Pangani chisankho chokwatira, ndikufuna kukhulupirira kuti kuli ndi munthu uyu kuti zonse zidzatha. Koma ndizowopsya kuti zinyengedwe, patangotha miyezi ingapo pambuyo paukwati, kuti muzindikire kuti mawu ake onse ndi oona, kuti amatsata zolinga zake kapena muli ndi malingaliro osiyana pa moyo ndi munthu uyu. Kotero momwe mungadziwire bwino khalidwe la munthu yemwe mukufuna kuti mukwatirane naye, kodi muyenera kudziwa chiyani za iye?
Kodi mukufunikira kudziwa chiyani za munthu amene mukufuna kukwatira?
Kotero, ndi nkhani ziti zomwe ziyenera kukambilana ndi kuganiziridwa musanapite kwa olembetsa kuti mudziwe bwino munthu?
- Mavuto azachuma a mkazi wam'tsogolo, kaya mutha kukhala pamodzi kapena kusonkhana pamodzi, inu nonse muyenera kupeza ntchito yamagulu, ntchito yopindula bwino.
- Kugula kwakukulu kotani kumene kudzakhala kwa inu poyamba - nyumba, galimoto, ndi zina zotero.
- Kodi mumakwaniritsa cholinga chotani mukakwatirana - kupeza malingaliro a mkazi wokwatiwa kapena mwayi wokhala woyandikana nawo pafupi ndi okondedwa anu?
- Kodi mumakopeka kwambiri ndi mnzanu, ndipo ndi chiyani chomwe chimakwiyitsa kwambiri?
- Ndi kusintha kotani mu chikhalidwe chanu chomwe mukufuna kuchita kuti mupange banja.
- Kodi mukuganiza bwanji za chigololo?
- Kodi pali mavuto aakulu azaumoyo?
- Kodi ndi nthawi yanji yokhudzana ndi kugonana komwe mungakonde?
- Kodi mungakonde kukhala ndi mwana liti ndipo ndi ana angati omwe mukukonzekera?
Mafunso awa adzakuthandizani kuphunzira kuchokera kwa munthu momwe amachitira inu, koma ndizo ngati anganene zoona?
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji choonadi kuchokera kwa munthu?
Tinazindikira kuti tifunikira kudziwa za munthu yemwe mudzakwatirane naye. Koma kodi n'zotheka kudziwa pamene akunena zoona? Zimatuluka, mungathe! Momwe mungachitire zimenezi ndi kumutsutsa munthu wonyenga amadziwa kuwerenga maganizo. Nazi nthawi zomwe mukufunikira kuti mumvetsere pazokambirana:
- Munthu wonyenga nthawi zambiri amamva kupweteka maganizo ndipo motero amayesera kutenga malo angapo ngati n'kotheka. Izi zikutanthauza kuti akhoza kuwerama, kuika phazi lake pamapazi, kumangirira miyendo kapena mikono, kumatsika mutu, kukopa khosi lake. Ndiponso, munthu wothandizanitsa adzayesera kupanga cholepheretsa pakati pa inu, ndikuyika chinthu patsogolo pake.
- Kawirikawiri kumverera kumangotsatira mwamsanga mawu atayankhulidwa. Ngati munthu anayamba kunena chinachake, ndipo patapita kanthawi, anajambula zithunzi zoyenerera pamaso pake, ndiye, mwinamwake, amajambula. Komanso, nthawi zambiri anthu amatha kubwereza, kuyesa kupanga chinyengo cha kuwona mtima, ndiko kuti, ngakhale munthu wokondweretsa kwambiri, amamwetulira mano onse 32, amakwiya, amawombera komanso amamva chisoni, amasiya misozi.
- Komanso zimakhala zovuta kwa wojambula wosapindulitsa kuti awononge maso. Muyang'aneni iye ngati munthu amamwetulira ndi milomo imodzi, akusiya maso ake ozizira, ndiye mwinamwake amanama.
- Bodza limapereka manja ndi manja osasamala - kumakhudza khutu, nsonga ya mphuno, maso kapena pamphumi. Kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika kwambiri n'kotheka, zachilendo kwa munthu pa nthawi yeniyeni.
- Kufotokozera mafunso ndi mawu osokoneza a yankho ndikupatsanso mavervish.
Kodi mumadziwa bwanji ngati mumakonda munthu kapena ayi?
Pamene mukufuna kudziwa munthu woyandikana naye, mumayesetsa kuchita izi. Ndipo pamene chidziwitso chimapezeka, mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa n'zotheka, koma timakhululukira anthu okondedwa athu kwambiri. Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati mumakonda munthu, kodi ndi mwamuna wanu kapena ayi? Nazi zizindikiro zochepa za zomwe mumakonda:
- Mwakonzeka kupereka ufulu kwa wokondedwayo, kuvomereza monga momwe zilili, osasintha. Mudzawona,
koma mumulole iye apite ngati wokondedwayo akunena kuti chimwemwe chake sichoncho. - Inu simukudalira kokha kukongola kwa kunja kwa munthu. Mumakhudzidwadi ndi nkhawa, mavuto, chimwemwe ndi kupambana kwake.
- Ngati mumavomereza mosavuta mwa chikondi, ndipo patapita kanthawi, ndikumenyedwa komweko, ndiye kuti simungatchedwe chikondi. Ziri ngati zovuta.
Mafunso ndi mayankho olondola kwa iwo, ndi zabwino, komanso ayang'anirani ntchitozo. Ndipotu, sikofunika kuti akunena (kulonjeza mapiri a golide nthawi zambiri), komanso momwe amachitira ndi inu, zomwe amakuchitirani.