Ngati mwamuna akusowa, ndiye ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za kugwera kwake m'chikondi. Pano pali njira yodziwira ngati munthu akusowa, koma ngati palibe momwe angapangitsire wokondedwayo kukhala wosangalala? Kodi mukusowa miyambo yamatsenga kapena mukufunikira kusintha khalidwe lanu pang'ono?
Kodi mungatani kuti munthu asamavutike? Magic idzakuthandizani!
Pofuna kusintha chinachake m'moyo wathu, timayamba kufunafuna njira zothetsera cholinga ndipo nthawi zambiri timatembenuza maso athu ku matsenga, ndikuziganizira njira yochepetsera. Koma izi siziri choncho - chilichonse chochita zamatsenga chimafuna mphamvu, komanso kuyendetsa mchitidwe wonse. Choncho ngati muwotcha kandulo, mukufuna kumulankhula mnyamata, ndipo ganizirani zazing'ono zomwe zili mufiriji, ndiye kuti mulingo womwe mungapite kuchokera kuchithunzichi ndi chilakolako chodya. Choncho, musanayambe kuchitapo kanthu, muyenera kulingalira bwino chithunzi cha zomwe ziyenera kuchitika chifukwa cha mwambo. Ndipo si tsogolo, koma liripo, lomwe liyenera kuwonetsedwa, ngati kuti chikhumbo chachitika kale. Kuonjezera apo, kupanga malingaliro achikondi kuyenera kukhala pa mwezi ukukula, ndi cholinga chake kuti achite mwambo wobisa chinsinsi kwa aliyense.
Ndiye, mungatani kuti mnyamata wokondedwa akhumudwe? Muyenera kutenga chilichonse chomwe chinali m'manja mwake. Pa chinthu ichi, nthawi 9 ndikofunikira kuwerenga chiwembu: "Ndikukulangizani (dzina la wokondedwa), chinthu chanu ndi ine, maganizo anu ponena za ine. Nditengereni, undiphonye, mudzasangalala pokhapokha mukakhala nane. " Muyenera kubisala chinthu chobisika pakhomo kuti chisagwire aliyense. Pambuyo pochita mwambo, muyenera kusiya kuganiza za kukwaniritsa chikhumbo, ndikukhulupirira kuti zonse zakhala zikuchitika kale. Chabwino, kuti mnyamatayo akhale ndi nthawi yowopsya, simuyenera kumuwona kwa masiku angapo.
Momwe mungapangire munthu kumasowa: maganizo a maganizo
Ngati mumadabwa ndi matsenga onse "matsenga", ndiye kuti muyenera kutembenukira ku psychology. Amadziwanso momwe angapangire munthu kumasowa.
Aliyense akukumbukira agalu a Pavlov ali ndi zikhalidwe zawo zachibadwa? Izi zikhoza kuchitika ndi anthu. Ngati munthu amasangalala, ndiye adzachita zomwe angathe kuti abwereze zomwe zimawatsogolera. Zikuwoneka kuti zonse zili bwino, mwamunayo ndi wabwino, amakusowa. Kotero, iye akuthamanga ulendo wonse kuti akhalenso wabwino. Komabe, pali vuto limodzi - si inu nokha pa Padziko lapansi, ndipo chifukwa chake "zabwino" munthu akhoza kupeza ndi zina. Ndiye kodi mnyamatayo ayenera kukuphonya chiyani? Ndikofunika kuti mukumbukire nthawi zonse zosangalatsa za chiyanjano chanu zimayikidwa, kotero kuti njira yopezera chisangalalo ikukhudzana ndi inu. NLP pachifukwa ichi amalangiza kuti apachike wokondedwa ndi "anchors" - kupanga mgwirizano pakati pa nthawi yokondweretsa ndi nthawi yanu. Mofanana ndi kununkhira komwe munamva patsiku lanu loyamba, nyimbo yomwe idakondana kwambiri ndi banja lanu, mawu omwe mumamveketsa m'makutu ake, panthawi yake.
Zimagwira bwanji ntchito? Mwachitsanzo, amamva nyimbo, amakumbukira kuti mumapsompsona mwatsatanetsatane nyimboyi, kenako amamvetsera nyimbo nthawi zonse, nyimboyi mumaganizo ake imagwirizanitsidwa ndi inu. Kukumbukira kukupitirira, amamvetsetsa momwe analili bwino ndi inu komanso momwe silibwino tsopano. Mwa mawu, mnyamatayu akuyamba kukuphonya iwe.
Atsikana ambiri amayesa njirayi kuti amuthandize mnyamata kufuna kukonda, monga kunyalanyaza kuyitana kwake,
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mnyamatayo amanjenjemera?
Kuti mumvetse kuti mnyamata amanjenjemera popanda iwe ndiwe wosavuta. Nthawi zonse amasonyeza kuti akufuna kukhalapo nthawi zonse. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri amaitana, amalemba mauthenga, ndipo akamakumana nthawi zonse amayang'ana m'maso mwake, amayesa kukhudza nthawi zonse. Ndipo akufunanso kuthera nthawi yake yonse, adanena kuti sangathe kuyembekezera msonkhano wotsatira.