"... Eya, iye wandiponyera (chabwino, kapena ine ndachita), koma sizinakhale mwezi kuchokera pamene iye anali atagwirana kale ndi wina. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? N'zoona kuti muyenera kuchitira nsanje munthu wokalambayo, ndipo mofanana ndi mafilimu, akuzunzidwa nthawi yaitali komanso akupemphani kuti muyambe kukondana. " Ngati muli ndi malingaliro ofananawo, musamangoganizira mozama funsoli "momwe mungapangire mnyamata wachikulire nsanje," koma kuyamba kuganizira ngati izi ndizofunikira komanso ngati kubwerera kwake kungakhale kovomerezeka. Ndipo palibe chinyengo chomwe chingapereke zotsatira zoyenerera, ngati munthuyo sakhala ndikumverera kulikonse kwa inu.
Zoona, pali atsikana ena omwe amakhutira ndi ubale umene ulipo, koma amaganiziranso nthawi ndi nthawi momwe angapangire mchimwene wawo nsanje, kudzimva yekha kuti sakuwoneka bwino popanda kuwonetsa kumverera kwa wokondedwayo. Ngati mulandu wanu ndi wotere, ndiye kuti simudziwa kuti mnyamatayu ali ndi nsanje pa inu, simudziwa kumvetsa izi.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati mnyamatayo akukuchitirani nsanje?
Ndipotu, sizowoneka ngati zovuta poyamba. Mwachikhalidwechi n'zotheka kugawa anthu achisoni m'magulu awiri: osasamala komanso otetezeka. Ngati wokondedwa wanu ndi wa gulu loyambalo, sangathe kubisa maganizo ake kwa nthawi yayitali, ndithudi adzapeza mgwirizano pa zonse zomwe zili bwino komanso zosatheka. Pano ndi pamaso pa zikwapu, zowonongeka ndi zinyumba komanso zisanathe. Chabwino, ngati chilakolako cha nsanje ya nsanje, ndiye, mwinamwake, chidzakhala khalidwe la mwana wokhumudwa. Angathe kukhala chete, kudzipatula ku mayankho a monosyllabic, ndi kusayankha chikondi, ndi kuchoka, akudzudzula chitseko komanso osayankha mafoni. Monga tikuonera, kumvetsetsa ngati mnyamata ali ndi nsanje, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti tithetsere wokondedwa wathu, choncho tiyeneranso kulingalira ngati kuli koyeneranso kumukhumudwitsa kuti asonyeze kumverera uku. Koma ngati mumamupangitsa nsanje kuti mumuthandize, ngati mpweya watsopano, ndiye chifukwa chake.
Njira zopangira mnyamata nsanje
Kotero, momwe mungamupangire mnyamata nsanje? Apanso, palibe zovuta - muyenera kusonyeza kuti siye yekhayo amene amakukondani, kuti ndinu wotchuka ndi abambo.
- Tiyeni tiyambe, mwinamwake, ndi maluwa osalakwa kwambiri (mphatso zazing'ono), zomwe zimayesedwa ndi wokondedwa. Maluwa amatha kulamulidwa kunyumba - pa nkhaniyi, musaiwale za khadili ndi mawu achikondi. Ndipo mukhoza kugula panjira, ndikusankha malo ogulitsira kutali, ndipo zimakhala zachilendo ngati wokondedwa wanu akuwona momwe mumachokera msika wogulitsa maluwa ndi maluwa. Chabwino, ndibwino kuti sizodziwika nthawi imodzi, lolani maluwa, koma kangapo pa sabata. Ndipo ndi funso, yemwe amapereka chithandizo, timachita manyazi komanso timangokhalira kumalankhula za wina watsopano.
- Kulankhulana ndi wina mwa foni, imelo, kugwiritsa ntchito ICQ kapena malo ochezera a anthu, zilizonse. Pokhapokha pafoni, ndi bwino kuti kumbali iyi padakali mwamuna, osati mnzanu wapamtima. Ndipo makalata a imelo adzatsala pawindo pazowunikira.
- Kusintha kwa maonekedwe. Chowonadi cha kusintha kokha kwa fano sichidzakwanira, iwe uyenera kuyendayenda mmitambo, nthawi zambiri kudziyesa kukhala wosamalitsa mu zokambirana ndi kulola kuwoneka molota. Ndipo mukhoza kusintha zosangalatsa zanu, mwachitsanzo, simunayambe mumakonda sushi kale. Ndiyenera kukonda ndi ndemanga yokhutira ndikuyankha kuti mnzanga watsopano adawaphunzitsa kudya bwino.
- Timasiya kubwera kuchokera kuntchito panthawi imodzimodzi ndikukhala osagwira ntchito, osachokera kuntchito kuposa nthawi zonse.
- Ngati chinthucho chikukhudzidwa, munthu yemwe kale anali pamsonkhanowo, pokambirana pafupipafupi, kuyankhulana n'koyenera kuyang'ana bwino-bwino ndi kusangalala, ndipo ndithudi sizitha kuphulika panthawi yomwe ikuchitika. Kodi mwaima pamsewu ndikuyamba kulankhula ndi omwe kale? Osati moyipa, koma tanthauzo (mwachitsanzo, kupenya pa koloko) kuti ndi nthawi yoti mupite komwe mukuyembekezeredwa kwambiri.
- Kuti mupange nsanje, mumangonena momwe mnzanu watsopano akukondera.
- Eya, njira yosavuta, komanso yoopsa kwambiri ndiyokuwonekera pamaso pa wokondedwa ndi mwamuna wina.
Musapitirire ndi chilakolako chofuna nsanje. Ndiyeno mukutsata zovuta za kumverera kwa munthu wokwera mtengo mungathe kutaya.