Chikondi chimangobweretsa chisangalalo chenicheni pamene chimagwirizana. Ngati mkazi akumva okondedwa, adzasangalala komanso azisangalatsa anthu. Komabe, sikuli kosavuta kumvetsa ngati kugwirizana kumagwirizana. Nthawi zina kukayikira kuti chikondi ndi chiyanjano chingabwere chifukwa chakuti malingaliro asintha pang'ono chifukwa cha kutalika kwa chiyanjano . Nthawi zina, wokondedwayo sangathe kulankhula za momwe amamvera mumtima mwawo. Ngakhale kusintha kochepa mu ubale kungayambitse funsolo, kumvetsetsa kuti mumasowa munthu. Pofuna kuthetsa nkhaniyi, muyenera kumvetsera zinthu zosiyanasiyana pa khalidwe ndi maganizo anu kwa inu ndi banja lanu.
Kodi mumadziwa bwanji ngati mukufuna munthu?
Ngati mumakayikira kuti munthu wokondedwa wanu amamverera bwino, samutseni mmene amachitira zinthu zinazake. Amakukondani ngati:
- Ndikofunika kuti adziwe maganizo anu pazinthu zosiyanasiyana, akufunsani nanu ndikupanga zosankha ndi thandizo lanu;
- iye ali wokonzeka kuchita zomwe inu mukuzikonda, ngakhale ngati iye sakugwirizana kuti nkofunikira kuti achite zimenezo;
- Akuyesera kukuchitirani zinthu zabwino: amapereka mphatso, akukumbatira, zothandizira ndi ntchito zapakhomo;
- mwamuna akufuna kuti azikhala ndi nthawi yake yaulere ndi inu;
- Iye amayesera kukudziwani inu ndi abwenzi ake ndipo amalankhula za inu pamaso pawo mwachikondi ndi ulemu;
- wokondedwa amakonda kulankhula ndi achibale anu zosangalatsa, kuyesera kuti azikhala bwino ndi iwo;
- mu nthawi zovuta mwamuna wokondedwa adzayesera kukuthandizani, ngakhale kuti inuyo nokha muli ndi vuto la vutoli.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mukufuna mwamuna wokwatira?
Mwamuna wokwatiwa amasonyeza maganizo ake mosiyana kwambiri ndi mwamuna. Chifukwa cha zinthu, sangakhale womasuka komanso wosasamala monga mwamuna wopanda banja . Ngati amakukondani, osati kungokugwiritsani ntchito zosangalatsa, ndiye kuti muzindikiranso khalidwe lake:
- iye adzawerengera ndi ndondomeko ya moyo wanu ndi malingaliro anu;
- saganizira nkhani zokhudzana ndi nthawi yomwe amatha kusudzulana kapena chifukwa chake sangachite, koma amatha kufotokozera zomwe zilipo ndipo amachitira mwaulemu zomwe mukuchita;
- Mwamuna wokwatirana mwachikondi adzayesera kupanga zozizwitsa zosangalatsa zomwe mumakonda.
Poganizira za momwe mungamvetsetse ngati mukufunikira mwamuna wokwatira, muyenera kuganizira za khalidwe limene angakufunire. Mwinamwake ndinu mbuye wake, ndipo mwinamwake akusowa inu, monga bwenzi labwino. Pachifukwa ichi, kumvetsa kwanu ndi kumvetsetsa kwa amuna anu sikungagwirizanitse.