Miyambo pa ukwatiwo

Ngakhale kuti miyambo ya ukwati ndi yosiyana kwa anthu onse, onse ali ndi cholinga chimodzi - kubweretsa chimwemwe ndi kupambana kwa banja. Zaka mazana angapo zapitazo miyambo yonse idakhazikika pakuchita zochitika zamakhalidwe kukhala ndi tanthauzo lapadera. Masiku ano, kwa anthu ambiri, miyambo yaukwatiyo yataya tanthauzo lake lenileni, ndipo imakhala yosangalatsa kwambiri.

Miyambo ya ukwati wa anthu osiyanasiyana

Monga miyambo ina, miyambo pa ukwati ikusintha kwambiri pafupifupi mitundu yonse. Kusintha kwakukulu kumachitika mu chikhalidwe cha anthu okhala padera, omwe amatsatira miyambo ya makolo awo. Kawirikawiri kusunga malamulo mwakhama ndi kutsatira miyambo kumakhudzana ndi zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo. Miyambo ndi miyambo ya Asilamu, Gypsy, maukwati a Armenia sizinasinthe kwa nthawi yaitali, makamaka chifukwa njira ya moyo ya anthu awa yasintha pang'ono. Ndiponso, kusunga miyambo kumapezeka m'midzi yomwe ili kutali ndi midzi. Izi zimakhala chifukwa cha chikhalidwe ndi njira ya moyo, zomwe m'malo mwake sizimasintha. Koma ngakhale pakati pa anthu omwe amalemekeza miyambo yawo ndikutsatira malamulo okhazikitsa, miyambo ndi miyambo yambiri yasintha kwambiri ndikukhala yosavuta. Mwachitsanzo, miyambo ndi miyambo ku ukwati wa Ossetian, ngakhale kuti ndizochititsa chidwi ndi luntha ndi ulemelero wawo, zinasiyanitsa zofunikira zokwanira mkwati ndi mkwatibwi mokwanira. Mkwati ankayenera kulipira dipo kwa makolo, osati ndalama zophiphiritsira, koma zochititsa chidwi kwambiri. Mkwatibwi atatha ukwati, pokhaladi, anakhala kapolo m'nyumba yatsopano, anayenera kugwira ntchito yaikulu. Koma m'kupita kwanthawi, miyambo yotereyi yakhala yosavuta kwambiri, yomwe imakhala yosintha osati pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, koma komanso mu ubale pakati pa anthu. Kusintha komweku kumachitika muzochitika zachi Kazakh zaukwati, momwe miyambo yambiri yakhalapo mpaka lero, koma mu losavuta.

Miyambo ndi miyambo yamaluwa

Koma m'midzi ikuluikulu, makamaka m'mayiko otukuka, ndizosatheka kukomana ndi miyambo yakale, kuphatikizapo miyambo ya ukwati. Koma, komabe, musanakondweretse ukwati, ndibwino kuphunzira miyambo ya makolo anu. Kugwiritsa ntchito miyambo yachikhalidwe sikungakhale zosangalatsa kwa alendo. Ngakhale tsankho ndi zikhulupiliro, miyambo yakale ili ndi nzeru zomwe anthu amapeza kwa mibadwo yambiri. Ndipo ngati simukudziwa momwe mungapangire ukwati wosaiƔalika, mungathe kuphatikiza mosamala zamakono ndi miyambo yakale. Sikofunikira, ndithudi, kugwiritsa ntchito miyambo, tanthauzo lake lomwe silikuwonekera kapena likuchititsa kukayikira. Koma sizingakhale zosangalatsa ngati tidzipatula ku miyambo yachikhalidwe, monga kukumana ndi mkate ndi mchere, kulanda mkwatibwi ndi dipo lake.

Miyambo ya kale ya Asilavic, kuphatikizapo miyambo ndi miyambo ya ukwati wa Russia, imakhala ndi miyambo yodabwitsa, yomwe si yodabwitsa chabe, komanso imakhala ndi tanthauzo lalikulu. Koma kwenikweni, ukwati ndi kusintha kwa moyo wa munthu aliyense, ndipo tsogolo la banja laling'ono lingadalire momwe zikondwererozo zidzachitikire. Mwachitsanzo, m'nthawi zakale miyambo ya Slavic inali yotchuka pokhapokha pokhazikitsa banja, komanso kuti achinyamata akhale osangalala. Choncho, panthawi yopanga masewera, mgwirizano ukatha, momwe mafunso osiyanasiyana okhudza moyo wa banja adatchulidwira. Mwachitsanzo, makolo a mkwatibwi angafune kuti mgwirizanowu uphatikize kuletsa kulemekeza mwana wawo wamkazi. Ngati ataphwanya mgwirizano, ndalama zomwe woweruzayo ankayenera kulipira zinanenedwa. Mpaka pano, palinso mgwirizano waukwati, koma monga lamulo, pakampani zamakono zokha zimakambidwa. Mwambo wamtundu wa masewera wopangidwira nawo unali ndi tanthauzo lalikulu. Chikwati chisanakhazikitsidwe, ojambula masewera anatumizidwa ku nyumba ya msungwana wokongola kapena mnyamata, amene ankayenera kutero funsani makolo kuti akwatirane. Malingana ndi zochitika pamoyo wawo, makolo amatha kupulumutsa ana ku zolakwa, chifukwa m'masiku akale panalibe kusudzulana, chisankhocho chinapangidwa kamodzi kokha. Komanso, mwambo wa matchmaking unali wodzaza ndi zikondwerero zokondweretsa, zomwe zinapereka mwambo ku ukwati wokha, ndipo mwambo umenewu unasonyeza ulemu kwa makolo ndi banja lonse ndi mkwati ndi mkwatibwi.

Pali miyambo yambiri yaukwati ndi miyambo yomwe mungachite kuti holide ikhale yosangalatsa, yokongola komanso yosakumbukika. Pambuyo pake, tsiku lino likuchitika kokha kamodzi pa moyo, ndipo ziyenera kukumbukiridwa ndi kumwetulira ndi chimwemwe, ngakhale patatha zaka zambiri.