Zochitika zamakono mu chiyanjano cha kugonana ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zinalipo kale. Tsopano amuna sakufunanso kukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka ndi khama kuti apambane ndi mkazi ndikulowa naye paubwenzi, choncho pempho la mtundu umenewu likhoza kubwera kuchokera kwa munthu pamene muli, kuti muliike mofatsa, osakonzekera. Choncho, funso lenileni ndilo momwe mungakanire mwaulemu munthu ngati mukuganiza kuti ali mofulumira kwambiri.
Wopanda nzeru ndi wamantha, ndithudi, nthawi yomweyo amafuna kukana pempholi, koma mantha okhumudwitsa munthu ndi kuganizira ngati angakane kapena kuti adzakanidwe adzakhala ofunika kwambiri kuti atha kufunafuna zifukwa asananene kuti sakufuna kulankhula naye. Mkazi wodalirika yemwe amadziwa lingaliro mwa amuna adzakana mwamsanga.
Kodi mungakane bwanji?
Mnyamata aliyense ndi wosiyana ndipo akusowa yekha. Nazi malingaliro onena momwe mungachotsere kugonana kwathunthu kapena ngakhale kuwaletsa iwo palimodzi.
- Mukhoza kunena ayi. Ngati mukufuna kusiya chiyanjano ndi mwamuna ndipo simukudziwa kukana kukumana ndi uphungu waukulu kwa inu simungathe kusokoneza nthawi, koma nthawi yomweyo fotokozani zolinga zanu.
- Wopusitsa Wopenya. Ngati mwayamba kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chokumuchezerani popanda chilolezo chochokera kwa inu, ndipo mukuganiza kukana kukumana kapena kumulepheretsa kukuchezerani, ndiye muyenera kuchita izi: Ngati muli ndi galu, ndiye pa ulendo wa alendo osalandiridwa mukhoza onetsetsani kuti muyenera kuyendayenda pang'onopang'ono, kotero simungathe kukhala nokha pamodzi.
- Kodi mungakane bwanji kale? Ngati bwenzi lanu lakale likufuna kukonzanso chibwenzi, ndipo simukugwirizana naye, musamamupatse chiyembekezo chilichonse ndipo mwamsanga muwonetsetse kuti mukulephera kubwezeretsa maganizo.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri pa zochitika zoterozo ndi kusaiwala kuti mwamuna komanso inu mumamva bwino, choncho ndimakhala wokhulupirika kwambiri ndi iye ndikuyankhula mokhulupirika momwe ndingathere, osati "kuchotsa" ndi mawu okhwima.