Zachabezo zimadziwika kwa anthu kuyambira nthawi zakale ndipo zimagwirizanitsa malingaliro a kunyada mwachipembedzo, nyenyezi ya malingaliro mu malonda awonetsero, kunyada, kudzikuza mu ubale wamba pakati pa anthu. Ndichabechabe, momwe zimakhudzira munthu ndi ena - akatswiri abwino a miyoyo ya anthu - afilosofi, ansembe, theosophists, psychologists, amayesera kumvetsa.
Kodi zopanda pake zimatanthauza chiyani?
Zachabe zimachokera ku mawu awiri "opanda pake" ndi "ulemerero." V.I. Dal - wofufuzira wamkulu wa Chirasha m'chinenero chofotokozera akulongosola kuti zopanda pake za munthu ngati chimenecho ndicho chokhumba cha mtundu winawake wa anthu kwa ulemu, kutamanda, ulemerero wa mdziko, kuzindikira machitidwe abwino. Chilakolako chofuna kukambirana ndi umbombo kuti chidziwikire ndizofunikira kwa anthu komanso anthu amasiku ano.
Zachabechabe kuchokera pakuganiza kwa psychology
Zifukwa zobisika zimabisika kuyambira ali mwana. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti pakupanga kudzidalira, chofunika kwambiri ndicho kuzindikira mwanayo ndi makolo, pamene akuwona zomwe mwanayo wapindula. Kuchuluka kwa matamando kumakhudza kwambiri kudziona nokha monga munthu, kudzipangitsa kukhala wodzidalira mopambanitsa kumayambitsa zopanda pake. Kodi munthu angazindikire "matenda a stellar" mwa iweeni? Pali zizindikiro zachabechabe:
- chisangalalo cha kunyengerera;
- chikhumbo chopotoza zochitika pakhomo payekha;
- Kuwopsya kulimbana ndi kutsutsidwa kulikonse (kokonzeka, kosalimbikitsa);
- kukambirana momveka bwino, kusiyana ndi ntchito (kusiyana pakati pa kulankhula ndi kuchita);
- khalidwe lachinsinsi.
Kodi munthu wopanda pake amatanthauzanji?
Kuzindikiritsa nokha ngati munthu ndizovuta zochitika, zokhudzana ndi kukhudzidwa ndi kuwonjezeka kwawo kapena kusowa kwa maphunziro osayenera pamene palibe malamulo ndi zoletsedwa ndi kuvomereza. Munthu wopanda pake ndi munthu wowala poyang'ana, akukopa anthu. Wophunzira zamaganizo wa ku Austria A. Adler, adalankhula za munthu wopanda pake monga wodzazidwa mpaka momwe palibe malo ena. Kodi zopanda pake zimawonekera bwanji:
- Kuwonetsa malingaliro, malingaliro - dziko la mkati likhoza kusiyana ndi mawonetseredwe akunja (cholinga ndikugwira mwatcheru omvera kuti amvetse).
- Kunyansidwa kwa munthu wina kuti amve ngati wapamwamba (akufotokozedwa zambiri mwa akazi).
- Chikhumbo chochita ntchito zabwino ndikuuza ena kuti "ndine wabwino".
- Chofunika kwambiri pa "nyenyezi" - osadziwa tanthauzo la ntchito, ntchito imene munthu amafunikira kuti apambane.
- Nsanje poyerekeza ndi iwo omwe apindula chinachake mu moyo.
Zachabecha zabwino kapena zoipa?
Chochitika chirichonse chiri ndi zinthu zabwino ndi zoipa. Kodi zopanda pake zaumunthu ndi ziti ndipo zilipo nthawi yabwino - mwazinthu zothandiza? Pali nthawi zina zovuta, koma palinso mbali zabwino zachabechabe:
- kumathandizira kupambana ndi kuvomereza (makamaka mu bizinesi yawonetsero);
- ndi njira yoyamba yothandiza munthu aliyense: kufufuza mu malo apamwamba, kukwezedwa mu ntchito.
Kodi ndichabechabe pa mbali yolakwika:
- Vuto lofunika kwambiri lachabechabe liri m'chakuti munthu samapindulitsa anthu ndipo amadzikonzekera yekha.
- Anthu ovutika, ndizovuta kukhala oyanjana ndi okondedwa awo: kudzikuza kwawo, kudzikweza ndi kudzikweza, amanyengerera anthu.
- Kukula kwauzimu sikuthekapo, nthawi zambiri munthu akhoza kupita ku state of megalomania (psychopathology of personality) pamene akudziyesa wamphamvuyonse.
Zachabechabe ndi kunyada - ndi kusiyana kotani?
Kudzikonda ndi kudzikonda ndiko munda umene kunyada ndi zopanda pake zili "kusamalidwa." Kulingalira kwathunthu kwa munthu kwa iyemwini, zomwe anachita. Zachabechabe zimaonedwa kuti ndizosavomerezeka kwa anthu kuposa kudzikuza. Mwachabechabe, munthu akhoza kuzindikirabe kuipa kwake kwa "I-malo" ake, mwa kunyada pali kusanyalanyaza kwathunthu ena pambuyo pa kudzikuza wekha. Mu zipembedzo zonse zadziko, kudzikuza ndi tchimo lalikulu.
Kufunafuna ndi zopanda pake ndizosiyana
Chilakolako cha munthu kuti chikhale chabwino m'magulu osiyanasiyana amalemekezedwa. Kukhala dokotala wabwino, mphunzitsi, kutenga udindo pa ntchito yanu ndi udindo wonse ndi kukhala chitsanzo kwa ena ndi zomwe zimasiyanitsa chilakolako chochokera kuchabechabe, komwe chidwi "chopanda kanthu" chimakopeka ndi umunthu wake. Kufuna kutchuka ndi zopanda pake - pali mzere wabwino pakati pawo pamene khalidwe limodzi likhoza kupita kumalo ena: munthu amayamba kudzitamandira chifukwa cha zoyenera kale komanso momwe angagwiritsire ntchito pothandiza anthu.
Kodi kuchotsa zopanda pake?
Munthu akangodziwa kuti ali muukapolo chifukwa cha kufunika kwake komanso kudalira kuzinyoza, kuvomereza ndi ena, amamenyana ndi gulu - pali ntchito yaikulu ya maganizo ndi maganizo kuti adzigonjetse. Mmene mungagwirire ndichabechabe - malingaliro angapo ochokera kwa akatswiri a maganizo:
- Pragmatism ndi khalidwe limene, pamalingaliro olingalira, limathandiza kuthetseratu zopanda pake ndi kusapumula pa zovuta zomwe zakhala zikupindula kale.
- Yerekezerani zomwe mukuchita bwino ndi kupambana kwa anthu ena - kumbukirani kuti nthawi zonse pali winawake wanzeru, wokongola, wopambana.
- Tengerani chitsanzo cha anthu otchuka omwe, powayendera bwino, sanakhale opanda pake: Mayi Teresa, Mohammed Ali, Keanu Reeves - umunthu wodzichepetsa wa mbiri ya dziko
- Kugawanika kupambana ndi zopindula ndizokuti kupambana ndiko chifukwa cha kutenga nawo mbali kwa anthu ena m'moyo wa munthu. Kulandiridwa kwa mfundo iyi ndi chiyamiko kwa makolo, aphunzitsi omwe amakumana pa njira ya moyo - kuthandizira kutuluka mu mkhalidwe wopanda pake.
- G.D. Roberts ndi wolemba wina wa ku Australia amene, mu buku lake The Shadow of the Mountain, adanena kuti zingakhale zothandiza bwanji kupeza, nthawi zina kugwada mutu ndi kugwada ndi ntchito yabwino yopanda pake.
Kodi ndichabechabe mu Orthodoxy?
Nchifukwa chiyani zopanda pake ndi tchimo mu miyambo ya Orthodox? Mu filimu yotchuka "Woimira Mdierekezi," Al Pacino yemwe ndi wolimba mtima amalankhula mau omwe amavomereza kuti zopanda pake ndi chimodzi mwa machimo omwe amamukonda, Mdyerekezi. Moyo wa munthu wolemekezeka ndi wopanda chitetezo pa mayesero a mphamvu zakuda. Abambo Opatulika onena zachabechabe:
- Maganizo oipa amachokera kwa Mdyerekezi, koma osachokera kwa Mulungu.
- Zachabechazi zimawonekera mwaukali pa pafupi, kuti amakhala moyo wosalungama, mmalo mwa kukhala ndi chifundo ndi kupempha Mulungu kuti atsogolere munthu wokhazikika ku njira yolungama.
- Amene amachita ndi kunena chinachake chifukwa cha ulemerero wa dziko lapansi ndi chabe (Saint Basil Wamkulu).
- Moyo wopanda pake ndi dzenje popanda madzi (St. Evagrius).
- Zachabechabe ngati mphepo yamkuntho - kuyendetsa chuma chonse cha ukoma (St. John Chrysostom).
Mmene mungagonjetse zopanda pake - Orthodoxy
Zachabecha ndi tchimo limene limadya ntchito za moyo waumunthu . Ansembe a Orthodox amanyalanyaza kwambiri kuyeretsa kwa malingaliro ndi ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku - ichi ndi khama lalikulu pa njira yopita kwa Mulungu. Kulimbana ndi zopanda pake ndi kunyada kumaphatikizapo:
- kudzichepetsa;
- kudzichepetsa;
- ntchito ndi chikondi ndi kulemekeza chirichonse;
- ntchito zabwino, kotero kuti palibe aliyense wa iwo amene adamuzungulira adziwa;
- mapemphelo othandizira kuthana ndi mayesero;
- kuvomereza pamaso pa wansembe.