Kodi mungachotse bwanji mnyamata kuti asakhumudwe?

Pali zochitika pamene chiyanjano ndi mnyamata sichiwonjezera, ndipo muyenera kuwatsiriza mosamala. Komabe, izi sizili zophweka, chifukwa mnyamatayo ali ndi zolinga zosiyana kwambiri ndipo ali wokonzeka kumenyana nthawi zina mpaka mapeto. Kuonjezera apo, kukana kwa msungwanayo kumaganiziridwa ndi iye ngati kuitana kwa zochita zambiri. Pambuyo pake, amuna mwachilengedwe - osaka, ndipo ali ndi chidwi chachikulu, ngati mtsikanayo agonjetsa.

Kawirikawiri, muzochitika zotero, atsikana akuyang'ana momwe angachotsere mnyamata kuti asakhumudwe. Nthaŵi zambiri, njira zoyamikiridwa zimakwaniritsa zotsatira zake. Komabe, nthawi zina mnyamata akhoza kukhumudwitsidwa, ngakhale ngati kufotokozedwa kunanenedwa ndi nzeru zonse ndi zokoma. Pachifukwa ichi, musadandaule, chifukwa chirichonse chinachitidwa.

Ndibwino bwanji kuti munthu asule?

Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalimbikitsa kuti achitepo kanthu, momwe angachotsere munthu, popanda kukhumudwitsa:

1. Ndikofunikira kusankha malo abwino oti mukambirane. Sikoyenera kuyambitsa zokambirana pamaso pa anthu osaloledwa, popeza izi zingathe kupweteketsa mtima wachinyamata. Osati njira yabwino yokambirana ndi nyumba ya munthu. Kungakhale koyenera kwambiri kukambirana ndi anthu, koma pamalo omwe palibe amene angasokoneze: paki, mu cafe.
2. Yambani kukambirana bwino ndikufotokozera makhalidwe abwino a munthuyo. Ndikoyenera kunena kuti ali ndi makhalidwe ambiri, ndipo ndi bwenzi labwino. Kuti mwakonzeka kupitiriza kukhala bwenzi lake kapena kungolankhulana, koma simungapereke zomwe akuyembekeza kwa inu, chifukwa momwe mumamvera muli chete.
3. Ndikofunika kulankhula popanda mthunzi wa zokometsera ndi zoipa. Mawu onse ayenera kukhala osamvetsetseka komanso omveka bwino.
4. Ngati kuli kovuta kukambirana, mukhoza kulemba kalata, yomwe iyeneranso kuyamba ndi mfundo zabwino.
5. Ngati mwayamba kuyang'anitsitsa, ndipo simukukonzekera ubale uliwonse ndi iye, mungamuuze kuti muli ndi mnyamata yemwe muli ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri.
6. Pambuyo pa zokambirana, funsani munthuyu ayenera kuchepetsedwa kuti asakhale ndi ziyembekezo zirizonse.
7. Mungagwiritse ntchito njira yovuta kwambiri, kumusula bwino. Kuti muchite izi, funsani mnzanu kuti azisewera nanu, akudziyesa kuti ndinu banja. Pa nthawi yomweyi, simudzasowa kulankhula ndi kufotokoza chilichonse, chifukwa zonse zidzakhala zomveka popanda mawu.
8. Njira yothandiza kwambiri, momwe modekha kumuchotsera mnyamata, ndi kusayanjanitsika. Ndikwanira kuti mukhale mwamtendere, khalani chete, mutengeke pamsonkhano musagwirizane ndi zokambirana zilizonse, kuti chidwi chifike kumayiko ena.

Kodi azikongoletsa mnyamata mwaulemu?

Kulephera kulephera kumakupangitsani kuti mukhale paubwenzi wabwino ndi mnyamata komanso kuti musamamuchititse manyazi. Mungathe kuchita ndi mawu awa:

• ndinu munthu wabwino kwambiri, ndipo ndithudi muli ndi bwenzi lapamtima wokondeka;
• malingaliro anga ali chete, kotero ine sindingakhoze kukhala ndi inu palimodzi;
• Ndikuyembekeza kuti simudzakhumudwitsidwa, chifukwa chakukwiyira ndi gawo la ofooka;
• Ine ndiribe ufulu kuti ndikusunge pafupi ndi ine, pakuti ine ndiribe chikondi chirichonse kwa iwe;
• ife tingakhale bwino kuti tisiye, kotero inu mukhoza kupeza moyo wanu wokondedwa;
• Ine tsopano ndikufuna kuti ndikhale ndekha, kotero ndikukupemphani kuti muchoke moyo wanga;
• tifunika kuswa, chifukwa simungandichitire ine ngati bwenzi, koma sindingakhale woposa mnzanga;
• tiyeni tingogawana nanu bwino, popanda kufotokoza ndi kunyoza;
• Ndikukuchitikirani bwino, choncho sindikufuna kukukhumudwitsani ndikupempha kuti tisiyane;
• Mtima wanga sungathe kubwereza, kotero kuti musamawononge nthawi pa ine ndikuyesera kupeza theka lanu lachiwiri.

Sikokwanira nthawi zonse kumusokera mnyamata wachifundo komanso wosakhwima. Nthawi zina, kulimbika ndi kuwongoka kungafunikire kuti mzimayi azindikire kuti mtsikanayo sakufuna kukhala ndi chochita naye.