Ngati mwamuna amakonda ndi kupeŵa ...

Kawirikawiri pali zinthu zomwe zimawachititsa atsikana kukhala ndi manyazi. Misonkhano, zokambirana, maubwenzi nthawi zina zimasokonezeka mwadzidzidzi ndi kuyesayesa nthawi zonse kuti theka ndikubisala. Kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati munthu amakonda komanso akupewa? Ndipo kodi amamukonda ngati amapewa?

N'chifukwa chiyani munthu amapewa kulankhulana?

Pewani kulankhulana, munthu akhoza pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, zimadalira momwe zinthu zilili komanso nthawi imene mnzanuyo amadziwira. Choncho, tiyeni tikambirane zifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kupeŵa kukhudzana ndi mkazi:

1. Anakonza zogonana pa nthawi imodzi yokha, ali ndi bwenzi kapena bwenzi lachibwana, ndipo akukumana nawo, kodi mungasokoneze bwanji moyo wake womwewo?
2. Akukudandaulirani kuti ndinu wosakhulupirika ndipo anasiya kufufuza yekha.
3. Anasintha ndikudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa (pazochitika zotere, mwamuna nthawi zambiri amapewa kuyang'ana m'maso).
4. Amachoka pambuyo pa kukangana kwakukulu ndi wolungama sakufuna kuyamba chiwonetsero.
5. Afuna kufotokoza momveka bwino kuti anthu amtundu wanu samukondanso.
6. Ali ndi mavuto kuntchito kapena m'mbali zina za moyo, watsekedwa mwa iyemwini.
7. Anaphunzira za inu chinthu chosasangalatsa, ndipo akufuna kuganiziranso zochitikazo.
8. Ali mu kupsinjika kwakukulu ndipo amapewa kuyankhulana ndi aliyense nkomwe, osati ndi inu nokha.
9. Anakumana ndi wina, ndipo akugwiridwa ndi kuyankhulana naye, ndipo iwe umakhala kutali.
10. Iye akudwala kwambiri ndipo safuna kukukhumudwitsani.

Monga mukumvetsetsa, pangakhale zifukwa zambiri. Ndipo ngati mwamuna wachikondi amapewa mkazi, izo ndi zachilendo kwambiri, chifukwa chikondi chenicheni munthu nthawi zonse amafuna kulankhulana.

Bwanji ngati munthuyo akupewa?

Ngati mumadziwana ndi munthu kwa kanthaŵi kochepa, nkotheka kuti mwanjira imeneyi akufuna kukana kulankhula nawe. Sikuti aliyense ali ndi mtima woti abwere kudzanena mwachindunji: "Pepani, sitidzakumananso." Zikatero, anthu ofooka samayitana maitanidwe, amasiya misonkhano, ndipo mwachindunji amasonyeza kuti sakufuna kulankhulana. Pachifukwa ichi, palibe choyenera kuchita, kungomasula munthuyo ndikudzikuza.

Ngati muli pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo simukuwona zifukwa za khalidweli, ndiye kuti mulibe zosankha, kupatula chimodzi: kukumba mkangano ndikuyankhula ndi mwamuna. Muziyang'anirani kwa masabata angapo, ngati n'kotheka, powona umboni wa khalidwe lake losazolowereka mwa mauthenga a SMS, ndi zina zotero. Mukasonkhanitsa mfundo zokwanira, yesani ndikuonetsetsa kuti izi sizomwe munapanga, koma mkhalidwe weniweni wa zinthu, ndi bwino kulankhula ndi munthu.

Kukambirana kuli bwino kumanga pa chiwembu ichi:

1. Dziwani ngati ali ndi mavuto kuntchito, kuphunzira, ndi achibale, magalimoto, ndi zina zotero. Mwina iye ndi woipa ndipo watsekedwa mwa yekha.
2. Ngati m'mbali zonse za moyo wake dongosololi lapita, funsani chifukwa chake misonkhano yanu yakhala yosavuta, ndipo ngati mukulakwa. Munthu wofooka adzayamba kukana, koma apa mukhoza kubweretsa umboni wanu, womwe munakonzeratu pasadakhale.
3. Funsani ngati angakonde kutenga nthawi ndi kumasuka ku ubale wanu, osati kuwonana kwa sabata kapena awiri? Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira kuti munthu ayambe kuyamikira mnzanuyo.

Chifukwa cha kukambirana koteroko, ndi bwino kupeza zifukwa ndikufunseni momwe mungamuthandizire pochita nawo, chifukwa khalidwe lake limawononga ubale wanu.

Mulimonsemo, kupeŵa nthawi zonse ndi chizindikiro chowopsya. Munthu wachikondi amafuna nthawi yochuluka yocheza naye ndi wokondedwa wake, ndipo ngati izi sizikuthandizira ubale wanu, mwina malingaliro awo si ofanana. Musagwetse manja anu pasanapite nthawi, pezani chilichonse chomwe mungathe ndikupanga chisankho pa izi.