Kodi mungamvetse bwanji ngati mwamuna amakonda?

Nthawi zina mkazi amangoganiza kuti chifundo chake chimagwirizana naye. Pakati pa tsiku loyamba ndi chidziwitso cha chikondi, monga lamulo, nthawi yambiri iyenera kudutsa. Nanga bwanji ngati chipiriro chikutha ndipo mwamuna akufuna kumvetsetsa, ndikofunika bwanji? Tiyeni tiyankhe izi mwa dongosolo.

Zokwanira ndi mfundo

Amayi nthawi zina amasonyeza kulimbitsa mtima komanso kuyesetsa pankhani yodziwidwa m'maganizo. Koma ndisanamuuze mnyamata kapena mwamuna za chikondi chake, ndikufuna kumvetsetsa kuti nayenso amakonda. Pambuyo pa zonse, tonsefe, mwa njira imodzi, timawerengera ndi chiyembekezo chololedwa.

Mfundo yakuti munthu amakopeka ndi inu pokhapokha muzogonana, adzanena zizindikiro zotsatirazi:

• Iye saganizira kawirikawiri za bizinesi yanu ndi maganizo anu, posankha mwamsanga kuti "atsike ku bizinesi";
• amasiya kuthetsa mavuto anu, sapereka chithandizo ndi thandizo;
• simukupita kulikonse, mwachitsanzo, ku kanema kapena gulu. Kwenikweni, mumakhala nthawi yina mwa inu kunyumba, kapena m'chipinda cha hotelo;
• iye sakonda kuti aziyankhula nanu za zinthu zazikulu, zochitika zake, banja lake ndi ana;
• Chidziwitso chimakuuzani kuti maubwenzi amenewa ndi okhazikika pa kugonana.

Zimakhalanso kuti munthu amakuona ngati bwenzi, wokondedwa, koma osati kenanso. Iye sakufuna kukwiyitsa chifundo chanu kwa iye, kotero amayesera kuchita bwino. Atsikana ambiri amasokoneza izi pafupi ndi ndondomeko yoyamba ya dzanja ndi mtima. Sikoyenera kudyetsa malingaliro, ngati:

• Iye samakuwonetsani inu kwa ena ngati chibwenzi chake;
• mukulankhulana nanu, nthawi zambiri amalankhula za momwe analili ndi mwayi wokhala ndi mnzake;
• Amapereka uphungu kwa amuna ena, amayesa kukudziwani ndi anzanu;
• Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi pamodzi pamene mumayambitsa holide imeneyi.
• Iye amachita chinachake panthawi yomwe akukulonjeza kuti uchite izo.

Ulamuliro wambiri

Momwe mungamvetsetse kuti munthu amakukondani, kaya ndi mwamuna wanu, wokonda, kapena wokonda kale. Pali nthawi zina zomwe zimapatsa aliyense woimira kachilombo kolimba, "wodwala" ndi malungo achikondi. Musakayikire maganizo ake ngati:

• mwamuna amakukondani kwambiri. Nthawi zonse amadziwa momwe bizinezi yanu ilili, zomwe zakhala zikuchitika kuntchito, kunyumba, m'banja, ndi zina;
• Iye amakupatsani zizindikiro zosangalatsa za chidwi, amayesa kuganiza kuti mumakhudzidwa ndi zofuna zanu;
• iye amanjenjemera pang'ono pamaso panu, nthawi zina nthabwala sizingatheke, koma nthawizonse amamvetsera kwambiri zomwe mumanena;
• mwamuna amatengapo mbali mu moyo wanu, kusamala. Zimapereka chithandizo chake kuthetsa mavuto alionse, kuphatikizapo ndalama;
• amalemekeza maganizo anu;
• mwamuna amamvera malangizo anu;
• Musakutsutseni popanda chifukwa chapadera;
• nthawi zonse amakufotokozerani kwa anzako, achibale ake ndi anthu ake;
• Musaiwale kutchula kamodzi pa tsiku ndikufunsani momwe zinthu zilili bwino;
• Amakonda ana anu mofanana naye;
• amamukonda mwana wanu, yemwe ali bambo wake wopeza;
• kumanga mapulani a tsogolo, momwe muli malo anu;
• Nthawi zambiri osati "Ine", koma "ife";
• ali pa kama, amasamala za chikhumbo chopereka chisangalalo kwa inu;
• Munthu amene amakukondani sadzakukweza dzanja.

Pomaliza

Kodi chikondi cha munthu n'chiyani? Chisamaliro, chipiriro, kupatsa ndi zina zambiri, monga tafotokozera kale. Komabe, ndi bwino kuganizira chinthu chimodzi. Kwa mkazi, chikondi ndi chomuchitikira chomwe chimamupangitsa iye kukhala chinthu chake chokhumba. Ndipotu, samakonda kwambiri munthu monga momwe akumverera komanso kukhudzidwa kwake.

Kwa amuna, zinthu ndi zosiyana apa. Kwa iye, chikondi cha mkazi ndi chisangalalo, chisangalalo chomwe chimagwirizanitsidwa nacho. Izi sizingowonjezera chiyanjano, koma komanso mgwirizano wa uzimu, chiyanjano, chiyanjano cha anthu. Mkwatibwi atangomaliza kulandira izi kuchokera kwa inu, amasiyiratu zokondweretsa, ndiye mwayi woti achokapo ndi wabwino.

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