Mkhalidwe wachikondi ndi wodabwitsa komanso wovuta kufotokoza. Zoonadi, n'zovuta kufotokoza chifukwa chake pa moyo wathu muli ndi zisankho zopanda malire timakonda munthu yekha. Komabe, akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti ngozi zonse za moyo wathu sizowonongeka konse, ndipo zokonda zomwe timapereka kwa wina, kukana zina, zingathe kufotokozedwanso.
Kodi ndi zinthu zotani zosankha wokondedwa?
Ngakhale zimakhala zovuta kuti timvetse chifukwa chomwe ichi, osati chinacho, chimagwira mtima wathu, pali ndondomeko. Chikhalidwe cha chikondi kwa ambiri a ife chimabwera kale pa unyamata wachinyamata, ndipo chimamangidwa pamalingaliro, nthawi zambiri-kutsutsa (makolo sakonda) malingaliro pa chinthu cha chikondi. Tikukulira, ndipo, nkuchitika, sitingathe kumvetsa chifukwa chake timakondana ndi munthu uyu. Ndipo pali zifukwa:
- Maganizo owonetsa . Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti zosankha zathu zosamvetsetsa zimakhala zomangika poyerekezera ndi fano la mmodzi mwa makolo (mtsikanayo amamuyerekezera ndi bambo ake, mnyamatayo amamusankha ndi mayi ake). Pa nthawi yomweyi, izi zikhoza kukhala zowonekera poyamba .
- Biochemistry . Pamene ayesa kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake anthu amayamba kukonda ndi munthu wina, amamvetsera njira zamoyo zomwe zimakhudza mtundu wa chisankho, koma zimagwirizananso ndi nyumbayo. Aliyense wa ife amazoloŵera fungo: nyumba, zinthu za amayi ndi abambo, zonunkhira za mizimu zomwe amayi amakonda, fungo la ndudu zomwe abambo amazoloŵera, ndi zina zotero. Ngati kununkhira koteroko kukupezeka pa chidziwitso, wosankhidwayo (kapena wosankhidwayo) amadzikonda yekha.
- Makhalidwe . Osati masewero otsiriza ndi khalidwe la wokonda. Ngati apeza zofanana ndi khalidwe la abambo / amayi (ngakhale ali ndi makhalidwe oipa), munthu woteroyo "adzamukopa".
Koma ngati chirichonse chikugwirizana ndi zizoloŵezi ndi zithunzi zozolowereka, ndiye bwanji munthu akugwa mwachikondi ndi wina-funso lachirengedwe. Asayansi amanena kuti izi zimachokera ku msinkhu wa kuthamanga kwa mkati, komwe nthawi zina kumagwirizana. Izi zimatsimikizira chikondi mwadzidzidzi.