Ndili ndi apongozi anga

Maubwenzi oipa ndi apongozi awo ndi achilendo m'mabanja achichepere, koma nthawi zina mpongozi wake amadandaula kuti apongozi ake awatenga. Bwanji ngati mulibe ubale ndi "mayi wachiwiri"? Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani pa nkhani iyi: kuika apongozi anga pamalo anga ndikuyesera kuti ndiyanjane naye mumakonzedwe anu kapena kukhala ndi njira yothetsera kuyanjana kwa amayi apongozi anu m'banja?

Bwanji ngati apongozi anga atapeza izo?

Ngati apongozi ake akutsutsa kuti sangakwanitse "malangizo ake ofunikira", pali chilakolako chosatsutsika chopeza momwe angabwezerere apongozi awo. Koma ganizirani ngati kuli koyenera kuchita, mwinamwake sizinthu zonse zoipa, ndipo pali njira yopeza anzako ndi apongozi ake. Pambuyo pake, iye akadali mayi wa munthu wokondedwa wanu, ndipo popeza adakwanitsa kulera munthu wabwino chotero, mwina nayenso ayenera kukonda? Kawirikawiri apongozi ake sakonda mpongozi wake chifukwa amamuchitira nsanje mwana wake, chifukwa amadandaula za mwana wake, ndipo palibe kanthu kena kameneka. Yesani kumvetsetsa, afotokozereni apongozi anu kuti mumakonda mwana wake. Yesetsani kumvetsera malangizo ake, kumusangalatsa munthu, koma mukhoza kuchita zomwe mukufuna.

Kodi mungachotse bwanji chikoka cha apongozi anu?

Koma nthawi zina zimachitika kuti mavuto ndi apongozi ake samaima, iye amakana kulumikizana ndipo kuyesera kwanu konse kuyanjanitso kumatayika pachabe. Zomwe mungachite ngati nthawi zambiri mumakonda abwenzi anu "kudana ndi apongozi anu" ndikuganiza momwe mungasokonezere chikoka chake pa banja lanu? Ikani apongozi anu kale, pokwanira kuti asokoneze moyo wanu! Ndipo ndizo zomwe mungachite ngati apongozi anu afika pamapeto.

1. Mayi ako apongozi amakonda kukubwera popanda chenjezo, akuitana kuchokera pa siteshoni ndi pempho kuti mukakumane naye? Musaganizepo kuti mutenge nawo gawoli, mulole mwamuna mwiniwake akumane ndi amayi ake, ndipo muzichita bizinesi yanu. Kodi anakonzeka kukumana ndi anzanu kapena kupita ku salon? Musati muwachotse iwo mulimonsemo, onetsani apongozi anu kuti kubwera kwawo kuyenera kuvomerezedwa pasadakhale, ndi manja omasuka palibe amene amamuyembekezera.
2. Kodi apongozi anu amadziona kuti ndi amayi pachiyambi cha moyo wake? Kuwononga malingaliro ake, chitani izi mwachizolowezi chosamalira thanzi lake lamtengo wapatali. Funsani momwe akumvera ndikufotokozera kuti akuwoneka owopsya.
3. Mlamu anga amakonda kudya zokoma ndipo amapereka malangizo momwe angadyetse mwana wake? Mukafika, yikani ndiwo zamasamba zophika komanso zopanda zakudya komanso zakudya zina monga nyama yophika kapena nsomba. Zisokoneze pansi poyang'anira chisamaliro cha mwana wake wamwamuna - wakhala akuvutika ndi chimbudzi posachedwa. Koma chifukwa cha okondedwa, chakudya ichi chidzakhala banja lonse.
4. Kodi apongozi ake akufuna kuphika chinachake? Mulimonsemo musalole, mankhwala onse ndi mbale zachotsedwa m'malo olemekezeka. Ndipo poyankha pempho la apongozi ake kuti mum'patse zofunika, yankhani "chabwino, ndiwe chiyani, amayi, bwanji mukudzivutitsa nokha."
5. Ngati mukudziwa za kubwera kwa amayi, yambani kukonza khitchini, chipinda chogona kapena chimbudzi. Uzani mwamuna wake kuti mukufuna kuti apongozi anu aone kuti chirichonse ndi chokongola komanso choyera m'nyumba mwanu. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti musakhale ndi nthawi yokonzanso kukonzanso kwa amayi apongozi anu, ngakhale mutakhala ndi khomo lakumbudzi, khitchini ili ndi nyuzipepala, ndi mabatire (pansi, makoma) ndi zithunzi zatsopano zojambula.
6. Mulole izo zichitike "asanakhale mpongozi wake" - TV idzaphulika ndipo mndandanda wonsewo udzakhala wosafikika. Ndipo anawo ali ndendende pa nthawi yoti apeze apongozi awo pa alendo anu akusewera madzulo onse ndi anyamata oyandikana nawo kapena kukhala m'kalasi mu gawo kapena mugugu.
7. Usiku ukhale ndi kusowa kwakukulu, komwe ungakhale chete pansi pa zitseko za chipinda cha apongozi ake, ndikuyimba mawu amanyazi.
8. Pamene apongozi anu amatsimikiza kuti achoke panyumba panu, simukusowa kumuwona, amusiyeni mwamuna wake achite zimenezo. Ndipo mudzadziletsa nokha ku malaise mwangozi.
9. Samalirani kwambiri mwamuna wake - akhoza kukwiya ndi zonse zomwe zikuchitika. Choncho, nthawi zambiri nthawi ino, mutsimikizireni za chikondi chanu, khalani wofatsa naye. Zonse zodandaula za apongozi ake sizinapeze yankho mu mtima wake wosungunuka kuchokera kuzinyumba zanu.