Sizobisika kuti aliyense, kaya ndi sukulu ya sukulu, kapena gulu la ophunzira, padzakhala anthu omwe amasangalala ndi chikondi cha padziko lonse ndi kutchuka, ndi omwe sali a "makina okondedwa." Koma, ndi mtundu wotani wa hafu yokongola yaumunthu safuna kudziwa momwe angakhalire msungwana wabwino, kukhala wokongola kwa anyamata komanso kukhala ndi abwenzi ambiri. Kuti maloto akwaniritsidwe, muyenera kudziwa malamulo ochepa okha ndikugwira ntchito pang'ono.
Kodi mungakhale bwanji mtsikana wokongola?
Choyamba, chinthu choyamba kuchita ndi kudziyang'ana nokha kuchokera kunja. Ayenera kuwonetsa mphamvu zawo ndi zofooka zawo. Chinthu chachikulu sichimapangitsa kulakwitsa kwakukulu, osapitirira malire, osapitirira-kudziyamikira nokha, koma musatsutse mwakuya kuti palibe chokongola mwa inu.
Mukhoza kulemba mndandanda ndi mafailesi anu ndi minuses, ndikuyesa zonse ndikuyesera nokha kuchokera kunja.
Pofufuza kuti nkofunika kuzindikira zigawo zikuluzikulu, munthu ayenera kulingalira mosiyana ubwino ndi kuipa kwa mawonekedwe, maphunziro, luso la khalidwe ndi makhalidwe a umunthu wake . Ichi ndi sitepe yoyamba yomwe mungakhale msungwana wabwino, ndi kupeza anzanu atsopano ndi mafani, chifukwa cha kudzidalira nokha ndikudzikonza nokha.
Pambuyo pa mndandanda wa ziyeneretso ndi zolephera zidzaphatikizidwa, tiyenera kufotokoza zomwe ziyenera kusinthidwa poyamba. Mwachitsanzo, ngati msungwana ali ndi manyazi kulankhulana ndi anthu chifukwa cha "opanda ungwiro", ndiye kuti nthawi imodzi ayenera kuphunzira zovala zoyenera, kusewera masewera, ndi kuwerenga mabuku pa luso lolankhulana ndikugonjetsa manyazi pa kampaniyo. Kulimbikira ndi ntchito, ndizo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala mtsikana wokongola kusukulu, komanso kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro pa luso lanu. Zidzakhala zophweka pa njirayi, m'pofunika kugwirizana kuti zitha kugwira ntchito mwakhama komanso mwakhama.
Momwe mungakhalire msungwana wozizira kwambiri?
Mtsikanayo atayamba kale kudziphatika, m'pofunika kuti tipite ku sitepe yotsatira, tiyenera kuyamba kulankhula ndi anthu. Yang'anani mozungulira ndipo mudzazindikira kuti anthu omwe amatha kukhala okondweretsa ocheza nawo nthawi zambiri amakhala otchuka, amatha kumvetsa bwino anthu, kugawana nawo zofuna zawo. Ngati munthu sakudziwa kuchita izi, ndiye kuti ndi wokongola bwanji, kuti akhale wotentha kwambiri, chilichonse chimene anganene, sichigwira ntchito.
Kuti mukhale wokondweretsa interlocutor, muyenera kukumbukira ndikuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito malamulo angapo.
- Mukhoza kumvetsera anthu. Ndipo sikuti sizingasokoneze interlocutor , nkofunika kufunsa mafunso kwa munthu, ndi wokondweretsa, wosakhudzidwa ndi chidwi, kumvetsera nkhani ndi zochitika zake.
- Pezani nkhani zomwe zimakondweretsa abwenzi anu ndipo yesetsani kuziphunzira. Palibe choipa kuposa pamene wothandizana nawo sakonda kumvetsera ndi kukambirana za zinthu zomwe anthu amamudera nkhawa. Choncho, kuti muyankhulane momasuka muyenera kuphunzirira
nkhani zomwe zimakondweretsa anzanu. - Phunzirani kuthana ndi zovuta nokha ndi kunena zina zokhudza inu nokha ndi zofuna zanu. Kumbukirani lamulo la "golidi" la kuyankhulana - 30% ya zokambirana ziyenera kuuzidwa za inu nokha, 70 peresenti ya nthawi yoti mumvetsere oyankhulana.
Onetsetsani kuti muwerenge mabukuwa pa mutu wa psychology, mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kuyamba ndi Dale Carnegie omwewo. Kumeneko mwatsatanetsatane wafotokozedwa, ndi zotani zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pokonzanso chidwi cha wogwirizanitsa, momwe mungaphunzire kufunsa mafunso komanso anthu. Chinthu chachikulu, kumbukirani kuti palibe buku lingakuthandizeni mpaka mutadzigonjetsa nokha ndikuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito chidziwitso chomwe mwaphunzira.