Zinachitika kuti udindo wa kusunga banja ndi mkazi, koma nthawi zina zingakhale zovuta. Zoonadi, pamakangano m'banja, onse awiri amakhala olakwa, koma nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti mwamuna samangomva mawu omwe amamulembera. Ndiye funso limayambira momwe angapezere chinenero chofanana ndi mwamuna kuti athe kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha kusamvetsetsana, chifukwa mikangano yambiri ikuchitika mwachindunji pa chifukwa ichi.
Kodi mungapeze bwanji chinenero chimodzi ndi mwamuna?
Musanayankhe kuyankha funsoli, muyenera kumvetsa zomwe zimatanthauza kupeza chinenero chimodzi. Inde, sitikulankhula za chilankhulidwe cha chinenero, chifukwa chakuti sitingathe kufotokoza maganizo athu kwa mnzathu. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mitundu yamaganizidwe ndi amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyana, choncho, paliponse pamene tikuwona pempho lodziwika, munthu amadziwa kupweteka koopsa. Zimayamba kupeza chinenero chofala ndi mwamuna wake, chibwenzi choyambirira, mwamuna aliyense, muyenera kumvetsa m'mene amawonera, ndikuwonekerani zomwe zikukukhudzani ndi maso ake. Tiyeni tiwone chitsanzo cha zochitika zochepa zomwe zimachitika mosiyana.
- Ndikhoza kuchita zonse ndekha . Akazi amakono akuyesetsa kufunafuna ufulu wawo wonse, ndipo amachita bwino, koma pa moyo wa banja, kupitirira kwa khalidweli sikungakhale kovomerezeka. Mwamuna akhoza kuzindikira khalidwe ngati kuyesa kumuchotsa iye, ngakhale mkazi atangofuna kuti moyo wake ukhale wosavuta. Muzochitika izi, mwamuna amamva kuti safunikira, osamvetsetsa tanthauzo la kukhala pafupi, ngati nthawi zonse amayesa kudzipatula yekha.
- Mwamuna ndiye mutu wa banja . Izi ndi zovuta kwambiri, zomwe akazi amagwera nthawi zambiri. Inde, muzinthu zambiri ndi omwe akuyimira anthu ogonana amphamvu omwe amapanga chisankho chomaliza, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti ziyenera kukhala choncho. Mkazi angaganize kuti kupereka mwamuna wake carte blanche kuthetsa nkhani zonse, kumamupatsa chidaliro, ndipo amadziona ngati chikhumbo chomupangitsa iye yekha kukhala ndi udindo pa moyo wa banja.
- Lankhulani pa nkhaniyi . Mipikisano nthawi zambiri imayamba chifukwa mkazi amamva kusamvetsera mawu ake. Zomwe zili choncho, ndizovuta kuti abambo azitsatira maulendo angapo omwe nthawi zambiri amayi amachimwa. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kuthetsa vutolo, lankhulani pa zoyenera mwa kusiya zolemba zazing'ono monga nsapato za mzanga ndi khanda lakuda lomwe linadutsa njira yanu.
- Popanda mfundo . Malingaliro a abambo omwe akubwera omwe ali ndi chidziwitso sichimene ali achikazi, chifukwa cha izi, kupeza mwamuna ndi chinenero chofala ndi kovuta kwambiri. Mkazi akhoza kufunsa mwamuna wake kwa maola angapo chinachake
kugwira ntchito zapakhomo ndi kudabwa ndi kusagwirizana kwake pamene sakumvetsa chifukwa chake ziyenera kuchitidwa mwamsanga. Kotero ngati mukufuna chinachake kuchokera kwa munthu, fotokozani momveka bwino ndi nthawi ndi chiyani. Koma mawu akuti "mungathe ..." ndi "Ndikufuna ..." ndibwino kuti asiyeke chifukwa cha zovuta zochepa.
Monga momwe tikuonera, nthawi zambiri, chifukwa chosamvetsetsani ndizosiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi kuganiza. Choncho, pochita ndi mwamuna, nthawi zonse muyenera kuganizira mbali imeneyi. Ndipo mmalo modandaula za kusowa kwa chidwi kwa mwamuna wake, ingomuzani iye zachindunji, popanda zizindikiro.