza ntchito, kumagwirizana ndi anthu akunja ndikusangalala ndi moyo? Khululukirani zolakwa zonse za akuluakulu mukuleredwa kwa ana. Timaphunzira za ife tokha kuchokera kwa ena, ndipo choyamba, kuchokera kwa makolo athu. Tikawamva mawu alionse mu adiresi yathu, timayamba kudzipanga tokha. Tsopano ganizirani maganizo amene mwanayo, yemwe nthawi zonse amatsutsidwa? "Iwe sungathe kuchita chirichonse!", "Chifukwa chiyani ndikusowa chilango chotere?", "Inu nthawizonse mumaponyera tiyi toys, sluts!". Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilira kwamuyaya. Makolo amayesera kuphunzitsa, koma m'malo mwake amapanga psyche yovuta ya zithunzi ndi zolepheretsa, zomwe sangathe kuzigonjetsa pokhala achikulire. Popanda chikhulupiriro mwa inu nokha, munthu amakhala wamanyazi komanso wosasamala. Kusatetezeka kumasonyeza zizindikiro zotere monga zovuta nthawi zonse, zosakhutira ndi moyo wa munthu, ndipo nthawi zambiri chizoloŵezi cha zizoloŵezi zoipa, kupweteka komanso kudzipha. Koma makolowo atangoyamba kumuthandiza mwanayo panthawi imene ankafunikira. Mwamwayi, kuthetsa kukayikira kungatheke ngakhale mutakula. Ndipo, malingana ndi zovuta za mkhalidwewo, sikoyenera kuyanjana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Mungathe kugonjetsa maofesi anu nokha.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji kukayikira?
Pali njira zambiri zothetsera vutoli. Ndipo onsewa ali okhudzana ndi kuyang'ana ndikukumana ndi mantha awo, monga akunena "maso ndi maso." Choyamba, tikufunikira kuthetsa vuto la momwe tingagonjetsere kukayikira mwaife tokha mwa kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi ife tokha:
- Kumbukirani momwe mungagwirire ndi chisangalalo ndipo mumakumana ndi zotani. Ndani anakuthandizirani ndiye? Kotero, kodi izo zinali zowawa ndi zosokoneza, monga izo zinkawonekera kwa inu ndiye?
- Ngati nthawi zambiri mumadandaula mukathamanga ndipo mukuwopa kulakwitsa, yesani kuchepetsa nthawi komanso momwe mungaganizire ntchito yomwe mudapatsidwa. Posankha zochita zofunika, munthu sayenera kuthamanga. Lolani kuti mugwire ntchito ndi kuganizira momwe mumayendera, kuti musamadzimvere nokha.
- Mukakumana ndi zinthu zosangalatsa, yesetsani kulingalira chomwe chingachitike ngati simukulimbana nawo. Kotero izo zidzakhala zowopsya monga zikuwonekera kwa inu tsopano? Nthawi zina munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu wolakwitsa, choncho kusasaka pano kulibe ntchito.
- Yang'anani pozungulira ndikuganiza, ndipo mukufuna kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro ndi ndani? Kodi mumayesa kunja, poyesa ena kapena nokha? Ngati mumadzikonda nokha komanso momwe mulili tsopano, musataye nthawi kwaulere chifukwa cha ena?
- Pezani malo anu okhala ndi munthu amene amakukhulupirirani ndipo adzakuthandizani nthawi zonse. Muuzeni iye mu zovuta kwambiri pamoyo. Mwina zidzakhala magwero a chilimbikitso ndi chilimbikitso chomwe mumasowa.
Kuwonjezera pa ntchito ya uzimu payekha funso la momwe mungachotsere kusatsimikizika lingathetsedwe mwa kuchita. Kuti muchite izi, yesetsani kutuluka kunja ndikuchita zomwe nthawi zina simungapange malingaliro anu. Mwachitsanzo:
- pitani ku sitolo iliyonse ndipo funsani ogulitsa kuti asonyeze chimodzi cha katunduyo ndi kunena za izo. Pambuyo ponse mutatha kuwonetsa zabwino ndikuchoka popanda kutenga chirichonse;
- mu sitolo ina kapena stall ndikufunseni kuti musinthe ndalama kwa inu;
- funsani anthu akudutsa ndi utali wotani, momwe angayendere ku sitolo yotere, afunseni kuti asinthanitse ndalama kapena kugula ndudu;
- pitani ku cafe ndikuwapemphe kuti agwiritse ntchito foni yawo. Musati muchite malamulo, koma pitirizani kuumirira pa pempho lanu ngakhale mutakwiya ndi antchito a cafe;
- Funsani munthu wokhala pa basi kuti akupatseni mpando. Zifukwa zoitanira izo siziri zofunikira. Ingomva pempholi.
Mungathe kukumana ndi mavuto ofanana nokha. Pogwiritsa ntchito nthawi zomwe mwapeza pamoyo wanu ndikuwonetseratu kuti mukulephera. Kumbukirani kuti njira yabwino yothetsera mantha ndikuchita zomwe mukuwopa. Chitani ichi ndi funso la momwe mungapiririre kusatsimikizika zidzasankhidwa kwa inu.