Zifukwa za kusudzulana

Inde, palibe mkwatibwi mmodzi, kuvala mphete ndi manja akunjenjemera, saganizira za kusudzulana, kuti munthu amene akuyang'anizanayo adzakhala osasangalatsa kotero kuti safuna kumuwona kapena kumumva. Ndipo komabe si zachilendo, chiwerengero cha nkhaniyi ndi chokhumudwitsa. Ku Russia, mabanja asanu ndi awiri (57%) akusudzulana, ndipo ku Ukraine chiwerengero cha kusudzulana ndi 48%. Ndi zifukwa ziti zowonongeka kwa mabanja, nchifukwa chiani kusudzulana kunachoka ku njira yomaliza kumoyo wamba? Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsa zifukwa zothetsera banja.

Zomwe zimayambitsa chisudzulo

N'chifukwa chiyani mabanja amatha? Banja lirilonse liri ndi mbiri yosiyana ya chisudzulo, koma akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwa zifukwa zisanu ndi chimodzi zoyambitsa kutha kwa banja, zomwe zimaonedwa kuti ndizofunikira.

1. Ngati tilankhula za zifukwa zothetsera mabanja achichepere, mzere woyamba mu mndandanda udzatenga chifukwa choterocho, monga osakwatirana kale. Kawirikawiri mabanja oterewa amasankha kukwatirana mwachikondi. Ndipo kuti alibe chidziwitso chokhudza moyo wa banja. Chotsatira chake, kusakhutira kumvetsera kwa munthu wina, kupanga mgwirizano, ndi kumapeto kwake chisudzulo.
2. Chinthu chinanso chodziwika ndi chiwerengero cha kusudzulana, ndizo zizoloŵezi za mmodzi mwa okwatirana. Kusuta mowa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kusokoneza masewera, zonsezi zimapangitsa moyo wa banja kusagonjetseka. Ndipo ngati chizoloŵezichi sichifuna kuchotsa chizoloŵezi choyipa, pali njira imodzi yokhayo - chisudzulo.
3. Zina mwa zifukwa za kutha kwa banja nthawi zambiri zimatchedwa chigololo. Kusintha kumatha kumvedwa, kufotokozedwa, koma ndi kovuta kukhululukira. Ambiri samangokhalira kupirira maganizo ofanana ndi okondedwa awo ndipo amaloledwa kuthetsa banja.
4. Nthawi zambiri abambowo amasankha kuthetsa banja chifukwa cha kusowa ndalama m'banja, kusowa kwawo kusintha ndalama zawo. Udindo wofunikira umasewera ndi kusowa kwa ndalama kuti banja likhale ndi malo osiyana - kukhala ndi makolo nthawi zonse ndizovuta kwa anthu awiri.
5. Mwina mungadabwe, koma atafunsidwa chifukwa chake mabanja amatha, akatswiri a zamaganizo amavomereza kuti okwatirana ali ndi malingaliro osiyana pa moyo, mwazinthu zina, iwo sanagwirizane ndi malembawo. Kusiyanasiyana kumeneku kumatchulidwa makamaka mu mgwirizano wa anthu ochokera m'magulu osiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, mmodzi mwa anthu okwatirana ali ndi maphunziro apamwamba, ntchito yabwino, adzigwiritsa ntchito kuti apumule ku malo osungira (ngakhale am'nyumba), amafunitsitsa kuwerenga mabuku ozindikira. Wina sanayese ngakhale kuyesa yunivesite, iye amakonda kukumba m'munda m'malo mwa maulendo ndipo sangathe kumvetsa zomwe zingapezeke m'mabuku. Ngakhale kuti chikondi chimakhala nacho, kusiyana koteroko sikuwonekera. Koma pambuyo pake, pamene kumverera kumachepa pang'ono, zimakhala zomveka kuti anthu awa alibe chofanana, chabwino, ndi mtundu wanji wa banja?
6. Zomwe zimayambitsa kusudzulana zingakhale zosasangalatsa za kugonana kapena mavuto a umoyo, makamaka ndi uchembele. Kawirikawiri, m'malo moyankhula ndi katswiri kuti athetse mavuto, banjali limasankha kuthetsa banja.

Zizindikiro za kutha koyamba kwa banja

Kuonongeka kwa ubale sikuchitika pokhapokha, kusasangalatsana kwa wina ndi mzake kumawonjezeka pang'onopang'ono, tsiku ndi tsiku, mpaka chigamulo cha chisudzulo. Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti pali chisokonezo m'banja?

Kwenikweni, ndi kuzizira m'banja. Tikukamba za kugonana - banjali limamukonda kukhala ndi thanzi labwino usiku wonse. Ngati tikulankhula za kulankhulana tsiku ndi tsiku, ndiye kuti pali njira ziwiri zomwe zingatheke. Mwamuna ndi mkazi wake samalankhulana, amadzibisa okha, kapena amangonena nthawi zonse, koma za ana, mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, osayesa kupeza mutu womwewo. Okwatirana amasiya kugawana nawo chimwemwe ndi mavuto awo, safuna kuphunzira chinachake pa wina ndi mzake. Munthu woyandikana naye pabedi amawonedwa ngati chokhumudwitsa choonjezerapo, chomwe nthawiyi imakhululukira chuma, umoyo wa banja, ana ochepa.