Msungwana aliyense amadziwa za malamulo a khalidwe pa tebulo komanso pamalo a anthu onse, koma sikuti aliyense angaganize kuti pali chikhalidwe chogonana chachikazi. Koma malamulo a mau abwino ndi chiyanjano ndi ofunika kwambiri, makamaka ngati nthawi yoyamba ndi wokondedwa wanu. Kuchokera pachibwenzi choyamba chimadalira, pokhapo pamisonkhano yodzimana. Ndiye, ndithudi, iwe ukhoza kulenga chirichonse, nthawi zina ndibwino kuyesa ndikusiya zabwino.
Malamulo a chikhalidwe chogonana kwa amayi
- Khalani chinsinsi cha lero . Si chinsinsi chakuti anthu ngati kukhumba monga kukhala apainiya, kuwululira zinsinsi ndi kukhala okhawo a chinsinsi. Zinsinsi zamkazi zabwino zimakondweretsa kwambiri kwa iwo. Njirayi ndi yabwino kuti muyambe kucheza ndi anzanu atsopano, koma ngati simumasuka nawo, ndibwino kuganizira. Chidziwitso chachikazi sichimalephera, ndipo nthawi zambiri timaopa mantha pafupi ndi mnzathuyo, ubwenzi umene (ngakhale mwamsanga) udzabweretsa chokhumudwitsa chimodzi.
- Khalani muyeso wa kalembedwe ndi chosakongola . Atsikana ena amakhulupirira kuti poonetsa thupi lonse lamaliseche, amatsimikizira kuti apindula chidwi cha amuna. Zoonadi, kumutu kozama, sketi yaing'ono kapena kavalidwe kamene kamadulidwa kumbuyo, kutsegula pang'ono kumapeto kwa matako mosakayikira kudzakopeka, koma ndi kulakwa kwanu koipa. Kuti mukhale "mfumukazi ya mpira" kumbukirani maonekedwe anu, musankhe mayesero abwino pakubwezera momveka bwino. Mwachitsanzo, msuzi wa pensulo amawonetsera mophiphiritsira mazenera a akazi, kapena siketi yomwe ili ndi chidutswa chimene nthawi zina nsalu imakhala ikuwalira, zimangokhala zovuta kwambiri kuposa siketi yaing'ono yomwe ikufanana ndi lamba lonse.
- Chinthu chachikulu ndicho chitetezo . Mungathe kunena momwe mumakonda kuti makondomu amakulepheretsani kupeza chimwemwe chenicheni, koma simungakhulupirire choyamba kuti muthetse chitetezo? Musanayambe kuchitapo kanthu, nthawiyo iyenera kudutsa, onse okwatirana ayenera kutsimikiziridwa kuti ndi odalirika. Choncho, ndibwino kukambirana za chitetezo pasanafike, m'malo mochotsa ma kondomu mwa mwamuna yemwe, atatentha kwambiri, akhoza kuiwala zonse.
- Chovala chapamwamba . Mkazi aliyense ndi wa zovala izi ndi chisamaliro chapadera, kotero kuti pamsonkhano wapamtima musankhe kanyumba kamene mumakonda. Iye adzakupatsani inu chidaliro kuti akuwonjezera mfundo zingapo za kugonana kwa mkaziyo. Gwiritsitsani nthawi yoyamba kuchokera ku chinthu chomwe chimakhumudwitsa-zonyansa, osati munthu aliyense akhoza kuvomereza izi. Ngati akufuna kukuwonani ndi zovala zamkati ndi zikopa, ndiye akukuuzani zazomwezo.
- Nthawi zina chete chete ndi golidi . Tonse timadziwa kuti pakapita maulendo apamtima, makamaka ngati ali oyamba, ndi bwino kunena za zomwe mumafuna kuti asakhumudwitse. Koma nthawi zina ndi bwino kusunga lirime lanu losayenerera. Mwachitsanzo, panthawi ya mavuto ndi wokondedwa wanu kapena wokondedwa wanu. Pachiyambi choyamba, musamangamize kapena kumvetserana chifundo, ndibwino kuti mutengepo kanthu ndikuyesera kumuthandiza. Ndipo ngati sakukhutira, pali chisankho chofuna kupempha mosalekeza kupitiriza kapena maso ake kuti adzikhutire yekha, munthu wamba sakhala wosayanjana ndi zochitika izi.
- "Wokondedwa, ndiwe woyamba wanga, woposa awiri . " Funso la chidziwitso cha kugonana chidzakwera, koma ngati mndandanda wa okondedwa wanu watha kale kuposa khumi, kodi ndi bwino kuyankhulapo? Amuna ena anali, koma ali ndi mwayi wokhala wopambana, ndizo zonse zomwe ayenera kudziwa.
- Kodi ndizoyenera kuti muwonetsere zowonongeka? . Kuwona mtima muubwenzi mosakayikitsa n'kofunika kwambiri, koma mu magawo oyambirira n'zotheka kudziyerekezera kuti zonse ndi zabwino kwambiri. Ndipo ndithudi, simungakhoze kubisala zosangalatsa zanu pa kugonana, onetsetsani kuti mukuwonetsa ndikukambirana za chisangalalo chomwe mwakumana nacho.
- Kugonana kungakhale kosautsa ngati musayese chinthu chatsopano . Pitirizani kuvomereza mnzanuyo, musachite mantha kuyesa, chifukwa ngati muli chinachake
komabe simunayesedwe, sizikutanthawuza kuti simungakwanitse kulandira zokondweretsa kugonana. Koma izi sizikukhudzana ndi milandu yomwe mnzanuyo akupereka chinachake chosakondweretsa kapena chosavomerezeka kwa inu. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kulankhula popanda mantha.
Ndipo pomaliza - khalani anzeru. Amayi ambiri amakonda "kuyesa" anthu angapo ofuna sabata imodzi, ndiye kuti azikonda kwambiri. Ngati zili choncho ndi inu, sungani pakamwa panu, ngakhale ndi abwenzi anu, ndipo ndithudi mwamuna sayenera kudziwa kuti pali wina kupatulapo iye.