Kulephera kugonana mu moyo wa munthu kumakhudza kwambiri maganizo ake. Mu moyo wa aliyense, panalipo nthawi ndipo palibe mgwirizano wapamtima, ndipo posachedwa sichiyembekezeredwa, panthawiyi ndikofunika kudziwa momwe mungathetsere kugonana.
Pali njira zingapo zothandiza kuthana ndi vuto ili:
- Dzipezeni nokha munthu yemwe mungathe kukwaniritsa zosowa zanu, koma kenanso. Mwanjira iyi, makamaka, pali akazi omwe amadziwika ndi awo osadziletsa komanso opanda vuto. Masiku ano, pali amuna ambiri omwe amafunanso okondedwa okha pazogonana, kotero kufufuza sikudzatha. Mwinamwake wina akuganiza kuti njira iyi, monga mkazi kuchotsa kugonana, ndizosavomerezeka, koma zothandiza.
- Njira ina ndi kugonana kwachiwerewere , koma ili ndi zolakwika zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mungapeze mbiri monga msungwana wabwino kwambiri, atenge matenda alionse komanso kusintha khalidwe lanu la kugonana. Choncho, njira iyi yochotsera kugonana kwapakati, sayenera kukhala lamulo kwa inu, koma m'malo mwake.
- Chotsatira chotsatira, momwe mungatulutsire kukangana kwa kugonana, mwinamwake ndibwino kwa aliyense - kudzikhutira. Ubwino wa chisankho ichi:
- mukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi nthawi iliyonse;
- Podziwa thupi lanu, mutha kukhala osangalala mwamsanga.