Kukongola kwa amayi ndi chithumwa ali ndi mphamvu zazikulu. Amuna nthawi zonse amamvetsera amayi okonzekera bwino komanso owala bwino. Mphamvu yamphamvu ya mphamvu ndi yowona, yang'anani m'maso, kumwetulira moona mtima - chirichonse chimagwirizanitsidwa limodzi ndi chithumwa cha mkazi. Mmene mungakhazikitsire ndi momwe kupezeka kwa khalidweli kumadalira - kuwerenga za izi.
Malangizo othandiza
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti munthu azisangalatsa munthu amene ali ndi chidwi. Pogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi, nthawi yokhala ndi chiyanjano ndi yofunikanso. Kuwoneka, manja, kumwetulira, malo okongola - amuna ndi ofunika pa chikhalidwe cha chikazi. Kodi chisokonezo n'chiyani? Tsatanetsatane yeniyeni ingakhale ngati mphatso yosamvetsetseka kuti ifike pamaganizo a anthu oyandikana nawo, kukhala okongola. Chikondi chaumwini ndi munthu weniweni. Ndi mndandanda wa kukongola, malingaliro ndi kukoma mtima.
Tsoka ilo, si onse omwe ali ndi chikoka cha chilengedwe ndi chisomo. Koma musataye mtima, chifukwa ndi chilakolako cholimba, zonsezi zikhoza kupangidwa mwayekha. Ngakhale kuti n'zovuta, muyenera kuyamba pang'ono. Yesetsani kukhala wokoma mtima nthawi zonse, akumwetulira komanso omvera chisoni. Kukongola kungakhale munthu wabwino, woganizira ena komanso wokondweretsa amene saonetsa ulemu wake pawonetsero.
Podziwa zinsinsi za abambo azimayi, mukhoza kuona nthawi zomwe mukuyenera kuchita:
- kukhutira ndi wekha ndi moyo wanu. Matenda a munthu ndi osavuta "kutenga" kumaso kwake. Kuwoneka kosatha ndi maso opunduka sizingatheke kukopa chidwi cha munthu wokondweretsa. Lamulo loyamba ndikulingalira umoyo wa moyo;
- kudzikonda komanso malingaliro abwino. Dzidziwitse m'mawa uliwonse momwe tsiku lidzakhalire losangalatsa. Dzitamandeni nokha, onani ulemu wanu, chitani zofooka zanu mochepetsetsa;
- kudzidalira ndi kupeza zomwe mukufuna. Ngati mkazi asankha kupeza mwamuna, ndithudi amamuwonetsa mphamvu zake zonse ndi zokopa zake;
- kumbukirani kukongola kwa kunja. Tsitsi labwino, lokonzedwa bwino, kumamatira kalembedwe ka zovala - chirichonse chimene anganene, amawonekera;
- mzimu wa kulankhulana. Phunzirani kukhala wothandizana naye, kufika kumalo ake. Khalani ndi chidwi pa zokambirana, ndipo musati muzithetse mavuto anu ndi maganizo olakwika.
Mkazi akhoza kukhala wopanda chikhalidwe chabwino komanso osakhala wokongola kwambiri, chithumwa chimachokera mkati. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe cha moyo chomwe chimakopa ndi kukondweretsa anthu, kuwapangitsa kuyamikira ndi chikhumbo chokhala pafupi ndi munthu woterowo.
Kodi ndi makhalidwe ati a anthu okongola komanso okongola kwambiri?
Chinthu choyamba chimene chimasiyanitsa iwo ndi nzeru ndi kulingalira kwaokha. Mfundo yotsatira ndiyo kuzindikira kuwona mtima ndi kukhudzidwa kwakukulu kwa ena. Anthu okondweretsa amadziwa momwe angalota. Iwo ali ndi chiyembekezo chabwino mu moyo ndi wokongola chifukwa amangofika kwa iwo okha ndikukwaniritsa bwino chifukwa cha zabwino zawo. Intuition yophunzitsidwa bwino ndi mlangizi woona muzinthu zambiri.
Chithumwa chosaipitsa nthawi zambiri chimakhala chophweka. Komabe, ambiri amakonda khalidwe ili. Kusokonezeka, makamaka mwa amuna, kumakopa amuna kapena akazi ngati maginito. Mwamunayo akuwoneka wamphamvu, wamphamvu, wodalirika komanso wopambana kwambiri. Komabe, kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri, ndi chigoba, chomwe munthu wokhotakhota ndi wophweka amabisala.
Anthu achinyengo amafotokoza momveka bwino mawu awo, kuuma kwao ndi kuwongolera, komanso kusangalatsa komanso malingaliro osiyana.
Munthu wokongola ndi wovuta kuti asamazindikire. Kotero, ife tiri nacho chinachake choti tiyesere.