Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti chithumwacho chingapezeke mwa kudzigwira nokha, popeza zimadalira kwambiri khalidwe lanu, maganizo anu pa moyo, maganizo anu pa zomwe zikuchitika. Ngati mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi funso la momwe mungakhalire msungwana wokongola, dziwone nokha ngati kunja.
Ngati nthawi zonse simukukondwera ndi ntchito, malo anu, pamapeto, nyengo; ngati dziko lanu lalikulu liri losakhutira ndi aliyense ndi chirichonse, palibe aliyense angakupezeni okongola. Musati mujambula mkazi, ndipo mochuluka kwambiri-msungwana wamng'ono, mwamwano, mokweza kwambiri pochititsa kuseka kapena kukambirana. Inde, palibe kukayikira kuti mudzasamalidwa, koma zidzakhala mtundu wanji - dzifunseni nokha.
Anthu ena amaganiza kuti mtsikana wokongola ndi wokongola kwambiri. Osati konse, komanso kawirikawiri, kukongoletsera koteroko sikupindula ndi kukongola kozizira, amene amakomera mtima wake paziwonetsero, koma msungwana wowoneka bwino, koma amamukopa ndi kutseguka kwake, chikhalidwe chokoma, malingaliro apamwamba, luso lomvetsera. Kawirikawiri amanena za izi: "mmenemo - nyanja yamtengo wapatali!"
Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wokongola komanso wachikondi?
Koma ngati mukufuna kuphunzira kukhala okongola ndi okongola kwa amuna, dzifufuzeni nokha ndikuyamba kugwira ntchito:
- Gwiritsani ntchito maonekedwe anu: muyenera kuphunzira kuyang'ana zokongola komanso zokongola, koma osati zowala - zovala zowala kwambiri kapena zovunda ndipo zofananazo sizidzakulolani kuti muzindikire moyo wanu, ndipo ambiri adzangomusiya;
- Pitani ku salon - lolani akatswiri akuthandizeni kusankha chisamaliro chomwe chidzabise zolephera (ngati zilipo) ndipo zidzatsindika ulemu wanu. Koma ngakhale simukufuna kusintha, tsitsi lanu liyenera kukhala lokonzeka bwino ndi loyera;
- tcherani chidwi chanu, njira yolankhulana - izi ndi zofunika.
Komabe, kusintha kwina sikunali konse. Akazi okongola, monga lamulo, ali okondweretsa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti aliyense wa iwo ali ndi zake zokha, zosiyana, ndipo ndi "zest" izi zomwe zimapangitsa izo kukhala choncho.
Kuti mukhale wokondweretsa, mumayenera kuphunzira kukhala wodzidalira, osati kunja kokha, komanso mkati. Anthu achikatolika, monga lamulo, ali ndi mfundo yapadera yomwe imawasiyanitsa ndi ena:
- iwo ali ndi malingaliro ochuluka, amadziwa ndi kudziwa zambiri, ndi kugawana chidziwitso chawo mwachisangalalo;
- iwo amakhulupirira molimba, nthawi zambiri amakhala atsogoleri ndi "moyo wa kampani";
- iwo amadziwika ndi moyo wokhala ndi chiyembekezo ndi cholinga. Pa nthawi yomweyi, iwo sapanga maganizo awo, nthawi zambiri amakhala okongola komanso osamala.