Momwe mungayanjane ndi mwamuna wokwatira?

Simungathe kulamulira mtima. Pafupifupi choncho amadzilungamitsa okha omwe ali ndi mavuto omwe adasankha kukondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Zochitika za amayi awa, monga lamulo, ziri zofanana, ngati kuti zinalembedwa pamapepala a carbon. Poyamba panali chisokonezo, "bwino" ndipo pangakhalepo munthu wina, ndipo kenaka panafika kuzindikira, ndipo mphindi iliyonse amayesera kubwerera. Koma izo zikukhalira si onse. Momwe mungasamalire ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa ndipo musayambe kuyendanso pa rakes izi? Iyi ndi mutu womwe tidzakambirana lero.

Kulumikizana ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndi maonekedwe ake onse

Choyamba, yesetsani kuthana ndi amuna omwe. Lero, mfundo yakuti nzika yokwatirana imayankhula pambali, palibe yemwe amadabwa. Uphungu nthawi zambiri umakhululukidwa ndi akazi, ndipo banja limapitiriza kukhala ndi moyo, ngati kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika. Koma pali funso limodzi lomwe silinapumitse kugonana kwabwino - chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wokwatira ali mbuye? Ndikofunika kwambiri kudziwa aliyense amene ali ndi udindo wa mbuye wake, kuti asadzidetse yekha ndi ziyembekezo zirizonse.

Kawirikawiri, timakonda kuganiza kuti mwamuna amalephera ngati banja silili bwino. Inde, izi zimachitika. Koma palinso zifukwa zina zomwe zimalimbikitsa theka la anthu kuti apite "kumanzere":

1. Poyambira pa nthawi inayake pamoyo wokhudzana ndi mkazi wake, pafupifupi munthu aliyense akuyamba kuganiza kuti akukalamba, ndipo sachita chidwi ndi amayi. Kuti adziwonetsere kuti akadali "oh-go-go" ndipo ali ndi mtima ndi thupi laling'ono, mwamuna ayamba kuyang'ana kulumikizana kumbali. Kuwonjezera pa kudzivomereza, iye satsatira zolinga zirizonse.
2. Mavuto a pulani yokondana ndi mkazi wake. Zochitika zoterozo zimachitanso. Cholinga cha munthu wotero ndicho kukwanitsa zofuna zake mwanjira iliyonse
3. Chowopsya chomwe chimayambitsa magazi kuti chifufuze ndi adrenaline. Maganizo atsopano, kuwonjezeka kwa kudzidalira, kusintha kwa mkhalidwe, kusangalala ndilo mndandanda wosakwanira wa chifukwa chimene amuna nthawi zonse amathawira banja.

Pazifukwa zonsezi, amuna, makamaka, akupitiriza kukonda akazi awo komanso kusiya mabanja awo. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake ziri zosatsutsika kukonda munthu wotere, ndipo sizingakhale zopanda phindu. Koma bwanji ngati chikondi cha mwamuna wokwatiwa kale chikhala ndi malo oti akhale? Pambuyo pa zonse, mwinamwake simunadziwe ngakhale kuti iye anali mwamuna wa banja ndipo anali ndi nthawi yogwirizana. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kumvetsetsa nokha ndikuphunzira kusiyanitsa anthu omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana, kuti musakhululukenso.

Bwanji ngati mwamunayo akwatira?

Kuti mwamuna aliyense wokwatirana ayenera kupatulidwa ndipo mwamsanga mwamsanga ayenera kumvetsetsedwa ndi mbuye aliyense angathe. Kuyembekeza kuti adzasiya banja chifukwa cha ubale watsopano, osachepera, ndi wopusa komanso wopanda pake. Koma momwe mungaponyedwe mwamuna wokwatira, ngati iye samangomvera chisoni chabe, komanso chikondi chawonekera? Mukhoza kuchita izi pang'onopang'ono. Ndipo muyenera kuyamba, ndithudi, ndi nokha:

1. Kusankha nokha kuti simukufunanso kukhala chidole m'manja mwa mwamuna wokwatira, khala wolimba mtima kumuuza izi pamaso pako. Lembani mawu pa pepala, imani ndi kuyeserera pamaso pa galasilo, koma chitani chilichonse kuti mawu anu akhale otsimikiza komanso okhutira. Ntchito yanu ndi kupirira maganizo anu. Ziribe kanthu momwe wokondedwa wanu amachitira, musakhale ndi "chibwenzi chotsutsana" ndi zizolowezi zofanana. Kumbukirani kuti muyenera kuchoka pa kanema koyipa ndi kutseka buku losasangalatsa.
2. Mfundo yachiwiri ndi zotsatira zoyamba. Chotsani nambala yake, kapena bwino apo, yonjezerani ku mndandanda wakuda. Tsukani zithunzi zojambulidwa ndi kutaya ma diski ndi nyimbo zomwe amakonda. Anakhalabe m'mbuyo ndipo palibe chomwe chiyenera kukukumbutsani.
3. Mungaiwale bwanji mwamuna wokwatiwa ngati ali mnzanu? Zinthu ngati zimenezi ndizofala. Mwamwayi, njira yokhayo yolandiridwa ndi kuchoka kuntchito, i.e. kuchotsedwa.
4. Musasunge maganizo anu. Pezani chinachake chomwe chidzakumverani ndi kuthandizira. Komanso nkofunikira kukhala ndi diary yomwe mungalembere malingaliro anu. Ngati iwowo ndi blog yanu, ndiye mutha kutsimikiza kuti mazana ambiri omwe kale anali okonda adzalumikizana nawe ndipo adzakuthandizani ndi uphungu wabwino.
5. Phunzirani kudzikonda nokha. Monga momwe adasonyezera, amayi ambiri amanyalanyaza anthu okwatirana chifukwa cha kudzichepetsa kwawo. Musamayembekezere kuti wokondedwa wanu adzatuluka mwamsanga. Koma musapite ku zovuta zonse ndipo musayang'ane chilakolako chatsopano choiwala choyambirira. Komanso, kuti musabwereze zolakwa zanu, nkofunika kudziwa momwe zingamvetsetse kuti mwamuna ali wokwatira: sanakupatseni nambala yake ya kunyumba, akhoza kuphika, kuvala zovala zamkati, akukweza mpando mu chimbudzi, samaitana ndi kukuletsani kuti mumuitane mwiniwake, amakonda masewero ogonana, amatha kuchoka mwachangu kapena ICQ, pamimba pake pamakhala gulu lowala. Ndipo ndithudi nthawi zina muyenera kudalira chidziwitso chanu.

Makhalidwe a mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi ovuta kulosera. Koma ngati mumadzidalira nokha, simudzagweranso mumsampha wake. Pali amuna ambiri okongola padziko lapansi. Mukungofunikira kusankha mosamala kwambiri. Ndiyeno simudzakhalanso ndi mavuto ndi momwe mungapulumuke kulekana kwa mwamuna wokwatira.