Banja ndilo gawo limodzi la anthu omwe abambo onse amatsogolera moyo wamba, kumanga maubwenzi, kufotokoza zochitika, kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino ndi auzimu. Kuchokera ku chikhalidwe cha maganizo mu banja chimadalira, choyamba, kukhala ndi moyo wauzimu ndi waumunthu, komanso maganizo omwe munthu ali nawo mdziko.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha m'banja mumakhala ndi malingaliro omwe amamvana nawo. Mkhalidwe wamaganizo umakhudza maganizo a mamembala, kukhazikitsidwa ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa malingaliro wamba, kupindula kwa zotsatira.
Chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe cha anthu m'banjamo
Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani momwe nyengo ndi chikhalidwe cha m'banja zimakhudzira thanzi la banja. Ndizosatsutsika kuti banja limathandiza kwambiri pa moyo wa munthu. Kulowa muukwati, kukhazikitsa chiyanjano chatsopano pakati pa anthu, abwenzi awo akukula mkati, ndikupita ku siteji yatsopano. Tsopano banjali palimodzi limapanga "nyengo mnyumbamo," yomwe idzawonetseratu momwe zowona, kumvetsera ndi kumvetsetsana wina ndi mzake, zakhala zikutseketsa nsalu za banja.
Ndi kubadwa kwa mwana, chikondi chonse, chisamaliro ndi kukoma mtima zimayang'aniridwa ndi membala watsopano wa banja, kuyambira maminiti oyamba makhalidwe omwe ali nawo mu banja lino ayamba kuikidwa ndi kupangidwa mwa mwana wakhanda. Ochita kafukufuku wa banja amatsindika kuti m'zaka zonsezi, maganizo, udindo, chifundo ndi ulemu zimalimbikitsidwa pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, motero kukhazikika kwa ubale, kudzipereka kwa wina ndi mzake.
Mkhalidwe wa maganizo m'mabanja umakhala wabwino pokhapokha ngati m'banja muli wina ndi mzake ndi chikondi, ulemu ndi chikhulupiliro. Ana amalemekeza okalamba, okalamba amauza achinyamata,
Kuti afotokozere mwachidule, kuti chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha m'banja chikhale chokomera, banja limamva kuti likukondedwa komanso losangalala, mgwirizano pakati pa okwatirana ndi abambo akuyendetsedwa bwino, poyamba, pamaso pa iwo eni ndi banja, kukhala oona mtima, owona mtima, kuwakonda ndi kuwalemekeza .