Maluwa pazipangizo kapena pakhomo la nyumba, mapepala olembedwa ndi ndakatulo zofatsa ndi zizindikiro zina za chisamaliro kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe dzina lake silinakhazikitsidwe. Momwe mungapezere yemwe amakukondani komanso momwe mungadziwire kuti zowona zimayankhulidwa m'nkhaniyi.
Momwe mungawerengere chibwenzi?
Ndipotu, sangathe kukhalabe ndi chidziwitso kwa nthawi yaitali, chifukwa munthu wachikondi amafuna kukhala pafupi ndi chinthu chomwe akufuna. Ngati mnzanga wogwira ntchito, wophunzira wa sukulu kapena mwana wa bwenzi la amayi anga nthawi zonse amakhala pafupi komanso makamaka mu nthawi yovuta, ndiye akhoza kutsimikiziridwa kuti zonse zabwino ndi mphatso zomwe zakhala zikulandidwa posachedwa ndizo.
Kodi mumadziwa bwanji kuti munthu amakukondani?
Ndikulankhulirana kwambiri, ndizotheka kale kupeza mfundo zomveka bwino. Mphatso zamtengo wapatali, maulendo apamtchi, malo owonetserako masewero ndi mawonetsero sakunena kanthu: mwinamwake mwamuna amatsata zolinga zake zadyera. Ndikofunika kuyang'anitsitsa momwe amamvera zomwe akufunazo: kodi akudziwa zomwe zikuchitika, zofuna, zomwe amakonda. Kodi amamvetsera chilichonse chimene mtsikanayo amamuuza? Ngati amadziwa kuti pamene akukambirana, iye amasokonezeka, akukwera m'mitambo, kapena ngakhale kusokoneza izo, mukhoza kuganiza zokhumudwitsa.
Anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi momwe mungadziwirebe ngati munthu amakukondani ayenera kuyang'ana m'maso mwake nthawi zambiri. Amanena kuti ichi ndi galasi la moyo ndipo mukhoza kumvetsa zambiri zokhudza iwo. Iwo omwe amakonda kwenikweni, kamodzi kamodzi adadzimva okha kuwoneka kwa wokondedwa, wodzaza ndi chiyamiko. Munthu akamangokhalira kumverera, samangoyang'ana mkazi m'njira inayake, koma amayesetsanso kukhala pafupi naye. Kampaniyo ikukhala pafupi, ndipo yokha imagwiritsa ntchito mpata uliwonse kuti itenge dzanja, ikukumbatira m'chiuno, ndi zina zotero.
Kodi ndizinthu ziti zomwe mungapezebe ngati amandikonda?
Zochita zimauza aliyense za munthuyo. Ali ndi matenda okondedwa ndi mkazi wake wokondedwa, adzabweretsa malalanje kuchipatala, ndipo panthawi yomwe alibe, adzagwira ntchito yodyetsa ndi kumusamalira. Zikwangwani pa gudumu la njanji, mutha kukhala wotsimikiza kuti munthu wachikondi amatha msanga, ndipo samabwera ndi zifukwa zambiri zoti asapite. Pezani zomwe mnzanu amakonda komanso chifukwa chake amachitira limodzi ndi wokondedwa wake. Ambiri amadziulula okha, amagawana zakukhosi kwawo ndi zochitika zawo, amatsitsimutsa, chifukwa amamva bwino komanso omasuka ku kampani. Ena "amatsika padenga" ndipo akusochera, kuseka ndi kuseketsa, ngakhale pali ena omwe amamva kuti ali ndi chidwi chokhudzana ndi zomwe akufuna.
Fufuzani ngati mumakukondani ndi momwe munthu amapangira ndondomeko ya moyo. Ngati atero "ife" mmalo mwa "ine" ndipo amatanthauza kuti ali ndi mkazi woyandikana naye yemwe adzakhala ndi nyumba yamba, banja ndi ana, koma mungakhale wotsimikiza za maganizo ake enieni. Koma zomangamanga za tsogolo, ndikukonzekera zinthu pakalipano, mwamuna nthawi zonse amalingalira malingaliro a wokondedwa wake. Ngati akufunsana naye pa chifukwa chilichonse ndikuvomereza malingaliro ake, ndiye,
Amafuna kukhala maola 24 pa tsiku ndikuchita zonse palimodzi, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amalemekeza ufulu wa munthu pa malo ake. Iye sangatsutse bungwe la phwando la nkhuku, koma adzatenga mkazi aliyense ku cafe ndi kumakomana naye kuchokera kumeneko. Okonda ambiri amadziwa kuti maganizo awo amasintha komanso nthawi zambiri pamene wina ayamba mawu, ena amatha. Mulimonsemo, mtima sudzapusitsa ndipo udzafotokozera momwe akumvera komanso kukhudzidwa.