Munthu aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta pamoyo, pamene nkhawa ndi mantha zimatenga iye. Pofuna kuchotsa malingaliro otere ndikubweretsa malingaliro anu, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungakhalire moyo wanu ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita pa izi.
Momwe mungapezere mtima ndi moyo?
Choyamba, ndikofunikira kudziwa chomwe chinayambitsa izi. Nkhawa, mantha, kusasamala siziwoneka "monga choncho." Izi zimathandizidwa ndi zovuta, mwachitsanzo, zogwirizana ndi zovuta zachuma, kapena kupatukana ndi wokondedwa. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa chomwe chinayambitsa kutuluka kwa nkhawa ndi zina zoipa.
Pambuyo pa izi, mukhoza kupita ku gawo lachiwiri. Tsopano, kuti timvetsetse momwe tingathetsere nkhawa mu moyo, tifunika kulemba mndandanda wa zomwe zingathetsere zotsatira za mavuto omwe achitika. Monga lamulo, anthu amanjenjemera chifukwa cha maganizo awo olakwika ndi "pridumok" za zomwe zidzawachitikire mtsogolo, osati chifukwa cha "zowopsya" kwenikweni. Choncho, lembani pa pepala zonse zomwe zingatheke ndipo muwone momwe mungachitire ngati akubwera.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji moyo mutatha kugawanitsa?
Kuthetsa chiyanjano ndi wokondedwa kungakhale vuto lalikulu. Zikakhala choncho, nkofunika kuti "mukhale" molondola pa nkhaniyi, komanso kuti musalole kuoneka kosasamala.
Choyamba, yesetsani kufotokoza ululu wanu. Izi zikhoza kuchitika mothandizidwa ndi kukambirana ndi mnzanu wapamtima, komanso misozi kapena misozi. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti munthu amafunika kumverera kuti ululu wasiya pang'ono. Maganizo okhumudwitsa ayenera kuwonetsedwa, kupatulapo "kupitirira" sikungatheke.
Ndiye mumayenera kukhala ndi chinachake, izi zidzakuthandizani kuthetsa moyo wanu ndi mitsempha, ndipo musasiya nthawi ya maganizo oipa. Yambani kupita kumaphunziro a masewera, kupeza zosangalatsa kapena pulojekiti yatsopano kuntchito. Mlandu uliwonse umagwira ntchito, chinthu chachikulu ndikuti palibe nthawi ya zochitika zopanda pake ndi malingaliro opitirira kuti ubale watha.
Ndipo, potsiriza, yesetsani kusiya kusangalala. Ngati mulandira kuitanidwa kuti mukachezere phwandolo, gwiritsani ntchito. Osakhala yekha pamaso pa televizioni kapena kompyuta. Kambiranani ndi abwenzi, kupita kumapwando, yendani. Izi zidzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa kuti kuswa chiyanjano sikukutanthauza "kutha kwa zonse zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa."