Masiku ano, anthu okhala mumidzi yayikulu, anthu omwe akugwira ntchito mwakhama, akuganiza mozama za maubwenzi osiyanasiyana, monga maukwati a alendo. Koma kodi ukwati wa alendo ndi chiyani?
Ikutchedwanso kuti kunja kwadziko, ndiko kuti, okwatirana amakhala m'madera osiyanasiyana, kukumana pa chikhumbo chofanana. N'zotheka kukhala ndi malo ogona, maholide, osati nthawi yaitali, koma nthawi imodzimodziwo maanja sagwira banja limodzi. Nthawi zina, okwatirana amakhala omasuka kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake ndi maudindo a banja, koma mosiyana ndi ubale waulere, ukwati wa alendo umatanthawuza kukhulupirika kwa maphwando, ndipo pali timapepala pasipoti.
Mbali za moyo muukwati wa alendo
Mkwatibwi wa amithenga nthawi zambiri pamene mwamuna ndi mkazi wamtsogolo ndi anthu omwe ali bwino komanso odziimira ndipo safuna kutaya ufulu wawo. Kuphatikizanso apo, omvera a maukwati omwe amachitira alendo amakhulupirira kuti kukakhala kwa nthawi yayitali kumapha chisoni ndi chikondi, ndipo okondedwa sagonjerana ndi kuyamizana kwathunthu. Zonsezi m'banja lachilendo zikhoza kupewedwa - okwatirana amawonedwa ndi chikhumbo chawo komanso mavuto awo tsiku ndi tsiku samasamala. Kodi phindu la kukhala ndi banja la alendo ndi chiyani?
- palibe chizoloŵezi cha tsiku ndi tsiku;
- Palibe amene amalepheretsa munthu pa nthawi yopuma, pali malo ambirimbiri a ufulu ndi nthawi;
- palibe ndipo simungathe kulamulira "munali kuti", "bwanji mudakhala motalika kwambiri ndi anzanu" ndi zina zotero;
- palibe chifukwa choyenera kusamalira munthu wina, kuti azitsatira zizolowezi zake;
- Kupanda chidziwitso cha trivia zapakhomo kumapangitsa okondedwa omwe nthawizonse amafunirana wina ndi mzake, ndipo kugonana sikofunikira kwenikweni.
Maubwenzi a alendo ndi omwe amasankhidwa ndi anthu opanga zinthu, omwe amafunikira malo omasuka, monga mpweya, kapena omwe akuyenda nthawi zonse. Kwa anthu ena onse, ukwati wa alendo ungasanduke zovuta zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, maubwenzi oterewa ndi otheka kokha ngati mzimayi ndi mlongo ndi anthu olemera, omwe alibe mavuto m'deramo. Ndipotu, banja la alendo likhoza kugwa pang'onopang'ono pang'onong'ono kokha pazochitika zachuma za mmodzi wa anthu omwe ali nawo. Komanso, sangathe kupirira matenda kapena kuwonongeka kwa khalidwe la kugonana. Muukwati wa alendo omwe ali ndi maudindo apadera, okondedwa alibe wina kutsogolo kwa wina ndi mnzake, ndipo ngati wina asiya kukonza chinachake, ubale umathera popanda kukambirana kosayenera.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo samaganiza kuti ukwati umenewu ndi wovuta - ambiri a iwo amachititsa kuti chiyanjano chikhale chonchi. Chifukwa mabanja oterewa amangokhala moyo wa banja, osayesetsa kudzipereka kwa munthu wina. Motero, banja limalowetsedwa ndi munthu wophunzira. Koma pali lingaliro lakuti maukwati a alendo ali ndi ufulu wokhalapo, komabe, kanthawi chabe. Ndipotu, ngati munthu sangalole kuti wina alowe m'gawo lake, zikutanthauza kuti akuyang'ana bwino, mwinamwake njira yabwino kwambiri. Komabe, sizingakanidwe kuti maukwati a alendo, pamene cholinga chawo chimalimbikitsa kuti apitirize kulimbikitsana, koma akhoza kukhala ndi nthawi zovuta, makamaka ngati banjali likuganiza za ana.
Ana muukwati wa alendo
Banja la amwendwe silimaphatikizapo maonekedwe a ana, koma kubadwa kwawo kawirikawiri kumakonzedweratu ndi awiriwa. Amaukitsa ana kapena munthu yemwe ali ndi zoyamba za mawonekedwe awo, kapena awiriwo agawana maudindo, ngakhale poyamba amayi adzasamalira mwanayo. Koma nthawi zambiri kulera kumagwera pamapewa a amayi, abambo amagwira nawo mbali pakati pa moyo wa ana - mtundu wa abambo a tsikulo.
Mabanja a alendo, ndithudi, ali ndi ubwino wawo, koma zikuwoneka kuti sangathe kubwezeretsa banja lathunthu - mukufuna kuwona munthu wokondedwa wanu tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi mukhoza kupereka chitonthozo chaumwini.