Ife mwaluso taphunzira kunama kwa ena okha, koma kwa ife eni. Komabe, pakadalibe mwayi wozindikira choonadi - chinenero cha nkhope ndi manja , zomwe sizinaphunzire bwino kwambiri ndi ife, komanso "osati kuphwanyika", si onse omwe angathe kuzichita. Choncho, tigwiritsa ntchito bodza lamatsenga, lomwe limawoneka pamphumi mwa interlocutor, osati pamphumi pokha.
Mimicry
Kuwonetsa nkhope kumachitika pamene, pamakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana, izi kapena mgwirizano wa minofu ya nkhope. Kuti nkhope yathu ikuwonetsane ikugwirizana ndi malo abwino, ndipo, molondola, mawonekedwe a nkhope amaonekera kumanzere kwa nkhope. Ngati wolumikizana akulankhula zoona, chilankhulo chake cha nkhope ndi manja ndi chosiyana, ngati mbali yoyenera siimagwirizana ndi lamanzere, wina ayenera kukayikira.
Zomwe zimakhala zosavuta kuzindikira ndi kuzindikira kusiyana ndi zosayenera, ndipo kuwonetsa umunthu komanso kufotokoza nkhope kwa munthu ndi milomo.
Pofuna kudziŵa kuzindikira zofanana, zomwe zimakhala zitatha nthawi yayitali, munthu ayenera kuchita ndi kusunga anthu kwa nthawi yayitali, kapena kuphunzitsa maganizo osiyanasiyana ndi thandizo la nkhope pamaso pa galasi (omwe amachitirako amachita). Kusangalala kokha kumatanthauza chisangalalo, mkwiyo, manyazi, mkwiyo, nkhanza komanso chisoni.
Zizindikiro
Amanena kuti manja sali kuyenda kwa thupi, koma kusuntha kwa moyo. Chizindikiro chachangu chimatsimikizira zofuna ndi malingaliro a interlocutor panthawiyi, ndipo chizindikiro, mobwerezabwereza, chimasonyeza makhalidwe.
Chilankhulo cha manja ndi manja ndi zovuta kwambiri kuposa zofananitsa, chifukwa pali zowonjezereka zowonjezera kufotokoza maganizo athu.
Komabe, ambiri mwa amayi onse, monga momwe nthawizonse, amachitira chidwi ndi chikondi. Ndipo ngati mwatsatanetsatane: "Amakonda, kapena sakonda?". Kodi nthawi zambiri timakayikira zowona zomwe omvera athu amavomereza, ndipo angafune kuti athandize iwo kuti ayang'ane mwachangu. Mothandizidwa ndi luso lowala
Ngati pa tsiku munthu amakhala pansi mosavuta, amakhala mosatekeseka, manja ake atseguka - makamaka, amakukondani. Ngati akung'amba khutu, amaphimba pakamwa pake ndi dzanja lake - pa zomwe ananena, alibe chidaliro. Ndipo kukhumudwa ndi kukwiya kwake, iye amasonyeza mwa kudula manja ake pachifuwa, kuponyera mapazi ake pamapazi ake.
Chilakolako chilichonse chogonana ndi chosavuta kuzindikira: mwamuna amayesa kukukhudza mwachidule, amamukumbatira m'chiuno, amameta tsitsi lake, miyendo yake imakhala yochuluka kuposa nthawi zonse, kamwa yake imatseguka pang'ono, nsidze zake zimakulira.
Komabe, ngati simukukhulupirira mawu a mwamuna wanu, yesetsani "kufufuza" kale kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, kodi ndibwinodi kufunsa, kodi mumamukonda kapena ayi?